How do you forget how many drinks you have had on a night out?

You can’t stay with someone just because you have feelings for them, if they are doing terrible things.

So it would seem

So did he drive home drunk? Did he go to work at 7.30?

because it's not particularly interesting. Can you remember exactly how many glasses of water/cups of tea or coffee you had yesterday, or how many times you went to the toilet? Why should alcoholic drinks be more memorable? I'd say it's fairly normal not to remember the exact number after a night out drinking. You sound like an absolute nightmare badgering him for whether it was exactly 3 or 4.

He’s not though. Or he wouldnt vom all over the bathroom. OP has also said he’s on rum.

Well yes there’s no need to track soft drinks. If you lose track of soft drinks you don’t get alcohol poisoning or black out… stupid comparison and not the same at all.

In England the limit is 35mg per 100ml of breath. Obviously that’s hard to put down to a number as people are different - men process alcohol faster and generally have more blood for example.

But the range for humans getting to that amount would be around 1/2 a pint to 1.5 pints. It is well known, by almost all drinkers, that 3-4 pints (that’s around 8-12 units) is well well above the limit.

I was out the other night.
No idea how many I had. I didn't count. But I was not driving. I don't drink and drive. Just like most normal fully functioning adults.

Oh and if you are worried about how many drinks is over the limit, for most men it's somewhere between one and 2 pints of normal strength beer, depending on their size, and probably nearer one pint than 2. With shorts, 3 singles could put him over the limit.

He's not though, is he? 😂

Drink driving, drinking so much that he's sick not even in the toilet, this guy does have a drink problem.
Also, we all know that 3 or 4 drinks means 5+. If it's shorts, it could be 5 or 6 doubles.
I wouldn't bother waking him up for work, it'll be a thankless task. It's up to him to get himself up for work, or is he too drunk to operate an alarm?

I don’t drink alcohol. But I wouldn’t remember if I had 2/3/4 cokes on a night out. I tend to enjoy myself rather than keeping tabs.

Don't try to keep track of his drinks OP. It's pointless and you'll never know the truth anyway. Keep track of his behaviour. Last week he drunk himself sick and messed up the bathroom. This week you're worried he'll drink and drive. Once he starts drinking he can't stop for...reasons. He sounds like a problem I'd not want to live with.

YABU for being more concerned about him not remembering how many he has drank rather than the fact that he is driving whilst under the influence.

You really haven't found the prize here OP.

You know the limit , that’s rubbish and you could google if you didn’t!

Wait until he kills someone ends up in prison and then you maybe lose those feelings.

Tell him to get a taxi next time.

The only amount to drink if he's driving is none.
That more of an issue than whether it's three or four.
I'd never remember or keep track of how much I drank on a night out. But if I've driving I'd never start, I'd only have 0% beer or sparkling water

Based on your original post (not the drip feed drink driving issue)

I would not appreciate someone asking me how many I had after a night out. None of their business!!

Why didn’t you put the drink driving bit in your post? Is it because you made it up after the post wasn’t going your way?

He could be drinking alcohol free beer.

If I were you I'm be dumping him. Threw up over the bathroom, apparently tries to hide how much he's drinking instead of just saying like a normal adult, drives when he's had alcohol, you have to try to wake him up the next day as he has work?! Extremely unattractive, I think you can do better. Much better.

No need to feel overwhelmed. It’s a simple matter of right vs wrong.
(It’s also a matter of accuracy, as any GP would attest. As a rule, a declared 3 or 4 pints is in reality at least 6, so start from there and weigh up whether you’d ever sit in the passenger seat with this waster. Get rid now, before there’s a pregnancy to make you drop your main objections.)

You should have included this in the OP as this is the main issue - the fact he’s drink driving!! That is absolutely your business. I couldn’t be with someone who did this.

Really over 1 could be over the limit. You can get breathalysers for home which although not perfectly accurate can give you an idea if you’re still over in the morning. I don’t drive so don’t have to worry about this sort of thing but I know people use them a lot at Christmas when they have maybe drank more than they normally would the evening before.

After 4 I stop counting.

OP if he is coming home so drunk he is vomiting and can’t get up for work, you must know he is way over the limit whether you drink yourself or not.

It doesn’t really matter if he is getting in that state on one drink or twenty, he is obviously far too drunk to drive.