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Tradesman calling me 'mate'

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Pluvia · 23/08/2025 14:40

I've been trying for the last few weeks to find someone to do garden clearance and some landscaping for me. Know it's a busy time of year for this trade but am happy to wait for the work to be done in October, if necessary.

In the past fortnight I've contacted seven different firms/ individuals. Called all of them, only one answered and wasn't interested. Followed all up with texts/ messages, left it a few days and tried again. I am polite and friendly.

Only one has contacted me and he's called me 'mate' throughout our conversations and messages, despite knowing my name. I am very clearly female. Doesn't seem to want me to know his name, which is a red flag, so I won't be using him. BUT is it usual these days, when tradespeople are communicating with a female client whose name they know, to call them mate? It feels really disrespectful. In the days, some years ago, when I worked for a big construction firm it wouldn't have been considered acceptable.

OP posts:
RightOnTheEdge · 23/08/2025 14:45

I wouldn't like that he didn't want me to know his name, I'd find that dodgy.
I really wouldn't care about him calling me mate.

Twistedfirestarters · 23/08/2025 14:45

Wouldn't even remotely bother me. Are you older, as in 60plus? I think that would be a bit of an odd way to address an older person.

sillysmiles · 23/08/2025 14:43

It wouldn't even occur to me to notice it.