Snoring spouse

Depending on how deep sleeper you are, the snorer reads a book whike non snorer falls asleep, and asleep for a good 15 + minutes or whatever they need to go deep. Then snorer falls asleep. Not great if non snorer is a light sleeper though.

endless earplugs that I’ve not tried but reading everyone else’s ideas.

We have separate bedrooms at home and I book separate rooms on holiday. After one holiday where I decided we'd share a room, never again.

I did the separate bedrooms first until he went to the sleep clinic. A night hooked up to a machine and he has his cpap. No more snoring.

I'm still in my room though. I love my room

I have been enraged by snoring. Last night DH was out drinking and came in to bed and by 5.30 I got up. I’m exhausted

I use these headphones/earplugs, mostly comfy when side sleeping, and listen to a taking book, generally get off to sleep within 30 mins. I use BorrowBox for the talking books which is connected to my membership of the local library and is therefore free. You can set a sleep timer, eg 20 or 30 mins. There’s loads of stuff on bbc sounds also.

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Separate bedrooms here and holidays we go self catering in a 2 bedroom cottage or apartment. I put up with too many years of disturbed sleep.I actually moved when DH had to have a shoulder op and it hurt if I rolled into him.What a revelation and tbh out relationship is far better as I'm not tired and grumpy. We are going to stay with friends soon for 4 nights and tbh dreading it as I know DH will drink more usual and I will have nowhere to escape to.I physically cant keep ear buds in so have a headband instead but still not ideal.

At home we have separate bedrooms. When we stay away in hotels we have separate beds and I wear my ear buds with music on to try and drown it out a bit. I can't stand the vibration which is why separate beds. And when we did caravans I had the bedroom and he stayed on the pull out sofa bed in the lounge. It has done wonders for our relationship. We no longer argue all the time (unless he falls asleep on the sofa when I'm trying to watch TV 😂)

My husband’s snoring is off the scale. He travels a lot with work so is often jet lagged and he’s quite overweight. I had years of cramming earplugs into my ears, tried everything but nothing worked, plus I could feel the vibrations of the snores even though we have a super king bed. Anyway in the end I got an ear infection probably from ramming the blooming plugs down my ears and I was so utterly sleep deprived I could hardly function. So I decamped to the spare room a year ago. The cat followed, luckily he doesn’t snore!

Anyway I no longer go to bed dreading the noise starting, I sleep well even though I’m menopausal and it’s so peaceful. DH was ok about it as he no longer gets kicked all night and he was stressing & feeling guilty about keeping me awake. Now when we go on holiday we no longer use hotels but book an Airbnb or holiday cottage with an extra bedroom.

@DelilahBucket how do those earplugs work?

I feel your pain. DH had a deviated septum and it was Hell waiting for surgery. By the time he had it I was so anxious at bedtime every little sound kept me awake even though his snoring had mostly stopped. I got Loops earplugs and they were a game changer. He does still occasionally snore if he lays on his back, but the earplugs block most noise out. We got a bigger bed too so we're not right next to each other. When on holiday we always get accommodation with at least a long size bed.

Breathe right nose strips stops hurting husband snoring completely. When he will wear them

Much sympathy. CPAP is worth exploring but does come with its own issues.

If at all possible, look into bricks and mortar self catering apartments/villas with enough bedrooms for everyone. Your money goes a lot further with this kind of accommodation overseas, but even in the UK you can find it for a similar budget to a caravan if you are careful with location and prepared to drive.

@PoppySaidYesIKnow I'm cruising soon with snoring dh. I'm using the silicone ear plugs and maybe getting another music headband? Rain sounds block the snoring for me. I'll have day naps too.

I feel your pain. DH snores so loudly I heard him from OUTDOORS as I came home from a work function. Our bedroom is on the second floor and no windows were open since it was November. LOUD.

Things that worked for us:

1. I finally had to move to a separate bedroom, but his snoring was still keeping up me and DC all in our separate bedrooms. We now have 3 white noisemakers. There is one in his bedroom that I turn on after he falls asleep (he complains that white noisemakers prevent him from falling asleep), second whiten noisemaker in the hallway, 3rd whitenoisemaker in my actual bedroom.
2. DC use their apple airpods on noise cancelling mode rather than a 3rd white noisemaker in their room. On a recent holiday, they insisted I try one and OMG it works amazingly well. If you can sleep with earbuds in, I think they are smaller and more comfortable than over ear headphones. Just make sure to get ones with great active noise cancellation feature. I can vouch for the apple earbuds, their noise cancellation was phenomenal.

I hear you. Separate rooms at home here now thank goodness but holidays - I just avoid unless absolutely necessary that we spend a night away from home. It’s like torture. I want to go on a cruise but can’t as I cannot sleep in the same room / cabin for a week and function on no sleep - would be no holiday for me. No answers for you but every sympathy.

People think only overweight people have sleep apnea but it’s not always the case.

He needs to go to a sleep clinic for tests. My dad snored awful before he had a sleep apnea test and device and he isn’t overweight either.

I feel your pain. Lack of sleep is torture. I had to resort to separate bedrooms as I was running on empty. I didn’t find earplugs that helped and my ears get so sore wearing them.
sorry no help but just wanted to offer solidarity xx

Another vote for CPAP, you can buy them privately if you don't want to wait for GP.

Get whatever earplugs you can for the final night. Separate rooms once home and he goes to the doctor for a referral to a sleep clinic study. He’ll probably be diagnosed with sleep apnoea and need to use a CPAP machine. You don’t have to be fat or drink heavily to have sleep apnoea.

Once his snoring is being treated then you could consider sharing a bedroom again, or not.

My DH and I both have sleep apnoea and snore. We both use CPAP machines. Such a difference. His snoring used to wake me at least three times a night, and I’d be practically homicidal each time. I hated his snoring and I hated him. He tried a snoring mouthguard but it didn’t work.

CPAPs are very quiet when the mask is fitted correctly with no air leaks. Quieter than a fan on low.

If he's going to the doctor I'd give him a chance with that. IDK what they can do, but if this is the only problem I'd give him a chance to sort it. If he doesn't sort it out it's divorce time.

I had a snorer and I couldn't do it again. Just another thing I was putting up with in an abusive relationship and in his case it was self inflicted. The sleep deprivation was horrific. I'm an insomniac anyway and really didn't need being woken by snoring on top of that.

Honestly if I met someone who snores now I'd dump them for incompatibility. If someone developed it after years of living together they'd either have to sort it out pronto or we'd have to live separately, whatever that looked like and even if we stayed together.

I found nothing blocked out the sound of snoring, not even a brick wall and closed solid door of another room.

My husband has sleep apnea and was given a cpap machine but he found it too uncomfortable to wear all night. He's now got a snore mouth guard thing from amazon that for the most part has stopped the snoring. It's well worth getting it. The consultant suggested it as an alternative to cpap.

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@Chakhakhan77

Straight to sleep clinic when you get home. They will do a sleep study.

It’s not always necessary to be grossly overweight to have sleep apnoea.

Get him referred.

I wear mute nose plugs as have narrow nasal passage.
Dh also snores I wear foam earplugs and snoozeband over the top

He needs to be referred for a sleep clinic.

If my husband hadn't been diagnosed with sleep apnea, I might have murdered him in his sleep.