Are you psychoanalysis your date or assuming things without actually asking him 'what do you mean by that?' Or 'I'm not sure where you are going with this.' Jumping to conclusions or assumptions can destroy what could become a beautiful relationship.
Previous bad experiences cloud our perspectives. We are more defensive and judgemental. Never again will we be betrayed, lied to, used; nor will we blindly trust. Others will have to EARN my respect and trust by running a psychological gauntlet by responding correctly to all my seeminingly innoccuous questions. I know, bc I I was devastated by a breakup and, yes, became very discerning and mentally aware.
I dont think his questions were unreasonable. I like open honesty rather than ppl who hold back their truths and emotions. To me, that's subversiveness and dishonesty. Don't pause before responses bc that means you are editing your response or lying.
If he asked if you would consider stopping your karate for childbearing, you can't assume he meant forever. He just wants children of his own. This is a normal desire for most ppl. You could suspend Karate for prenatal safety and do yoga. Martial arts keeps us healthy and it's beneficial to have those skills for protection for your family, kids and friends.
How do you know what a person is thinking when they ask a question? You don't, unless you ask. He may have been trying to find out what you thought of him and his baggage but thought it better to put the focus on you instead of coming across as self-absorbed if phrasing the question differently. We can't assume we know what he meant or why he asked, unless you ask for clarification.
If you feel uncomfortable, say so. If you feel insulted, tell him. Why let something fester or turn you off when it could just be word choices or misunderstandings. Men don't express themselves as well as women, bc they dont sit in a group of guys talking abt feelings, psychology or situational crises like women do.
We don't need to make anyone jump through hoops or prove they aren't like past significant others who let us down. Give him a chance to speak and explain himself. Don't just get offended and cut him off bc he touched a sensitive spot or said something 'wrong' that triggered your Spidey Sense.
Some day, you could be with someone you are really attracted to but they suddenly, without warning, give you the cold shoulder and stop speaking to you. Dump. That is hurtful, unkind and unnecessary. Even if your relationship doesn't seem like it will work, tell him so, tell him positive things but also tell him why you aren't ready for more [with him]; though you dont want to hold him back. Ask to remain just friends...don't make him feel rejected or a failure. Dating new ppl is stressful enough.
Take off the Prickly Pear jacket and give him a chance to explain himself. Even if it's just a phonecall. It sounds as if attraction is there.