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To confront DH over bingeing

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JaneEyre40 · 23/08/2025 15:31

No not alcohol, chocolate. I've found the remains of family sized chocolate bars that have been eaten in one sitting secretly by my DH, up to 2/3 a week. I wouldn't have a problem with this if it weren't in secret! He also complains about feeling unfit, wanting to get healthy but does nothing about it. Things are slightly stressful at home but not to the degree that you'd need a binge to ease it. Am I being unreasonable to bring it up and ask if he's ok? Not unreasonable being I do bring it up with him.

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JaneEyre40 · 23/08/2025 15:38

LittleYellowQueen · 23/08/2025 15:37

Well if it's a binge eating disorder what do you actually want him to do? I've got a binge eating disorder and it's not the kind of thing you can pop to the GP and get help with because it's not as easy as saying "just don't eat it" and that's all a GP has ever done for me.

I want to help him.

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MiloMinderbinder925 · 23/08/2025 15:37

JaneEyre40 · 23/08/2025 15:35

Good idea! The last thing I want him to feel is ashamed and I think he will.

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Lots of info here and a helpline:
https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk/

The UK's Eating Disorder Charity - Beat

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https://www.beateatingdisorders.org.uk

LittleYellowQueen · 23/08/2025 15:37

Well if it's a binge eating disorder what do you actually want him to do? I've got a binge eating disorder and it's not the kind of thing you can pop to the GP and get help with because it's not as easy as saying "just don't eat it" and that's all a GP has ever done for me.

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JaneEyre40 · 23/08/2025 15:37

MiloMinderbinder925 · 23/08/2025 15:34

I would have a think about what you're trying to achieve from the conversation and if there was a less direct way of helping.

But, when he complains about not working out and feeling out of shape constantly it's so hard to bite my tongue, he's actively hindering getting in shape or at least being as healthy as he says he wants to be.

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BeltaLodaLife · 23/08/2025 15:37

I’d just put the wrappers down in front of him when you’re both in the same room and ask what’s going on. There really is no nice way to do it, but I agree that it needs done. So bite the bullet, show him the wrappers and ask what’s is going on.

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JaneEyre40 · 23/08/2025 15:35

MiloMinderbinder925 · 23/08/2025 15:34

I would have a think about what you're trying to achieve from the conversation and if there was a less direct way of helping.

Good idea! The last thing I want him to feel is ashamed and I think he will.

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MiloMinderbinder925 · 23/08/2025 15:34

I would have a think about what you're trying to achieve from the conversation and if there was a less direct way of helping.

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JaneEyre40 · 23/08/2025 15:32

Bumping as I want to bring it up today.

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