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Biological sex should be shared with potential relationships/ONS/dates.

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allusernamesaretakennow · 22/08/2025 13:35

I think that biological sex should be shared not the gender you think you are/want to be. That's honest and in my opinion respectful.

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YANBU biological sex should be shared not just chosen gender
YABU no just tell your chosen gender

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DiscoBob · 22/08/2025 13:44

I'd expect someone to say they were a trans man or trans woman if they were biologically different from their identity. Many people wouldn't want to date a trans person. So they would feel deceived to not be told up front.

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allusernamesaretakennow · 22/08/2025 13:42

Walkacrossthesand · 22/08/2025 13:41

Trouble is, @allusernamesaretakennow, my understanding is that the Whole Point for trans women is that they are women because they feel they are, and insist that they are viewed as such. Having to declare that they have a different biological sex, is incompatible with that stance.

I see the problem there. However, biological reality or reality/fact is quite important to most people. I feel like I'm the Queen of England some days, doesn't make it so though. I don't even look like Camilla

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Walkacrossthesand · 22/08/2025 13:41

Trouble is, @allusernamesaretakennow, my understanding is that the Whole Point for trans women is that they are women because they feel they are, and insist that they are viewed as such. Having to declare that they have a different biological sex, is incompatible with that stance.

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allusernamesaretakennow · 22/08/2025 13:41

Would this also apply as sexual assault if a trans woman pretended to be a lesbian and had sex with a lesbian real woman? Again, not completely informed consent.

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ColinOfficeTrolley · 22/08/2025 13:40

As if he couldn't tell 🙄.

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allusernamesaretakennow · 22/08/2025 13:39

In case you object to the DM source it is on other sites too.

The male who identifies as a woman has been found guilty of sexual assault on a man for not telling him he was really a man.

"A transgender woman who concealed she had male genitalia before performing a sex act on a man has been found guilty of sexual assault.
Ciara Watkin, 21, of Stockton-on-Tees, was found guilty of multiple charges relating to sex acts she performed on the 21-year old man over a number of days in June 2022.
The sexual assault charges were brought at Teesside Crown Court today after Watkin failed to disclose her transgender status to the man, which meant he could not have given informed consent."

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allusernamesaretakennow · 22/08/2025 13:37

I realise that to many it is kind of obvious in most cases what sex the person is, despite dress/make up/hair/etc,, but maybe sometimes it needs to be said.

I imagine some/many men would be upset to find a 'women' with a penis (at least straight men would be), not gay or Bi naturally.

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