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ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 18:30

We’ve bought a house and moved in 5 months ago , few months before we moved in a house next door went on the market and was sold to a property developer. Turns out that the area we moved to is being saturated with HMO housing which we didn’t know about before. So now house next door is being extended and turned into one of those . I feel literally sick to my stomach , can’t function, crying most of the time and don’t know what to do , we are unable to oppose this as this council has not implemented an article 4 which gives you a right to do so.
Talking about it makes me feel sick as I’ve imagined this as our home at least for the next 10 years or more , was any of you in similar situation?

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myrtleWilson · 23/08/2025 19:29

arf at the govt putting 'a shout out'

ilovesooty · 23/08/2025 19:29

Sparklybutold · 23/08/2025 19:25

@ThisOliveBiscuiti think people are being purposefully obtuse with why you would be fearful. There is an issue with massive immigration, with many being illegal, and the government has recently put a shout out to try and find thousands of houses for them. With the majority of these immigrants being young men from countries with different values - I wouldn't like it either.

In a previous house, my neighbours lived in a HMO - Early one morning they were raided. The man and his partner who lived there went down for modern day slavery. Those who lived there were a nuisance - from buying animals from the local pet shop to slaughter and eat, pissing in the garden, oggling our au pair, overflowing bins, the list goes on.

I get that youre not talking about young professionals, students, etc, but about groups of men from different countries who are a threat to women and girls.

Honestly, the posters trying to trap you, I can guarantee would not want these type of men living next door to them. You have every right to feel sad and worried. If other neighbours feel the same (I bet most do), could you write a joint letter to council? If there's already a problem on your street, maybe the press?

And here we go.
Perhaps the OP should have said she suspected them of being asylum seekers in the first place. It was seemingly where this was going and the predictable responses will be on their way to add to your post.

Allisnotlost1 · 23/08/2025 19:26

Crazycatladywithnocats · 23/08/2025 19:20

The examples you’ve outlined make you sound like a good neighbour. Let’s hope the OP has the same good fortune with the tenants when they take up the latest HMO that she’s referred to.

And let’s hope the HMO tenants have the same. It would probably be quite unsettling to live next door to a woman who was always crying and, by her own admission, ‘couldn’t function.

Sparklybutold · 23/08/2025 19:25

@ThisOliveBiscuiti think people are being purposefully obtuse with why you would be fearful. There is an issue with massive immigration, with many being illegal, and the government has recently put a shout out to try and find thousands of houses for them. With the majority of these immigrants being young men from countries with different values - I wouldn't like it either.

In a previous house, my neighbours lived in a HMO - Early one morning they were raided. The man and his partner who lived there went down for modern day slavery. Those who lived there were a nuisance - from buying animals from the local pet shop to slaughter and eat, pissing in the garden, oggling our au pair, overflowing bins, the list goes on.

I get that youre not talking about young professionals, students, etc, but about groups of men from different countries who are a threat to women and girls.

Honestly, the posters trying to trap you, I can guarantee would not want these type of men living next door to them. You have every right to feel sad and worried. If other neighbours feel the same (I bet most do), could you write a joint letter to council? If there's already a problem on your street, maybe the press?

KawasakiBabe · 23/08/2025 19:25

DH and I don’t currently live together, long story. He is in a hmo, in the time he’s been there, there’s been a doctor, a solicitor, a ceo, a project manager, a man who does telesales from home who is the nosiest because he slams the bathroom door after midnight shocker!!

TheFormidableMrsC · 23/08/2025 19:24

I think you’re being ridiculously dramatic with the “can’t function and crying all the time”. The HMO’s where I live are largely filled with medical staff from our local hospital or young professionals. People have to live somewhere.

Allisnotlost1 · 23/08/2025 19:24

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:18

@Allisnotlost1 thank you for your comment, not this is not a wind up . Imagine living next door to 6 or 7 males , could be ex convicts or drug addicts all under one roof .

I’m not scared of people who’ve had different lives and experiences to me, and I don’t check the criminal record/substance use of any of my neighbours now, so I’d be good.

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:23

@dizzydizzydizzy thank you for your reassuring comment , I’m not judging anyone I’ve lived myself in different areas all over London

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IThinkPink · 23/08/2025 19:22

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:18

@Allisnotlost1 thank you for your comment, not this is not a wind up . Imagine living next door to 6 or 7 males , could be ex convicts or drug addicts all under one roof .

Imagine being so judgey!

men have got to live somewhere….where would you prefer ‘ex convicts’ to live? They are re starting their lives and deserve that chance

Crazycatladywithnocats · 23/08/2025 19:20

ShesTheAlbatross · 23/08/2025 19:04

I’ve lived in two HMOs.

One had 9 people, at one point I was the only woman. A couple of the men (who were a couple) had lived in the house for a few years. We were very quiet. You’re right, we didn’t get to know the neighbours. But we really didn’t disturb them either.

