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Chuck this one back? WWYD?

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RachelTopliss · 22/08/2025 20:08

Met a guy recently seemed ok but a bit opinionated. Interesting conversation though. He does ring and message.

I've been out twice with him, both daytime afternoons for 2 hours max. Told me he won't ever be available Saturday as it's sacrosanct for going out with his mates.

2 Saturdays ago was his birthday and he went out at noon round pubs, for a curry and then back to the pub until kicking out time. I'm not comfortable with that.

I suggested we went to a quiz night and he said he'd let me know, then called to say he'd forgotten he'd arranged to meet up with former work colleagues but wanted to see me on Sunday.

I feel it's always going to be like this, WWYD?

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tryingtobesogood · 24/08/2025 16:01

RachelTopliss · 22/08/2025 20:08

Met a guy recently seemed ok but a bit opinionated. Interesting conversation though. He does ring and message.

I've been out twice with him, both daytime afternoons for 2 hours max. Told me he won't ever be available Saturday as it's sacrosanct for going out with his mates.

2 Saturdays ago was his birthday and he went out at noon round pubs, for a curry and then back to the pub until kicking out time. I'm not comfortable with that.

I suggested we went to a quiz night and he said he'd let me know, then called to say he'd forgotten he'd arranged to meet up with former work colleagues but wanted to see me on Sunday.

I feel it's always going to be like this, WWYD?

You are the Tuesday girl. Don’t be the Tuesday girl.

Also what happens when his mates all get partners? Will he then come looking for you to entertain him now no one else is available?

Givenupshopping · 24/08/2025 15:51

So send him a text first thing in the morning to say that you're done with the relationship, block him, and then go out for the day with your cousin and enjoy yourself

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RachelTopliss · 24/08/2025 13:49

I've decided to spend today gardening and tomorrow I'm having a day out in the countryside with my cousin. He can whistle.

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Lifealwaysgetsbetter · 24/08/2025 12:03

RachelTopliss · 24/08/2025 11:39

This is what I got this morning

Sorry still in bed Stomach still bad Went to bed at eight last night Lets meet in the week when I can not panic about a toilet XX

Roger and out.

Just give him a thumbs up 👍🏼 and then mute his chat. Just fade him out - you’re not in a relationship. It’s just dating. I bet he will just fade too. Once you don’t hear from him in over a week or two (you decide), remove his number from your phone/block (depending on whether you want to hear from them again as they ALWAYS pop back up at some point).

Givenupshopping · 24/08/2025 11:59

I'd text back and tell him 'it's OVER and I'm OUT!'

Swiftie1878 · 24/08/2025 11:49

Tell him you’ll meet up when he is ready to actually be in a grown up relationship. I.e. Never.

Over and out.

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RachelTopliss · 24/08/2025 11:39

This is what I got this morning

Sorry still in bed Stomach still bad Went to bed at eight last night Lets meet in the week when I can not panic about a toilet XX

Roger and out.

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healthybychristmas · 23/08/2025 20:25

I would say he had other plans for the day. In any case I couldn't be bothered with this guy but I think that something else is going on and it probably involves another woman I'm afraid.

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RachelTopliss · 23/08/2025 20:00

TheSwarm · 23/08/2025 15:25

If he can't be arsed to spend time with you this early on in a relationship, why are you wasting your time at all?

Bin him off.

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I'm wondering about that.

Sorry that was a reply to @Givenupshopping, I quoted the wrong post.

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TheDayWeGotMinnie · 23/08/2025 19:24

He's 37 and his Saturday nights with his mates are sacrosanct? Urgh. Throw him back

Givenupshopping · 23/08/2025 19:20

He didn't want to chat to you because his wife was likely to walk in OP, surely you can see by now, that he's not the one for you?

TheSwarm · 23/08/2025 15:25

RachelTopliss · 23/08/2025 15:16

I'm going to see what tomorrow brings from him and then I might call it a day. It's all about getting to know someone and seeing if you're compatible, nothing much wrong with Saturday nights with mates but I wouldn't want that every week in a serious relationship. I'd feel sidelined.

If he can't be arsed to spend time with you this early on in a relationship, why are you wasting your time at all?

Bin him off.

Cosyblankets · 23/08/2025 15:21

RachelTopliss · 23/08/2025 15:16

I'm going to see what tomorrow brings from him and then I might call it a day. It's all about getting to know someone and seeing if you're compatible, nothing much wrong with Saturday nights with mates but I wouldn't want that every week in a serious relationship. I'd feel sidelined.

He's told you who he is.
Believe him

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RachelTopliss · 23/08/2025 15:16

I'm going to see what tomorrow brings from him and then I might call it a day. It's all about getting to know someone and seeing if you're compatible, nothing much wrong with Saturday nights with mates but I wouldn't want that every week in a serious relationship. I'd feel sidelined.

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Swiftie1878 · 23/08/2025 12:25

RachelTopliss · 22/08/2025 20:32

He's 37!

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Oh, I was thinking you were being a bit sniffy about his social life, but at 37?!?
Yeah - another man-child. Fun in a group of friends: terrible partner.

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RachelTopliss · 23/08/2025 12:17

I had 5 missed calls from him this morning (I was gardening and left the phone inside) and when I called back he said that he was unwell, he wouldn't be going out with his mates today but would call me tomorrow morning to let me know if he was ok to meet me in the afternoon.

I said I hoped he felt better soon, but he didn't seem to want to chat or allow me to, it was "alright then Rachel I'll call you tomorrow", something seems off.

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CaptainMyCaptain · 23/08/2025 08:21

My husband goes out at weekends with his mates unless its an important 'occasion'. To be honest I like having the house to myself so I'm not bothered. I know where he is because I know most of the mates. No children as we got together later in life.

If it's not for you, @RachelTopliss just end it now.

MyElatedUmberFinch · 22/08/2025 22:46

You don’t sound compatible.

Hankunamatata · 22/08/2025 22:44

Urgh never avaliable on a Saturday as out on the lash. Nope

fthisfthatfeverything · 22/08/2025 22:40

THB

Mumlaplomb · 22/08/2025 22:35

Gosh it would be hard to tolerate from a 23 year old but definately a hard pass at his age behaving like that! Has he had a serious relationship before ?

Pigeonsandgiraffees · 22/08/2025 22:34

37 years of age and he's told you he will never spend a Saturday with you because they're for his mates?

He sounds like a right knob.

Twothurty · 22/08/2025 22:31

Throw this one back

He’s being very up front about the fact that you will always be way down his prioritise list. Can’t criticise him for his honesty I guess.

But he’s a twat. There’s a very good reason why he’s single!

Goodadvice1980 · 22/08/2025 22:28

Glitchymn1 · 22/08/2025 22:14

High kick him off my balcony 🦵🕺🏻

😂

Glitchymn1 · 22/08/2025 22:14

High kick him off my balcony 🦵🕺🏻