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£800 pm on groceries for a family

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popsickle555 · 23/08/2025 17:13

recently had a conversation with my DM (lighthearted) but I explained our weekly shop is now around £200 for a family of 2 adults and two teenage children during summer school holidays. She said she thought me ‘overspending’.

Anyway here’s what we spend:

£150 ish weekly shop (has to be weekly during the holidays as they eat so much)
£50 on top up shops fruit and veg and occasional extras eg wash powder and such things. This also includes cat food (1 cat on cheap food).

this includes lunches for me and DH (wfh) and also packed lunch stuff for DC’s who have been on a drama camp.

AIBU to think it’s actually quite hard to eat reasonably well (I do cook most days and I am buying decent ish ingredients but also plenty of ‘basic’ range options) for less than this sort of price now for 4 full portion people eating 3 meals a day? We hardly ever eat out unless on holiday.

For reference my DM hardly eats a lot now she’s older and when she does it’s really simple and generally quite boring stuff eg omelette, jacket potato etc. My DH and DCs needs more protein than that as are all very active.

I just came away feeling like I’m wasting money but genuinely can’t see how I can do it for much less without really scrimping on ingredients and protein.

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Imperativvv · 24/08/2025 10:40

Tinned mackerel is lovely on toast. If you like a bit of spice, I first stir fry with tomatoes and any kind of chilli sauce.

OhNoNotSusan · 24/08/2025 10:33

XVGN · 24/08/2025 09:56

Focus on tinned sardines, mackerel and tuna for half/two-thirds of your fish. It'll cut your bills!

i do buy smoked mackerel, but i could try tinned mackerel

Dr13Hadley · 24/08/2025 10:19

We are the same. Two adults and 9 and 12 yo boys.

childofthe607080s · 24/08/2025 10:14

in the middle - growing teens need feeding and older people do need less

but your attitude to cheap dinners - jackets and omelettes means you know you could reduce a little. It’s only in the last 30 or so years that the majority have had the option of exciting food every day

and there is a strong protein myth at the moment probably financed somewhere by the meat industry - no one needs more than 80g ( yes 80g) ( even the men ) of meat a day. You will get extra protein from all sorts of food - including bread. Protein is not the element lacking in most diets

if you had complained about the need for more fruit and veg to get the minerals and fibre up - that’s what the medical professions see as missing - yes it is harder to do that cheaply - I was fortunate to grow up a while back when fruit and veg meant apples oranges carrots and cabbage and onion so I find the current variety good and I can retreat to those basics to keep costs down

GleisZwei · 24/08/2025 10:10

cumbriaisbest · 24/08/2025 10:07

That is my point, I don't want brown mush. I want texture, taste, fish and glorious market fresh veg.

Mince based dishes aren't 'brown mush', if you cook them properly and season well.

NuovaPilbeam · 24/08/2025 10:09

1lb of mince is absolutely enough for a family chili or bolognese etc. And i am not in mumsnet massive salad camp, i eat loads (bmi 24) and have a DS who eats everything not pinned down.

cumbriaisbest · 24/08/2025 10:09

Cyclingmummy1 · 24/08/2025 09:58

6 sausages in about 400g so 1 sausage = 65g ish. I do 2 each = 130g.

500g of mince does 6 portions of spag or chilli for us. I throw in a handful of lentils or grated leftover veg (half a squash, the last courgette, etc). DH doesn't like very meaty mince dishes so it's not a problem. He'd rather have an extra tin of beans.

Thanks, I had some sausages yesterday which were off. Whole house stank, think Ill go pescatarian.

cumbriaisbest · 24/08/2025 10:07

OhNoNotSusan · 24/08/2025 09:54

i read that 70g of meat is ample
so i have been going with that measurement for 20 years
currently gone back to pescatarianism, well for the last 3 weeks ha, fish is expensive!

That is my point, I don't want brown mush. I want texture, taste, fish and glorious market fresh veg.

