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To not want my neighbour attaching a gate to our wall

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 22/08/2025 21:21

We are rebuilding the garden wall between our properties. It's our wall.

The neighbours have a small garden gate attached to it. It's not a security gate. It was there before we moved in.

They keep drilling holes in the wall when their gate falls off. We've always known we'd eventually replace the wall so just ignored it but now we'll have a lovely horribly expensive new wall I dont want their rusty gate attached to it or the holes it will make. Our gate will be attached to it.

We are a terrace and they have a habit of assuming they can do things to our house eg they messed about with our guttering. I know they'll moan when we take the wall down because they wont have a gate and I know they'll just attach the gate to the new wall without asking.

We have a civil relationship but nothing more.

Am I being a bit daft? If not, how can we stop them attaching the gate?

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DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 22/08/2025 21:33

Geneticsbunny · 22/08/2025 21:28

Can you attach some wood to that bit of the wall to protect it, then they can add the gate to that? I know you don't need to but it might just save arguments.

But we dont want to shell out for a lovely wall just to screw planks of wood to it.

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rwalker · 22/08/2025 21:32

Needs a separate metal gate post

DavAtTheCampaignForMoreBankHolidays · 22/08/2025 21:31

IfYoureLeavingTakeMeToo · 22/08/2025 21:25

To save a fallout, can you offer to fit it for them?

It'll fall off and then they'll just drill new holes to reattach it. I think it's warped so it puts pressure on the brackets and pulls them out of the wall leaving lovely big holes behind.

We did consider offering to buy them a new gate.

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Lighteningstrikes · 22/08/2025 21:31

They should put up a post/batten against your wall, and drill into that. They shouldn’t be drilling into your wall.

With numpties like this, I think it would be well worth you or your builder doing it for them. It will save any angst in the long term.

Geneticsbunny · 22/08/2025 21:28

Can you attach some wood to that bit of the wall to protect it, then they can add the gate to that? I know you don't need to but it might just save arguments.

Minxny · 22/08/2025 21:27

Maybe start with asking them to add their own gatepost.

IfYoureLeavingTakeMeToo · 22/08/2025 21:25

To save a fallout, can you offer to fit it for them?

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