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Snoring spouse

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Chakhakhan77 · 22/08/2025 10:06

Has anyone actually managed to cure snoring? If not can anyone recommend ear plugs that actually block out the noise? My dh is not too much overweight, does not drink heavily and has never smoked.
We're in a static caravan with family on holiday and so I have no other room to escape too. The last day today, very hot and ive told them to go out without me. After a week from hell and arguing in the middle of the night, me threatening I don't want to do this again I'm so depressed. Stuck here on the last day as I needed a lie in. Feel like it's the end of nice holidays together, certainly abroad anyway, as we can't afford two single persons holidays. The argument from last night hanging over us and they've all gone out. I'm shattered and missing out. He says he will go to the doctors but what can they actually do. I've read increased snoring in males is normal after making any necessary lifestyle improvements, due to age. He's 61. I'll be moving to a spare room at home permanently at home when we get back, so I feel even worse.

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Zempy · 22/08/2025 10:41

Define “not too much overweight “ what is his BMI?

If he’s overweight, that should make a significant difference. Does he drink alcohol?

LadybugsAndSunshine · 22/08/2025 10:39

Your holiday sounds like my family holiday two years ago. My snoring husband ended up sleeping on the balcony at one point because he was sick of being told to shut the hell up all night.
He went to the doctor when we got home and was diagnosed with sleep apnea. The clinic give him a monitor to take home, he attached it to his finger and it measures your breathing. He was given a sleep apnea machine it is brilliant, no more snoring and everyone can sleep.

Freegrass · 22/08/2025 10:37

DH tried the nasal strips and whilst I thought they would be useless, it has improved the situation.

3rdtimearoundtheblock · 22/08/2025 10:35

I don't have a solution but just wanted to comment in solidarity - a week's holiday with my husband and a baby who still wakes twice in the night nearly broke me.

holidayfever2024 · 22/08/2025 10:32

I just came in to recommend something very similar to PP. am on holiday with snoring DH at the moment it’s a game changer - white noise and off to sleep I go! Good luck it’s a killer being disturbed every night.
noise cancelling headphones work really well do not only ideal if you sleep on your back and don’t move !

YumYa · 22/08/2025 10:30

Agree with music headband and listen to rain sounds or any white noise. My musicozy stopped working so thinking of getting another type? Just kept stopping?

I use the moldable earplugs. Am going away soon with mega loud snorer dh. He's usually in the spare room especially if I have to be up early the next day. But obviously can't book 2 separate rooms on holiday.

Dh is also waiting for a sleep clinic appointment. He sounds like he stops breathing sometimes so I made him see the GP.

CandidOP · 22/08/2025 10:30

I use earplugs. Each pair last three days before starting to let noise in. I use the ones that are designed for the smaller ear canals of women. I do still have the occasional night in the spare room but generally works well. Without these we would have to have separate rooms without question.

BookWormBetsie · 22/08/2025 10:25

This one

Snoring spouse
BookWormBetsie · 22/08/2025 10:24

my husband is a very loud snorer, chats shit and shouts a lot aswell, I got a musicozy from Amazon, works well as a cheaper alternative to snoozeband

24Dogcuddler · 22/08/2025 10:20

He needs to see his GP for a referral to a sleep clinic. Might not be this but my DH was diagnosed with severe obstructive sleep apnoea this year.
You could hear the snoring all over the house. He kept falling asleep in the day and evening.
Now that he has his CPAP machine he’s back to his old self.
In the meantime order yourself a Snoozeband. Comfy enough to sleep in, connects to your phone by Bluetooth and can switch off after an hour. Lots of sleep playlists on bbc sounds etc.
Hope you can find a solution soon.

FrustratedOldLady · 22/08/2025 10:17

Is he overweight? If so, losing weight will help massively. Cutting back on alcohol helps too.
You can buy contraptions that help reduce snoring too, can’t remember what they’re called.
My friend’s DH attended a sleep clinic for snoring and not sure what they did, but he no longer snores!

muffintop83 · 22/08/2025 10:13

No advice but having recently returned from a holiday with a snoring husband I completely feel your pain. I couldn’t wait to get home so I could sleep in a separate room. My dh and I also argued unpleasantly many times in the middle of the night, him annoyed at being woken up and me annoyed at not being able to get to sleep in the first place. I was shattered and slept like the dead on our first night home.

I don’t think there’s much they can do other than surgery which seems extreme. Unfortunately some people do just snore. But it’s not pleasant for those who have no choice but to share a room with them.

I hope you manage to get some rest today and would advise better sleeping arrangements for your next holiday.