NuovaPilbeam · 24/08/2025 10:07

Btw im not going to upload my Cheap Week list on here. Because ive done it before and immediately got the usual responses "oh my DC won't eat porridge", "its not enough protein we need 1lb a day each of meat because DH is weightlifting", "my DC only eat berries and won't touch apples, bananas etc" or "there aren't enough snacks my 14 year old needs to eat 3 peoples worth of food every single day"

Its not an exciting shopping list. But its cheap.

Cyclingmummy1 · 24/08/2025 09:58

cumbriaisbest · 24/08/2025 09:08

100 g of meat....is that a sausage each? Sorry I have to convert back to Imperial....500 g is a lb. So a lb of mince say for a family bolognaise? Bulked out with veg and lentils.

I do all this bulking out and adding and economising but it's tedious and repetative.

6 sausages in about 400g so 1 sausage = 65g ish. I do 2 each = 130g.

500g of mince does 6 portions of spag or chilli for us. I throw in a handful of lentils or grated leftover veg (half a squash, the last courgette, etc). DH doesn't like very meaty mince dishes so it's not a problem. He'd rather have an extra tin of beans.

XVGN · 24/08/2025 09:56

OhNoNotSusan · 24/08/2025 09:54

i read that 70g of meat is ample
so i have been going with that measurement for 20 years
currently gone back to pescatarianism, well for the last 3 weeks ha, fish is expensive!

Focus on tinned sardines, mackerel and tuna for half/two-thirds of your fish. It'll cut your bills!

Spies · 24/08/2025 09:55

Duechristmas · 24/08/2025 09:52

Two adults, a teen and a 21 year old

Right in which case I apologise but your post made it sound like you were buying for only 3 people hence my confusion and asking for clarity.

If you're really shopping for what are effectively 4 adults including household bits for only £30 per person a week then I'm sure many on here would be very appreciative of you sharing some of how you achieve this.

Yoonimum · 24/08/2025 09:54

@Chickenbone123
Your planning is impressive! To the extent it makes me feel exhausted but I know that is a bit pathetic and indicates I have the privilege of not needing to to do this. Well done!

OhNoNotSusan · 24/08/2025 09:54

i read that 70g of meat is ample
so i have been going with that measurement for 20 years
currently gone back to pescatarianism, well for the last 3 weeks ha, fish is expensive!

NamechangeNightNurse · 24/08/2025 09:54

Produce is susceptible to extreme weather

Floods
Fires
Extremes of heat/ cold

The citrus crop earlier in the year was heavily affected by the floods in and around Valencia for example
Ditto Olives/oil -we are still seeing high prices
I don't think people realise just how much of a knife edge we live on in the UK
We are so used to buying what we like when we like .
It pays to be flexible about your diet ( ND aside) and try to eat seasonally/ locally.

NuovaPilbeam · 24/08/2025 09:53

Oh and i literally do not ever do a "top up" shop because i don't have time around work/kids. We get 1 shop delivered per week and it covers everything (loo rolls & toiletries, toothpaste, cleaning products etc). Its normally £150 (family of four) because we buy extra treats etc but if i had to do it for £100 a week i could. It would be a bit dull/repetitive yes, and DH and I'd have to work harder on the cooking. The main thing that would go would be snacks and any junk food at all.

Duechristmas · 24/08/2025 09:52

Spies · 24/08/2025 09:38

My maths isn't off unless yours is also for 4 people. You mentioned 3 people in your post? Spending £40 per person? If you're spending that on 4 people then that is indeed cheap but your post implies your only spending for 3?

Hence me wondering how comparatively the OP spending just £10 per person more was considered steep?

Two adults, a teen and a 21 year old

OhNoNotSusan · 24/08/2025 09:52

@doodleschnoodle
i have a spread sheet, so everything is accounted for

cumbriaisbest · 24/08/2025 09:51

Ah yes, good old value mince.

NuovaPilbeam · 24/08/2025 09:49

I make a spaghetti bolognese with 1kg of meat. I don't bulk it out with lentils but i do add tinned tomatoes, carrots, celery, onion and one of the small containers of pancetta.

