Spelling Bee should have been compulsory

Discrete instead of discreet. I read a bloody novel with the wrong one recently!!!! Too many exclamation marks is another! 😉

Why does it have to be one or the other?

People can have both.

I am not sure why you asked for my post to be deleted, is it really not possible to have different opinions? I am being shamed by having the post deleted , it's humiliating 😂

My DD might not be able to spell but at least she has manners, dignity and is a genuinely nice person.

You don't think its humiliation for someone to have to publicly display a disability?

Would you expect a child with mobility issues to have to run sprint in front of the whole school for example?

I am a massive hypocrite as my understanding of punctuation and grammar rules is abysmal for someone who frequently gets paid to write (write, not edit!).

I am also a very lazy writer on forums, and spend a large part of most days writing very conversationally to clients via a real time messenger portal, so I will forget to capitalise 'I' and I'll use American spellings and slang (particularly when actually talking to people in the USA).

I also type very quickly and often my fingers will put in the wrong word without my brains knowledge, so I might think 'cue' and write 'queue' or vice versa!

Language always evolves and we're likely to see what I think of as a slide back to earlier times when spelling was widely considered optional and sentence structure rather different!

What really pisses me off though, is people who are not dyslexic, who get very riled at others not understanding what they say, but won't do a thing to improve their written communications. They're almost always asking for help with something, often feel as if someone owes them that help, but will not make it easier for that person to understand what it is they need!

It is pure laziness when someone writes 'Ano' instead of 'I know', or to not break up sentences with commas and full stops, or use paragraphs.

The other thing that rather irrationally gets on my wick is 'sth' or 'smth'. Abbreviating phrases, or several words, such as BRB or shortening words like 'identification' to ID is fine, but 'sth' or 'smth' for 'something' truly grinds my gears!

I tend to sit on my hands when people use the wrong word or incorrect spelling, particularly if it is just once. If they repeatedly use the wrong word, where that word has a totally different meaning to the one they intended or in fact the opposite meaning, then depending on context, I might say something.

Eg. 'defiantly' vs 'definitely' - being definite vs defiant are two very different things!

There is someone I know who uses 'thew' instead of 'few' which frankly, baffles me and I think it's related to his accent as well as dyslexia!

your little darling not being the best means you think it's "humiliating" for the school to hold a spelling bee.

Lack of resilience is the most polite and kindest way I can describe that attitude.

A race to the bottom 🤣 No, just the necessary interventions needed would suffice.

You're completely right - not being first isn't shaming and to expect that is nonsense.

Not wanting to feel humiliation in front of your peers is a completely normal reaction for a child. Particularly when being a dyslexic child is challenging enough on a daily basis.

And thanks for the parenting advice on my now not-so-little darling...throughout all these years I really hadn't considered how resilience may help. Should have posted years ago.

DD is dyslexic... which led to DH finding out he is dyslexic.

He holds down a professional job... but needs written reports proof reading as he can't puck up if he has used the wrong word if it scans right. It has been very educational!

Its easy to judgemental but one post on Social Media doesn't tell the whole story.

I taught Textiles for 25 years. That word ‘sequences’ used to drive me mental!! I’d write it on the board, tell them how to spell it over and over again. They still fucking wrote ‘sequences’

l saw it in the Debenhams website once!

Brought (bought) something at the shops.
Stopped at boarder (border) control.

Drives me nuts, I'm really good at spelling (80's kid) but let down by tiny keyboards on my devices!

what's the point of your post?

Do you mean we should always have a race to the bottom, and because someone struggles, for any reason, we should lower the standards?

No amount of shaming through spelling bees/
If your little darling is not the best somewhere, we must remove the area they struggle with? Is that what you mean?

Not being first is NOT shaming. We really need to stop with that nonsense.
Teach your kids some resilience instead of trying to create snowflakes who will struggle immensely in the adult work.

How about we start up a lighthearted thread about people with acne/anxiety/depression/overweight (get meds or diet). Or perhaps someone with a condition (autism/diabetes for example) that they haven't asked for, that makes their life particularly different and difficult, and not only highlight this but be righteous too.

What is clear is to me is that the righteous on here have not had to experience dyslexia themselves or another close family member. They also haven't educated themselves on what dyslexia affects apart from spelling, and the impact that this has on everyday life for many.

In my experience of having a child and now teen with dyslexia it is a constant battle in so many aspects. It impacts not only his education but everyday life. Including how he feels about himself. Luckily, and what is common with dyslexic children and adults is that they read people and not words. As this is the case they can be extremely creative problem solvers, which is a skill that only seems to be recognised in the workplace. Plus, their emotional intelligence and compassion is enviable - I'm sure it would be by some posters on this thread, the OP included.

Dyslexia is not related to the amount of cash you have/your social class/poor parenting. No amount of shaming through spelling bees/sitting them down with a book/listen to the teacher will help this.

I just find posts like this are done in really bad taste.

And for anyone that wants to check my post for spelling/grammar feel free. I really couldn't give a damn.

To be fair, that's how spelling worked before it was standardised in the 18th century.

I like Dave Gorman's take on this kind of thing. He has a knack of enjoying the Easter eggs it turns up without belittling people.

Restbite - brilliant, how apposite. Language doing its thing.

My children always thought rucksacks were rocksacks, and it was so damn cute I didn't correct them for years. When you are a small child yor rocksack might well contain your favourite rocks. I came down hard on marshmellows though (happily a nice soft landing...urgh).

"Hi FB Group, Please delete if not aloud but i need to ask a question - is the big ASDA open today? TIA"

A Mondegreen

A spelling bee wouldn't help, but the number of people who use "of" when they should use "have" is mind-boggling.

It is in my experience.

A lot of dyslexics (not all as it is a massive spectrum and a lot more than reading and spelling) will spell very phonetically, so all they will hear and want to write is aloud when they mean allowed.

My daughter spells with numerous different ways including wif, wiv, and (I struggle with this one) wih. Its amazing how used you get to decoding a dyslexics spellings!

I suppose a related point is that thanks to screens children are now being exposed to less and lower quality written language.

Before the internet they would spend more time reading books which had all been proofread before going to print.

Now they'll spend less time reading books and more time watching YouTube, but also be exposed to poorer quality written English online because most of what is on the internet is effectively self published and has been posted by people whose spelling and grammar might not be that great.

So not only does the internet expose the fact that many people can't write properly, it also contributes to people not learning to write properly in the first place. A perpetual cycle of shit.