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To feel deflated about DIY kitchen makeover

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Malahala · 22/08/2025 11:06

We moved into our house almost a year ago. It hadn’t been updated in 40 years, but it’s in a great area, between two outstanding schools, and we managed to get it for £200k less than asking as the seller needed a quick sale. It’s a 4-bed with 2 bathrooms, 2 receptions, a separate kitchen and a utility room. It’s a fantastic investment and I still feel lucky to own it.

The reality is we maxed ourselves out buying it, so there’s no money left for big renovations or an extension. My DH doesn’t like the house — he would have preferred a “done” house — but we couldn’t afford that in this area and didn’t want to move elsewhere. His attitude is that everything should be done by professionals, but we can’t afford that either.

So over the past year I’ve been doing most of the work myself: stripping wallpaper, painting, redecorating etc. Recently I tackled the 40-year-old kitchen. We can’t afford new units, so I added panelling to the cupboard doors and painted them, replaced the cabinet handles, removed the lino as it was damaged, stripped wallpaper, painted the walls and the orange tiles, covered the worst tiles with panelling, and wrapped the worktops in vinyl. It’s not perfect — some of the cupboards don’t hang completely straight and need adjusting — but the difference is huge. Instead of a 40-year-old kitchen, it now looks more like a 10-year-old one.

The problem is DH doesn’t appreciate it. He still says the kitchen looks “old” and can’t see the point of me spending a few hundred pounds making it nicer. He hasn’t lifted a finger to help because he doesn’t do DIY, won’t ask FIL (apparently he will be critical because the panelling on the cabinets isn’t quite right) or his builder friend (friend will likely be “too busy”), so it’s all been left to me. His view is we need a new kitchen/extension, but realistically that’s not happening for at least 5 years. I’d rather make it more liveable now.

What’s making me doubt myself is other people’s reactions. A wealthy friend came round and just said, “so much change!” but not that it looked nice. MIL commented on how hard I’d worked rather than how good it looked. My mum loved it and thought a new tap, sink and dishwasher would make a big difference (and she went straight out and bought all of these for me) but she’s also my mum so not that objective. Now I’m worrying I’ve just “polished a turd” and made the kitchen worse, whereas I genuinely feel it’s a big improvement.

Here are the before and (nearly) after photos. They may take a while to load. Be brutally honest — have I done a decent job for a DIY upgrade, or does it look as bad as DH, friend and MIL seem to think? I’m worried I’m embarrassing myself by being so pleased with my efforts.

YABU - I agree with your DH, friend and MIL
YANBU - It looks nice!

To feel deflated about DIY kitchen makeover
To feel deflated about DIY kitchen makeover
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Bollihobs · 22/08/2025 12:53

Firstly, well done! I think it looks tons better and I completely see why you did it. But.... you cannot judge your worth or the worth of your endeavours by others reactions, that way lies madness! You did it, you like it that's what really matters, nevermind if others don't appreciate it.

However, "My Mum loved it but she’s also my mum so not that objective" so when you did get a positive reaction you've down graded it as it's "only your Mum"..... poor Mum!

Slowdownyouredoingfine · 22/08/2025 12:52

OP you’ve done a bloody good job, we always watch videos of these budget kitchen upgrades but actually the work that goes into it… it’s a lot harder than it looks and you’ve done it to a really good standard. I love the orginal tiles - I’d try and clean them up and get someone to replace/fix the broken one and keep it. It’s really rustic and nice otherwise. You can get really cheap no drill blinds on temu and they’re a pretty good temporary fix. I also agree a few house plants will make a difference to pretty it up. But it’s genuinely such a difference it’s fantastic! You’ve turned it from a drab, lifeless kitchen to a lovely country style kitchen and you should be very proud. Your husband has no taste!!

Slowdownyouredoingfine · 22/08/2025 12:52

OP you’ve done a bloody good job, we always watch videos of these budget kitchen upgrades but actually the work that goes into it… it’s a lot harder than it looks and you’ve done it to a really good standard. I love the orginal tiles - I’d try and clean them up and get someone to replace/fix the broken one and keep it. It’s really rustic and nice otherwise. You can get really cheap no drill blinds on temu and they’re a pretty good temporary fix. I also agree a few house plants will make a difference to pretty it up. But it’s genuinely such a difference it’s fantastic! You’ve turned it from a drab, lifeless kitchen to a lovely country style kitchen and you should be very proud. Your husband has no taste!!

NeedMoreTinfoil · 22/08/2025 12:51

Looks great to me with the lighter doors and the wall tiles gone. The window with the lovely green outlook draws the eye so a nice blind and some sort of framing decor (plants etc) could be the finishing touch. I am rubbish at DIY so very envious of your handiwork.

ilvautmieux · 22/08/2025 12:51

I think the floor tiles look great - much better than the previous floor covering. I think just get the cupboard doors rehung properly but the view from the window is great - I wouldnt cover the windows with anything!

