Snoring spouse

He should see his GP.
You should sleep in the spare room, ear plugs, whatever you need.
Don't feel guilty, you need your sleep.
Very much more common than you'd think. 💐

Apart from getting him checked for sleep apnoea, which I’d recommend too, this is what works for us: my partner wears a custom made mouth guard at night, which is done by a specialist dentist and does treat sleep apnoea too, it helps a lot with his snoring. It’s not completely gone, so I went to the audiologist and got custom made silicone earplugs. Brilliant!

If there are no other concerns i.e. stopping breathing whilst sleeping, being excessively tired during the day etc (in which case GP will refer to sleep clinic for sleep apnoea) then he needs to go to the dentist for a snore guard. I've recently got one and DH says I'm now completely silent. Saved our recent holiday when we were in a one room apartment, that's for sure!

@Chakhakhan77 The pink and yellow earplugs from Amazon are good.

@YumYa He was sleeping on thr sofa bed for a little while as I started a new job but it broke.
He goes to bed before me and I can hear him from downstairs.
He also farts incessantly, in his sleep.
@Chakhakhan77 yellow and pink earplugs from Amazon are good ,

@CookingFatCat that's very selfish. How'd he like not sleeping properly? Can you sleep separately?

I had same on holiday, I was so sleep deprived. DP has a mouthguard and had used a spray, both work to a degree. Will he use them? No, only when I wake him up and ask him to.
He doesn’t even keep his routine dental and health appointments so doubt he’d go to a sleep clinic.
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Just looked for loop ear plugs there's a few different ones at different prices?

Loop ear plugs…literally changed my life!!! I highly recommend

My DH snores extremely loudly. Doesn’t matter whether he is on his back or side. For him, we have tried nose strips, throat spray from Boots, mouth guards to adjust jaw, and various pillows. He’s also been to the GP who advised to lose some weight, but that didn’t work either. I’ve tried the sleep headbands/white noise but they do NOT drown out loud snoring. I have tried every earplug going, the best ones are the yellow and red ones from Amazon (I’ll try to find a link). But they still don’t cancel out the racket.

The only thing that works is sleeping in different rooms, which I’ve been doing since the start of this year as I’d had enough and had chronic insomnia. It has taken a while to retrain my sleep pattern but now I get an amazing nights sleep and we’re both happier.

As for holidays, I’ve made it clear that we’re not able to sleep in the same bed/room any longer. It’s not a holiday if I can’t sleep. Next year we’re going away to a villa so we can have separate rooms - he wanted to stay in a hotel for a few nights but we couldn’t get separate rooms so I said no. He wasn’t happy but I think it has made him realise that his snoring means we will have to take that into consideration for any plans to travel. Unfortunately, I’d have loved to buy a motorhome, there is no way I’m sleeping in a tiny space with that appalling noise going on.

So, I guess what I’m saying is, what have you tried already and if nothing has worked then the only solution is separate sleeping spaces.

@user1471462634 A smart watch for a sleep study? So no leads attached to the skull, chest, face? For an in clinic study there’s leads attached to legs as well to detect things like restless legs.

For those who have snoring partners that have encountered useless doctors please get them to go to a different one for a second opinion. Snoring is a potentially serious and fatal health condition. I stop breathing so many times per hour that death is a possibility. I have severe sleep apnoea. With a CPAP I breathe properly all night, don’t wake with a headache, don’t have to pee multiple times overnight, and don’t have a sore throat from snoring.

For those with partners who didn’t like wearing a CPAP, the partners need to stick at it. It took me months to get used to wearing it all night. I’d take it off in my sleep. Adjusting the settings, like a long slow ramp up in pressure and optimising the air temp and humidity, helped. Getting the right mask or nasal prongs and correctly adjusted headgear makes an enormous difference. Initially I was to aim for 4 hours of CPAP use per night to get a clinical effect from it. Once I had that I extended the time I wore it each night until I couldn’t fall asleep without it and slept the whole night with it on.

