Snoring spouse

How strange? I wonder if dh hasn't used enough?

Oh that’s a real shame! Hubby has a beard too but for some reason it works on him… hope it continues to work as any other relief has been short lived but this has worked for a few months now 😊

Our sleep study - NHS sent the equipment to the house and you wear it for one night, they collect the data and give you the result. Didn’t need to go to a clinic etc really easy and simple

Mouth tape doesn't work on dh as he has a beard. He tried it.

I was in a similar situation and it was ruining my marriage. I tried every type of ear plug going but couldn’t make it work as I could still hear my husband. I read about mouth taping and he said he would give it a go. It has worked wonders for us and I now do it too as some people say it has multiple health benefits not just for snoring.

The wait time prob will vary depending on where you live.
I hope it’s not too long, but if it does seem ages since him being referred, you could enquire about the likely wait time.

meantime, it might help if his pillow is raised, and or raise the head of the mattress so that his head is elevated?

Have you had a sleep study done? A proper one overnight in a clinic with many wires attached to you and staff watching you and monitoring you all night via CCTV? If you haven’t done that then yes there is more that you can do about it. There’s also snoring mouthguards to try.

@LoveSoftAsAnEasyChair as said he's waiting for the sleep clinic appointment. Hopefully won't have long to wait?

I’m the snorer in our house. Non smoker, non drinker, have lost weight and still I snore. Nothing more I can do about it really. I sleep on my side not my back and still I snore. Fortunately my DH sleeps well.

what you describe as your husbands apparent breathing stopping is a symptom of sleep apnea.

my other half does the halted breathing too when asleep.

it might be useful for some to know he is underweight, and has been showing the symptoms since his late thirties.

So not always overweight people, not always older people….

I have read that sleep apnea can be dangerous, so maybe research it together, and make a decision re investigation into what to do best for him.

If you are cooking dinners for him, you could try making them lower calorie/smaller portions. Losing weight could help (if he has it to lose)

@OrchidOrchard Record him. Record the sound of his snoring and play it back to him. Don’t tell him what it is. He’ll probably comment that it’s a horrible noise or something like that. Once he finds out that it’s him he might understand why you’re unable to sleep through it and might go to the doctor.

My partner was an exceptionally loud snorer and was getting progressively worse which I didn’t think was possible. Since having DD 5 years ago i have real issues sleeping so was at the end of my tether. He went to a sleep clinic and they monitor you to see what is causing it. We thought it was a breathing issue but it actually had something to do with his teeth. He went to a dentist for a specially fitted mouth guard - it was expensive ~£1.3k I think - which took about 6 months to get (as he had to have some fillings removed and redone. But it works! Occasionally he makes a small noise like a gently purring cat but mostly nothing. It lasts decades apparently. The most romantic thing he ever did for me. Hope you manage to get to the bottom of it.

Google Mandibular Device for Snoring. They take a bit of getting used to for the wearer, but they do work. It makes the difference between me able to share a bed and get reasonable sleep and it being totally impossible.

I feel your pain. My DH has bought nose bands and things like that (that don’t work) but refuses to go to GP. I have explained risks of stroke etc, he regularly stops breathing. I have had to wake him in the night to get him going again! He won’t go in the spare room so I tend to. Have told him I’m moving in there permanently when back at work. I have shouted, cried you name it! I do sleep with noise cancelling headphones but the hurt my ears and have to have music or talking book quite loud which then wales me up. He also goes for several wees in the night which wakes me and I sometimes don’t go back to sleep at all. Will try those pink and yellow plugs for when I move in to spare room, you can hear him all over the house.

The combo that works for us is:

DP wears a nose thing that has a magnet on each side and opens up his nostrils. He also uses two pillows as he's a side sleeper and it keeps his neck in a better position.

I use the same earplugs a PP mentioned- the yellow and red ones from Amazon- plus a musicozy or similar headband with white noise playing (actually a mix of air, brown noise, heavy rain and violet noise!). I have eczema in my ears so the earplugs sometimes make them sore, so for a couple of nights I sleep on the sofa (or DP does) to give them a break.

It's extra hard because he works varying shifts but if your DH doesn't have sleep apnoea and need medical intervention then the above might work for you.

I do look forward to the day when we can move house and have two equally comfortable bedrooms though!

@Chakhakhan77 I have slept in a different bedroom from my DH for 20 years, since the DC were still at primary school! I had my own bedroom when we moved into a 4 bed house. Saved our marriage! I couldn't live on no sleep, (and I didn't get any sleep because of his muthfukkin' snoring like an old rhino!) As has been said, sleep deprivation is a form of torture, and is extremely bad (if it's long term,) for your mental, and physical health

As for your issue, the holidays. Our DC have left home now, and when DH and I book a trip together (abroad - or in the UK) we always book 2 single rooms. The last (1 week) holiday we went on via a travel agent cost us £89 each extra. To have a peaceful, relaxing night's sleep, I thought this was worth it. It's just the same trip, with a single person supplement. It doesn't cost you double of everything as you seemed to imply in your OP.

I could never share a bedroom again if my life depended on it. I am waaaaay too used to my lovely cosy OWN bedroom.

Mouth tape, I find helps

I’m a terrible snorer & my husband regularly sleeps in spare room. If we’re away in same room he uses industrial ear defenders 🙈Have been checked & I haven’t got sleep apnea. An ENT surgeon I worked with suggested the Snorban mouth guard & I don’t snore at all with it..assuming I don’t spit it out! It adjusts position of jaw. Think it was around £40.

I have my own room when we go on holiday. It costs us more but the alternative is no sleep,arguing and misery...
At home, we have our own room too.

Sleep is precious.

I used Bolsen earplugs and asked the GP to give me sleeping tablets. You have my sympathy it is horrendous!

A have a friend who did this - his snoring could be heard from other floors! His mouth piece means he’s now silent.

We were given a CPAP by the NHS for mild sleep apnea because of the mentally stress the snoring was causing.
Life changing! LIFE CHANGING, because it silences snoring totally. and also DP went from being tired in the day to feeling much more energetic.
You can buy one yourself - and ignore anyone saying, it’s need to be set up by a tech etc. because they’d don’t, you can do it yourself.
Recommend getting a sleep apnea check done- snoring is a MAJOR sign and it’s easy.

DH decided to go off all junk food a few weeks ago. His snoring has stopped.

edited to say his snoring was frightening, so loud and I honestly thought he had sleep apnea. He went off junk to improve his general health. The snoring cure was a complete surprise but such a relief.

Go to a dentist and ask about sleep well. It's a mouth guard shaped to his mouth. Expensive but total game changer. Good luck.