The second one I was in was 4 women while I was there. We had more parties because we socialised as a group (which didn’t happen at all in the larger house) but we were very reasonable and we didn’t disturb the neighbours there either.

If someone moved out, we were always just as keen for the new person to be quiet and reasonable as any neighbour would be.

Everyone in both these houses were young professionals saving up to buy, or waiting to earn enough to rent somewhere of their own. We weren’t actively “neighbourly”, but we weren’t bad neighbours either.

The examples you’ve outlined make you sound like a good neighbour. Let’s hope the OP has the same good fortune with the tenants when they take up the latest HMO that she’s referred to.

dizzydizzydizzy · 23/08/2025 19:20

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 18:46

@Shitpeas worried about the type of people who would be living there which could be anyone : from ex convicts etc

You can get bad people anywhere. Friend used to live in the Barbican - one of his neighbours was raided my police looking for drugs.

I used to live in a nice expensive semi-rural area. It turned out the house behind us was a cannabis farm. Somebody who I knew in the next road was arrested for drug dealing.

As it happens, I now live in an HMO. I have made some great friends here of all different ages - an older man who is very kind to every one used to be a printer , a young woman who has just started her career as a vet, an older woman who has a brilliant sense of humour and always makes me laugh. We have lots of nurses living here, a paramedic and a few business types and a lovely young media studies teacher. It's very quiet here. Everyone is respectful and from all different walks of life and several different countries.

InMyShowgirlEra · 23/08/2025 19:19

So your objection is that they are poor, might be male, and might look "rough"?

You sound like an insufferable snob.

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:18

@Allisnotlost1 thank you for your comment, not this is not a wind up . Imagine living next door to 6 or 7 males , could be ex convicts or drug addicts all under one roof .

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myrtleWilson · 23/08/2025 19:17

But you specifically mentioned the house next door when referencing the 'rough' looking men in your 2nd post, not the house down the road. Here, I'll quote your post for you

Unfortunately this is not the case , hose next door for example 6 men they drink and smoke god knows what outside they generally look really rough

VickyEadieofThigh · 23/08/2025 19:17

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:15

@VickyEadieofThigh there is another house few doors down which is hmo , house next door is being extended just now

Is there, aye?

I'm afraid you shot your credibility with that rookie error of inconsistency.

Allisnotlost1 · 23/08/2025 19:15

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 18:30

We’ve bought a house and moved in 5 months ago , few months before we moved in a house next door went on the market and was sold to a property developer. Turns out that the area we moved to is being saturated with HMO housing which we didn’t know about before. So now house next door is being extended and turned into one of those . I feel literally sick to my stomach , can’t function, crying most of the time and don’t know what to do , we are unable to oppose this as this council has not implemented an article 4 which gives you a right to do so.
Talking about it makes me feel sick as I’ve imagined this as our home at least for the next 10 years or more , was any of you in similar situation?

This must be a wind up? Imagine non-stop crying because some people you don’t know are moving in next door. You’ve no idea if this will be a problem, don’t seem to really understand what an HMO is apparently have such little life experience that people who look ‘rough’ are scary to you.

I feel a bit sorry for whoever has to live next door to you, curtain twitching and judging their every move.

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:15

@VickyEadieofThigh there is another house few doors down which is hmo , house next door is being extended just now

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ilovesooty · 23/08/2025 19:14

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:10

@ilovesooty I wouldn’t be surprised

Yeah. I bet you wouldn't.

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:13

@Theunamedcat thank you for your comment this is what I need to hear from people, we’re are worried about who is going to live there as people come and go so I think is natural to worry

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VickyEadieofThigh · 23/08/2025 19:13

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 18:38

@doubleshift i would be more than happy if it was rented to young professionals or students that would be a dream ! Unfortunately this is not the case , hose next door for example 6 men they drink and smoke god knows what outside they generally look really rough

You said earlier it's currently being developed - how are they already living there?

Bambamhoohoo · 23/08/2025 19:12

ilovesooty · 23/08/2025 19:08

Are we going to be told that the tenants are asylum seekers?

That’s where they’ll be when they’re “successfully” driven out of “hotels”

what a win for those protestors

myrtleWilson · 23/08/2025 19:11

@ilovesooty the 'etc' and the '....' certainly seem to be leading us somewhere don't they? First time poster, posting on weekend of well publicised asylum hotel protests and counter protests.

ThisOliveBiscuit · 23/08/2025 19:10

@ilovesooty I wouldn’t be surprised

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Theunamedcat · 23/08/2025 19:10

Dd lives in a HMO they are hard working tenants yes they come and go at all hours but they work odd shift patterns dd works lates chap upstairs is early her neighbour is 9/5 but dd never really hears them so I'm assuming the neighbours dont either

ilovesooty · 23/08/2025 19:08

Are we going to be told that the tenants are asylum seekers?

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