I'd send him to another GP. Could be sleep apnea. Did you go to the appointment?

I have a musicozy too. Not for snoring DH but because I’m a really light sleeper. I wear it with added ear plugs and it’s changed my life.

Try some medical tape. You tape it over the mouth at a diagonal. It trains him to breathe through his nose not his mouth. I’ve tried this and it does help.

Agree with PP saying our relationship is so much better now we have our own room and can sleep. Plus I like having my own lovely room, I’m tidy and he’s messy.

He probably has sleep apnea. Actually quite dangerous and carries considerable risks. He needs to see gp.
Hell for anyone around them at night!!!

You have my sympathy OP, I am in the same position.

did manage to get DH to go to the GP a few years ago. He was very quickly dismissed as had no other symptoms of sleep apnea. GP told him to ask his wife to sew a tennis ball into the back of his PJs 🙄🙄🙄

the bastard snores on his side too so a tennis ball would be no help. Depressing how little they can offer.

Loud snoring is red flag for Obstructive Sleep Apnoea, so definitely need a proper assessment. Can go via your GP (be warned waiting lists are long) or via a private company such as Vivisol UK. The test itself is like wearing a smartwatch - very non-invasive. It will give a proper diagnosis on whether it is "just" snoring or whether it's sleep apnoea (oxygen levels dropping and breathing pauses), plus how severe any sleep apnoea is.

CPAP is needed for severe obstructive sleep apnoea, but a proper mouth guard (Mandibular Advancement Device) is equally as good for mild or moderate. See a specially trained dentist to get one of these (you can get sleep tests through a specialist dentist too). They are very effective and much more portable (and discreet) than CPAP.

Living with untreated sleep apnoea massively increases some health risks, such as stroke, and has also been shown to cause health problems for the sleep-deprived partner. I live with a snorer with sleep apnoea- the mouth guard has changed both our lives

Agree the Howard Light small pink and yellow ear buds are amazing. I suspect they've saved many women from digging deep holes under patios.

I got custom made earplugs, they kind of drowned out the noise but I'm a light sleeper so it was hit & miss. I've also developed a slight issue with one ear and don't want to make it worse so have stopped using them.

The thing that helped was a CPAP machine, you could actually hear the silence but he didn't like wearing it.

I bought him a mouth guard which 90% worked but he said his gums hurt so back to musical beds in the night.

We've booked our next holiday but I'll insist he wears the mouth guard at least, can't afford separate rooms, so he'll have to compromise.

The mouth guard was from Amazon around £15, you may need to change every so often, definitely worth a go though.

Solidarity to all those suffering the effects of a snorer, it's no fun at all.

(I've had a lovely night's sleep as I'm away at a friends for the weekend, what a difference.)

GP gave my husband two decongestant sprays to try and it had made a massive difference. He uses one regularly and the second is if it’s particularly bad. He still gets the occasional snore but nothing like before. The rage his snoring induced was off the scale, it was torture! He had me in tears. Have you also tried changing pillow height ?

earplugs I wear them every night! The Howard light ones that are pink and yellow are a game changer. They take a bit of practice to get them in properly but they work really well. Can still hear alarms etc but they dull the snoring and it doesn’t wake me up

Sorry, he complains he can't get to sleep because if the white noise machine?! Wow.

You and your kids are well-trained/very patient. Has he been tested for sleep apnea because this sounds extreme. I would be tortured by this and it would be relationship-ending.

Honestly it can be relationship ending. I genuinely feel actually hatred for my husband in the middle of the night if he is snoring especially if it's been a few nights of it together. He normally stopes when I poke him to roll over. Logicallly I know he can't help it but my brain doesn't make the distinction at 3 am and I'm just in awful form the following day.

As others have said. He needs referring to a sleep clinic and maybe needs a cpap machine (which is actually quite a soothing swooshing sound). I suffered for so long and I refused to leave the nice comfy bed and demanded he did! I used to survive on 3 hours sleep! There was nearly a murder! Good luck