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To think men only respect women they aren’t attracted to?

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SharpTaupeCrow · 22/08/2025 10:03

It seems like the second a woman is attractive to a man, she’s sexualised, underestimated or dismissed. The women men actually “respect” tend to be the ones they don’t desire. AIBU?

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girljulian · 22/08/2025 10:36

I don't think this is true. Men really disrespect and are more dismissive of women they perceive to be ugly or (God forbid) fat.

Freegrass · 22/08/2025 10:35

No, I think men (and, for that matter, most people), tend to respect people they think are attractive (whether physically and/or in some other way). That is, of course, a massive generalisation considering there are 6 billion people on the planet.

randomchap · 22/08/2025 10:34

Yes, all men are the same. There's no difference between any of them. They all think the same way.

Same with women, all just a homogeneous block.

Men do this, women do that. It's so simple.

CyanDreamer · 22/08/2025 10:32

I just think that most men don't actually like women.

It's like saying that most women don't actually like men. It might be true on MN where men are some weird different alien species sent to earth to destroy or enslave womenkind.

In real life, men and women are just people. Some you like, some you don't.

I think it's also true that PEOPLE have more respect for attractive people in general.

beguilingeyes · 22/08/2025 10:28

I just think that most men don't actually like women. They like sleeping with them, but that's all. Men who genuinely like women are rarer than rocking horse shit.
I have a friend who would absolutely tell you he loves women, been known to wear one of those 'this is what a feminist looks like' t-shirts and has never been out with a woman over 30 (he's 62 now). He's the Leonardo de Caprio of North London.

Kuretake · 22/08/2025 10:07

That's also reasonably supported by evidence by the way. Attractive women earn more, are promoted earlier and are less likely to be dismissed. None of that sounds like being underestimated or disrespected.

Kuretake · 22/08/2025 10:05

Honestly not my experience at work. I mean men can be shits to women for all sorts of reasons but my anecdotal observation from years of office based work is that they underestimate ugly women much more.

Imperfectpolly · 22/08/2025 10:05

This is suggesting that men don't respect their wives or if they do respect them, they dont desire them. I don't agree with this.

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