To not want my neighbour attaching a gate to our wall

I don't see how they could attach it without asking. There wouldn't be a space for it? And they can hardly start dismantling the wall.

If they have no right of access into your property via this gate then it has no reason to be there so just put the wall up. They might moan but tough.

You'd still need a metal bracket to attach the catch too

It's a very good question. Call my cynical but I am imagining they don't want to make holes in their own brickwork. Weight bearing holes, anyway.

If it helps to keep the peace, OP, if it's a metal gate that can't easily be cut down and there is no wiggle room widthwise for an extra post you could allow their gate post to go on your boundary line. They'd save the expense of replacing the gate and your wall would be preserved.

Why can’t they hang it the other way around? So the catch is on your wall??

It depends is the wall 100% on your side if so they have to put up their own fence post on their side. However if the wall is on the boundary they are entitled to fix the gate to their side of wall

Is their gate at the front and the hinges attach to the bricks from your wall at the side, can the builder put an extra side row of bricks they can use instead which they can pag for and speak to you about

Does the gate serve any purpose, is it for access or right of way, diagram?

ON the boundary, or up to it but on your side?

because the answer determines things. The former then you’re being unreasonable to say they can’t attach a gate to their side as you’re actually taking a sliver of their land by straddling the boundary with your wall that sits on it. So best to offer a solution of having g a post installed for them.

the latter then not unreasonable to say you don’t want something attached to your wall which is entirely on your property. Big is probably still offer to have it done for them.

You live in a terrace. You need to make peace with sharing boundaries with your neighbours.

Would you be able to see their fence? I can understand you wanting it done properly do it doesn’t continually break and damage the wall, but it seems very petty to want to do nothing at all and leave them without access.

Talk to your builder who will probably be able to suggest an easy, cheap solution. And talk to your neighbour, they might be quite happy to pay for a gatepost and new gate.

Can’t they attach their gate to their own house wall?

You shouldn’t hang a gate on a newly built wall straight away anyway , we had ours rebuilt a few years ago , and I think the builder left the gate off for about four weeks for the cement to cure enough before rehanging . I’d start with that fact with your neighbours , and say as you don’t want to compromise your new wall did they want your builder to pop a gate post up for them , it does mean they will pro have to buy a smaller gate to fit though .

surely you'll be putting in a fencepost for your own gate? (rather than attaching it directly to your new wall)? it would make sense to do the same on their side.

tbh if it was me, i think i'd offer to replace the neighbour's gate with a new one that matched mine (in height and style and sturdiness) - tell them how much it cost in the hope that they chip in, but if not, swallow it as a relatively small price to pay for something that will improve my own house's aesthetic appearance an security.

I had to buy a 7 or 8ft gate post recently, think it cost me about £10. Last one was kicked in. Dh is going to mix the concrete and put it in the hole. If the hole is already going to be dug for the wall getting it fitted then will save money.

To be honest if I were you I’d be tempted to buy the gatepost and get it fitted if you think they’ll drag their feet and not do it.

I would just buy them a new gate and get your builder to fit it.

Short term cost for long term peace of mind and decent neighbourly relationshipss

I was just about to say that the gate post. If you live in a terrace, you just have to accept that your house, your garden walls and your guttering are connected too.

If you live in a terrace, how do you think guttering can be dealt with without touching the neighbour’s guttering?

If the deeds state it is your wall, then just tell them nothing can be attached. Offer to install a post on their side at the same time. Although presumably their gate won't fit then which may cause issues.

Absolutely this.
You sort the issue then you can put their minor irritations to bed in your mind.
You shouldn't have to but I always try to think about what is going to irritate me less.
In your situation, as the builder is already on site, I'd put a post up.
The alternative is an awkward conversation (I'm actually happy to have one but could do without the hassle) or they continue to drill into your wall.
It's definitely galling though, some people have zero self awareness, who actually drills into someone's wall (property)

Whilst it seems galling to do them a favour, it would probably save a lot of aggro and damage to your actual wall in the long term!

Honestly, I think you’re being very petty. When we had the back wall rebuilt we spoke to the neighbours whose gate was attached and agreed that the brickies would install new metal gate fixings within the new brickwork which would enable them - and us - to attach our new gates.

They need to sink their own gate post next to your wall. If your wall is up to but not over the boundary, it is then their issue if there is not room to sink the post and open the gate wide enough for whatever it is they need to get in and out of that opening.

If the gate is so heavy the post will sag, they need a thicker post, set deeper into concrete and may need to have a cross beam over the top fixed to another post/side of their property on the other side to stop that happening.

Id give them a warning this is happening and if I were nice and they were nice neighbours, I might consider asking the builders of said wall to do it, on the grounds they pay for their share of the work.