It makes 10-12 portions. We are big eaters - DH and DS do a lot of sport. 100g of meat per person is enough, people forget there is protein in lots of other things.

It doesn't mean eating loads of white carbs to bulk out, veg is better. We try and do lots of filling root veg.

Buying seasonal stuff is usually cheaper and not buying pre cut tropical fruit saves too.

Typicalwave · 24/08/2025 09:41

Miriabelle · 24/08/2025 01:23

Agree and veg and fruit prices have risen because of our hot weather

Don’t make me laugh. It really is embarrassing now to listen to this Faragist nonsense. Why would fruit and veg prices rise because of the hot weather? It would logically be the opposite - since many U.K. fruit and veg crops have been much better this year because of the weather, prices should go down. Not up!

Still, it’s been a blast revisiting the absolute bilge about red tape and “securing our borders” Brexiters used to come out with, and presumably will carry on doing, no matter how none of the supposed Brexit benefits ever arrive.

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Erm, none of these crops appreciated a warmer dryer summer than usual.

potatoes, onions, carrots, lettuce, broccoli, cauliflower, cabbage, peas, broad beans, and maize

Its not looking good either for anyone who relies on hay to feed their animals in winter time.

Spies · 24/08/2025 09:38

Duechristmas · 24/08/2025 09:32

It's your maths that's off, mine is £80/week less 🤷

My maths isn't off unless yours is also for 4 people. You mentioned 3 people in your post? Spending £40 per person? If you're spending that on 4 people then that is indeed cheap but your post implies your only spending for 3?

Hence me wondering how comparatively the OP spending just £10 per person more was considered steep?

doodleschnoodle · 24/08/2025 09:38

No one ever shares receipts on these threads.

I don’t think they are being purposefully misleading but I do think some people round down and exaggerate what they get for the money without realising, then they don’t have the receipts (in every sense of the word) to actually back it up so just disappear, So ‘I got a week’s shopping for £60 for four, all fresh, lots of decent meat and cooked from scratch’ is sometimes more like ‘here is a cherry-picked week we used a bunch of freezer and cupboard stuff we already had, we were out/somewhere else for dinner two nights and did beans on toast another night, didn’t include lunches and we topped up twice at the local shop during the week’.

I don’t think a lot of people actually realise how much they spend really until you sit down and log it week to week. Popping into the local shop for ‘milk and bread’ top-ups can often end up in £20-30.

NuovaPilbeam · 24/08/2025 09:38

when she does it’s really simple and generally quite boring stuff eg omelette, jacket potato etc. My DH and DCs needs more protein than that as are all very active.

The vast majority of people in the west eat more protein than they need.

I do think older people forget how much younger people eat and lose touch with costs. But i think you could do it for less if you had to. I have a "basket" saved that is my Cheap Week shop. I can do it from sainsburys for under £100. It includes fresh veg and fruit, and meat several days a week. Lunches are pretty boring - sandwiches with things like cheese, ham, egg. The only "treats" are things you bake, there's no crisps/junk food, sweets, or fizzy drinks. You have to treat it like a challenge.

Typicalwave · 24/08/2025 09:33

knitnerd90 · 24/08/2025 07:49

Hot, dry weather can improve quality but decrease yield for some fruit & veg. Or they may have to use irrigation which increases costs.

AIUI All over Europe labor shortages and cost increases have affected produce prices.

The UK is generally considered to have one of the most competitive supermarket sectors. Without that, prices would be even higher.

US, Canada, Australia have distance to factor in. Yes, wages are higher, but food costs relative to income are going up. Canada and Australia also have less competitive supermarket sectors. the US is not as competitive as the UK but not as bad as Canada, where Loblaws has something like 60% market share in grocery. (Edit: BBC says 60% but another source says 30% and I don't know how they're calculating it so differently! It's definitely dominant: there's been protests. Also, there is no Aldi or Lidl in Canada.) Coles and Woolworths are often called a duopoly in Australia.

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USA has a far better coupon/offers sustem and their petrol and housing prices are much lower. I lived there for 6 years. My money deffo went further over there than ig ever has in the uk

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