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Should we move house due to not liking the layout?

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FigTree123 · 21/08/2025 21:41

I feel a bit crazy for asking this and very aware it sounds like such a non-problem! We moved into our current house just over 2 years ago (3 bed detached) with DS who is now 4. I had no real desire to move from our old house which was admittedly smaller and a bit tired - we had been there 7 years, DS was born there, and although it was missing some things we would like as a growing family, it felt like home and I was content. DH really hated it there by the time we moved so he pushed for it and I went along with it.

I digress... The current house although certainly an upgrade just doesn't do it for me. It's mainly the layout. Everything is on the ground floor bar the living room which is on a lower level (garden has to be accessed through there or down stairs at the side of the house). I don't like coming up to the kitchen and leaving DS downstairs, also it feels there is nowhere to sit when you come in the front door other than the kitchen table or DSs room which seems to happen often as it's the first room you come to. I feel there's no privacy with the bedrooms and the living area does not get used well. It doesn't feel like it flows well especially with a kid. So, we're considering moving but I worry that I'm being really silly about this?? If we moved it would be a similar size i.e 3 bedrooms but likely semi detached and cheaper, as we've also discovered we really don't have a lot of spare money just now to do many renovations alongside balancing holidays and what-not. As much as it's not working for me I still feel this ache that this is our home (a lovely one at that on paper) and we'd be starting again. Help!

OP posts:
mmsnet · 21/08/2025 22:11

extension cost could easily go over £100K on a house youre not sure about.

DH made you move last time now its your turn to move

FigTree123 · 21/08/2025 22:04

@mmsnet honestly it was a rushed decision. DH was miserable and I was feeling the pressure. The difficulty is he loves it here and doesn't see these things as problematic. I don't think we could change the layout. We spoke about extending into the driveway to make a second living room or converting the garage but realistically it's too expensive on an already expensive house.

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mmsnet · 21/08/2025 21:59

i would personally hate that layout and look to move

how would you even renovate it?

why did you buy it in the first place?

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