To find people start talking to you more if you have a ‘glow up’

Same here. Applies to strangers too, men and women, talking to me more. A friend called it "skinny privilege"

I don't think it's just down to feeling more confident in yourself, though perhaps that plays into it for some. There are times when I've happened to have dressed for a presentation or just tried out some more defined make-up to test new samples etc. and wondered why I was so lucky to get better service or manners that day. No difference in how I was putting myself forwards personality-wise, because I'd completely forgotten!

Watch any walk of life - 8 year olds in the playground or 60 year old accountants in a boardroom. The better looking men and women will get more attention.

My 10 year son came to a BBQ with us recently. There was a girl his age who was in to the same games as him, they got on well. But you should have seen his face when a girl aged 12 walked in with blonde hair down to her waist and wearing a Nike crop top and shorts. He sat up straight, threw the iPad down he was playing with and left the girl he’d been chatting to. Every adult clocked it and laughed.

Yes.

Looks matter to others, even though we like to pretend they don't.

Wait? What? So you mean people are more attracted to you because you look better and slimmer?

More blokes chat to you now you’re a size 10?

Can’t actually believe this.

Who would have thought it??

Did you never go to school and see that prettier girls are more popular? Never seen girls flock round an attractive guy? Never gone in to a club and seen that attractive people fair better than ugly ones. Never been in a meeting and seen men laughing and flirting with the hot girl from HR and ignoring Maureen from accounts?

😂

I believe it’s this also.

A “dim down”.

If you looked and felt confident, cheerful and sociable, then it's hardly surprising people were more interested in talking to you. On the other hand, if I'd started talking to you, the expressions 'glow up' and 'revenge body' would make it very clear that this was going to be a short, one-off conversation.

What’s the opposite of a glow up? Asking for a reclusive friend.

I notice this based on whether or not I can be arsed wearing makeup.

I think there’s definitely a confidence element. I’ve had a big ‘glow-up’ in last year coupled with significant weight loss, and I’m definitely more confident, willing to engage with people and interact, and have more open body language I think, as I feel much better in myself and more confident. I think I was quite closed off before and gave ‘stay away from me’ vibes with body language (not intentionally but the negative thoughts I had about myself were manifesting that way).

Revenge body? What a load of balls.

That's what I was thinking!

I've never head of 'revenge body' but if it means what I think it does, (that the OP wants to make herself look better to get some sort of weird revenge), then she's obviously after some interest?

I don't know why she's surprised she's getting it.

What's wrong with glow up? Just trying to keep up with what is in and out with phrases!

Yup. This happened to me when I lost significant weight in the past. It’s cringe. But if you recognise it fur what it is (ie fake) then it’s quite funny. Currently on a supported weight loss journey…can’t wait to see who comes forward as the first hanger on to want to associate more. They’ll be the first to be binned completely!!!

People often make this kind of comment on this kind of thread, and it may be true in some cases.

But I have excellent self esteem and always make “effort” regardless of my dress size. Losing weight doesn't make me happier or more self confident (healthier though obviously!)

I lost more that 5 stone and suddenly colleagues who had know me for years were much, much nicer to me than previously. Mostly men but some women too.

I notably found I got much between service in shops and restaurants than previously too.

I find it pretty depressing tbh. I’m not a different person thinner, my values and behaviours haven't changed, just my waistline.

I value the people who were always nice to me, always helpful more than those who’ve suddenly decided I’m worth their time.

Yes. People tend to like people or respond more positively to people who are not only more attractive but more confident, have higher self-esteem and are happy with themselves. You might have improved all those traits from improving your looks and physique.

I don't know why you apologise for using 'glow up', then go on to use 'revenge body'. 😅

But they’ll commence speaking to the OP. again no doubt when they hear

slay!

low key

rad .. etc

You’ll probably have brass bands playing you a fanfare when you exit your local Sainsbury’s !!

Cingratulations tho - excellent achievement 🎉

Yes. People tend to want to be associated with and know attractive people, whether that be personality, cheerfulness, or physical attractiveness.

Of course, when they hear you use the term “glow up” they’ll probably stop speaking to you again, but that’s easily avoided.

Yes it’s true, I lost weight a few years ago and suddenly I was no longer invisible and no it was nothing to do with confidence as people try to deny this is a thing!

Looks like OP was born in 1992

If this is correct - OP gets a free pass with ‘glow up’ 👍

YANBU. I’ve lost a huge amount of weight in the last year and people will stop me and compliment me in the street. And that’s at a size 18! I can’t imagine what it’ll be like if I ever get to a size 12