Baby - MIL - XL Bully

So they have an extremely strong dog that they don’t bother to exercise….that’s not a recipe for disaster then!

stick to your guns and let your husband deal with all communication on the subject. He can tell your MIL she’s welcome when ever she likes to visit at yours you just won’t be risking going to hers.

Apart from your MIL, who are the people who are pushing back on your decision and blaming you rather than blaming both you and your husband? You are absolutely doing the right thing and I can't bear to think what the behaviour of an XL Bully who never gets any exercise will be like.

I'd probably report them to the RSPCA.

Goodness gracious, that’s even worse somehow.

I hate XL Bully type dogs. I think the people that want to own them are compensating for something else. But to not exercise the dog and take it out is cruel. A dog of that size not being mentally and physically exercised is a recipe for disaster.

if its a bulldog/ Staffy rotweiler any of the breeds known for significant and serious attacks (All hell is about to break loose, how dare you, I have had a vvbmvbiuytdoiudv all my life etc. etc. ) I would be there, dog locked out, and ME in control. After my comments expect a backlash but don't worry your ONLY responsibility is obvious. Regards. Greg

The dog isn’t taken out?!?! FFS what’s wrong with people!!! The dog isn’t exercised, mentally and socially stimulated, has no world outside of their own front door … honestly they shouldn’t be allowed to have a dog of any kind let alone an XL bully

Absolutely not, i wouldnt be at the house either with one of those dogs

So they have a large powerful dog that doesn't even get exercised?

So it's going to be full of pent-up energy?

They shouldn't be allowed to own animals

My point being that without the certificate she shouldn't even own one.

Obviously the OP shouldn't take her DC around there.

That's good to hear, OP. Just remember: the more they push back, the less safe that house is

Good on you. This post makes the situation slightly worse in my opinion. A dog that doesn’t go out will become bored. They simply cannot stimulate it enough and boredom in any animal is dangerous.

No way, not ever... a ticking time bomb as prev poster said.
I d be tempted to keep my distance from MIL wjo is so neglectful of safety and boundaries.

I wouldn’t go near one and I would assume they the owner was thick especially when spout “oh, but DangerousDog is just big softie” (but strong enough to kill everyone in the room).

yes - particularly considering the subject matter - a MIL with an XL bully - how to get people frothing with one thread title!

Noooo nope nope nope.

Thank fuck all you knowledgeable lot are here to state facts.

I witnessed an xl bully attack another dog last year when it accidentally escaped from its house. It was absolutely horrific, I was in shock for hours. I would not let my child anywhere near one, and would discourage adults from being around them too.

@Sausagescanfly its true, XL bully owners/ cheerleaders seem to think they are special and can see beyond the packaging to the beautiful dog inside whereas other shallow people can’t.

I would say she has to have the dogs muzzle on at all times when the children are visiting. She will already have a muzzle as it is a requirement for any class bully to be muzzled when out of the house anyway

Go with your gut. These dogs can be, and I’m not saying always, bred terribly by people who shouldn’t be breeding dogs. I’m sure some of them are genuinely lovely but they’re too dangerous when it goes wrong.

Why on earth your MIL decided out of the hundreds of dog breeds that she wanted to get one with an atrocious attack history when she has at least one grandchild beggars belief.

@toomanydicksonthedancefloor1 and @Sausagescanfly
Usernames are funny 😄

What does your DH think about you saying you will never visit his mother?

Not a chance would I be in the house and not a chance would any of my kids, whether it was locked in a room or not.

Indeed, or teenager, or adult!

I wouldn’t be going anywhere near that house or let my child go there at any age. No way. Dog lover here but no no no.

My mil had a collie cross who grabbed my toddlers arm out of nowhere (genuinely out of nowhere, dog lunges from sofa to grab him and only stopped a disaster because my 1 yr old was arms distance from me and the dog was arms distance from my bil who is 6 foot 5 and strong. Dog still got teeth on him. We never went to their house with my son again because they refused to close the dog away and he was really scared of my son (who was genuinely presenting no risk, we have a dog, he knows how to be with a dog, he wasn't even looking in the dogs direction) we couldn't risk him lunging again. The dog died last year and we visit again now. I don't think they believed we'd never visit again but they did realize after a year or 2. My son is 7.5 and we started going back just before he turned 7.