Onekissisallittakes · 22/08/2025 12:50

The cupboards look fantastic but the floor makes it look really old! I know money is tight but can u not get some cheap vinyl and just pay for it to be laid? Otherwise great!

ChocolateCinderToffee · 22/08/2025 12:48

Your kitchen looks amazing. Your husband is a twat. Tell him to grow up.

MontythePrince · 22/08/2025 12:47

I think your diy skills are amazing and you have really improved the look of your kitchen. Your h should be appreciating your efforts.

I am just about to move into a project house with not enough cash to do it all at once (same as you, lovely area and a project is what we can afford). I wish I had your abilities!

flightofthecorkers · 22/08/2025 12:47

You've done a great job and your DH is being a dog in a manger. I don't think your kitchen is the main issue. Get your FIL involved.

TotHappy · 22/08/2025 12:46

I've only read the first 2 pages but I think it looks fine in both 😅 I wasn't sure which was the before and after pic until I looked for orange tiles and things. Honestly both look so much better than our very very old kitchen that we've just replaced. We lived with it for 9 years. As for your new one, we'll I've just spent £22000 on mine and I'm not sure yours doesn't still look better!

C152 · 22/08/2025 12:45

I think there was nothing wrong with the kitchen in the 'before' photo, and some elements in the 'after' photo make it look worse. Rehanging the doors properly and laying new lino will improve this. BUT, you need to be happy in your home, so if you like it and it functions as a livable kitchen, that's really all that matters. Your DH should be ashamed of himself for not helping you at all. It doesn't matter if he's not great at DIY, he could at least try to help in whatever way he can.

summerday25 · 22/08/2025 12:45

It’s really lovely OP, you should be so proud of yourself! I bought my house a few years ago and the kitchen is ancient, no money to change it and I wish I had the get up and go to do what you’ve done. ‘DH’ sounds so unappreciative. Your Mum on the other hand sounds lovely.

Lafufufu · 22/08/2025 12:43

Looks good!

Get some nice design lino down and you are in business!

Gettingbysomehow · 22/08/2025 12:43

It looks absolutely amazing, he sounds about as supportive as a chocolate walking frame.
What a whinger, tell him to buck up and go and earn more money.
I've done up all my houses over the years as there has never been enough money to get people in. Surely that's what people do.

Hellohelga · 22/08/2025 12:43

Well done, looks great. Hope your DH has other redeeming qualities as he sounds dire.

TheQuirkyMaker · 22/08/2025 12:42

I do a lot of DIY and I think you have done very well! My God, your husband is negative. There is nothing stopping him developing some DIY skills himself and being helpful. (The hinges are not too difficult to adjust btw, there will be tutorials on YT).

charliearm · 22/08/2025 12:41

I see everyone has already said this – but just wanted to add another big pat on the back and well done. You should be incredibly proud of yourself and your work, it looks great. Ignore your husband, he doesn’t sound particularly kind at all and rather selfish (that’s the only big problem here!). Hugs. Xxx

Tablesandchairs23 · 22/08/2025 12:40

You've done a good job. Your husband is an ungrateful arse.

Miner4aHeartofGold · 22/08/2025 12:40

That is a HUGE change! So very much nicer. Well done OP! I'm amazed your DH can't see it. But never mind him - enjoy your lovely kitchen

Tweedled · 22/08/2025 12:38

To be honest your husband sounds like a selfish twat.
You have done a fantastic job of updating a tired old kitchen and should be extremely proud of all your hard work.
I would speak to FIL and say you know things aren’t perfect but that’s the best you could do so please don’t point it out. Ask if he could help with the cupboard doors and teach you how to do it at the same time.
Your husband should be ashamed of his attitude.

CrispieCake · 22/08/2025 12:38

Looks great. Shame about your DH though. It's not the kitchen that's making you feel down, it's living with a moany arse.

lifeonmars100 · 22/08/2025 12:38

It looks great, well done on all your hard work, may I ask what paint you used on your cabinets as I have been thinking of painting mine as there is no way I can afford new ones.

roshi42 · 22/08/2025 12:37

It’s gorgeous!! A huge improvement!! It actually looks quite a bit like my kitchen - I also did a ‘facelift’ when I moved in because no way can I afford a new one. We have the same tiles! And the same issues with the ‘behind the scenes’ not being so great - wonky cupboards and the inside shelves etc being really old. But I think it looks a million times better than before. And why wouldn’t you improve it now, knowing you can’t do it properly for a long time?! The only difference is I had to pay for new doors and tiles etc - you’ve done it all yourself!! That’s so incredible, I’m really impressed. Well done OP! 👏 I hope the praise of internet strangers helps. Boo to your DH, he’s being rubbish on this one.

eatreadsleeprepeat · 22/08/2025 12:37

It looks good, it doesn’t look as if it was done by someone not very experienced. If you wanted to make it more different you could add a blind, possibly quite statement pattern or colour and then pick that colour up in accessories.