Date asking strange questions

Release release. Def sounds weird.

Ick !!!!
when I started dating my current husband I was off course worried I had 2 children already and early on I think he realised this was making me pull away of moving on .
It took me a while to trust him but I still remeber him telling me , he didn’t care at all I had children , I could have 5 kids and he would still stay with me because he loved me .
We got married this year and he had been nothing but a great stepdads and dad .
I wouldn’t even contemplate another date with anyone that called my kids luggage

Bit harsh - OP has just lost confidence after being out of the dating game for a while and is looking for reassurance. Being a single parent reassurance is welcome when in new territory

Sorry, but even as a bloke, this sounds all wrong. The bottom line is, if YOU feel uncomfortable, then it's not right. End now.

If he's asking what you would give up to be with him by the third date, imagine what he would be asking you to give up if you were in a serious relationship with him. Maybe ask him what he would be prepared to give up if he wanted more children?

Perfect response:). Imagine what he’d be like in a few months time- dread to think! Op: trust your instincts that are telling you you’ve hit the wall with him. He sounds like he loves himself and thinks he’s a god

I’d delay your response but when you do, say sorry I’ve yet to get back to you, I’ve been busy with my baggage anyway chat later I’m off to karate and I don’t have time for you.

How rude!

Block him!

when I was internet dating a random guy messaged me out of the blue saying you’re attractive but I don’t single women because the kids always come first lol! The fact he took time out of his day to even message that was unreal. He was also about 60 stone with a porno tash 🤢

Get away. Total ICK.

What a creep! Probably an idiot and a creep.
Essentially he was sussing out whether you would like to give up everything else in your life and be barefoot in the kitchen.
I think he was actually trying to understand if he could control you. I think you should run very far away!!!

Funny that men with kids don’t consider themselves to be the ones with baggage. Only women….

As an aside don’t talk about all your bad exes and past relationships so early on. It’s a bit much and like catnip to weirdos.

him suggesting having kids with you on date THREE is insane.

get away from this clunker

Don’t you DARE let this utter waste of skin make you feel even slightly crap about yourself

HE is showing you who he is. Someone who will tear your soul to pieces. I bet the reason he has such an appalling relationship with his ex, because he’s abused and denigrated her for years.

just ghost the MF. Drop him like the sack of shit he is.

Not to his face
but no doubt sitting in the car as you drove him home and he was spouting this to you, you may well have thought it…

Probably not, but I wouldn't call him a walking bell-end. 😁

He could have meant that you might have to give up karate for a short period late in pregnancy/immediately after, or with a difficult pregnancy - still a weird thing to ask on a first date. But it sounds more like he thinks doing karate now could have a negative cumulative health effect that would lower the odds of getting pregnant or introduce health risks, which is on the crank end of the spectrum but in any case not his business at this stage.

The "what do I see in you" question is "negging" - and even if it's somehow not intentional, it's really rude and the first date is much too early to be rude. But the only real answer to "why do you think I picked you?" is "because you thought we might be compatible". Which, apparently, you aren't. Toss this one back, perhaps with a sigh of relief that he said the quiet part out loud so soon that you didn't waste much time on him!

So you would give him the benefit of the doubt @MrsJeanLuc

If only you had played it back to him regarding his baggage.
definitely drop him op

Yes, I was going to say this. It’s safer to keep it light and say something like “it just didn’t work out”.

Yes - I've never done OLD because I am old 😝 but back in my dating days when everything was "in person" and there were no smart phones let alone dating apps this applied just as much; until you have joint commitments (whether children, a home, pets or whatever) you don't need a reason not to see the person any more, you just need to be polite about how you end things. Any feeling that the person is not someone who values you and you are right to end it.

You should have reasons to bother to see the person again - you don't need reasons not to.

Being single is the default and is a good way to be, with all that freedom to make your own decisions and do things your way - you can and should walk away from a relationship or date you have doubts about and whoch doesn't on balance make your life and the way you feel better rather than worse than being single.

Absolutely negging. Trying to knock your confidence so you feel grateful he’s with you. Get out now, he will continue you make you feel shit about yourself.

It doesn’t sound like he just meant during pregnancy either, more like she could never do it again after she had children. I read it that he expects mothers to stay in the kitchen and not have hobbies or a life outside the home. Ugh.

Clearly he knows very little about karate if he thinks you can't be pregnant and do karate.

I briefly dated someone who didn't like me doing judo because I'd get bruises. I dumped him. I'd NEVER date someone who wants me to give up my martial art or sport.

😁