Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To be slightly loving hearing my kids misbehave?

138 replies

Houghers · 21/08/2025 14:42

I’m a SAHM. Dh appreciates what I do in the home but every now I will get an annoying comment like “well I’m the one getting up at 3 am tomorrow” (dh is a pilot). These comments are rare but they can sting when I perceive them to mean DH’s role/routine is of more importance than mine.

Anyway, dh has today off. He has said I can have the day to myself. I spent the morning out with my sister and am now in my robe ready to get in the bath and just deep condition EVERYTHING ahead of a meal out with friends.

Our bedroom has a Juliet balcony. I can hear the kids being absolute terrors for dh in the garden. They are normally quite easy going but it’s one of those days. And the dog is randomly being a bit of a handful as well. I can hear dh is stressed in his voice. He went out to the garden with his laptop and a coffee and neither have been touched.

He just asked my son “what’s going on with you today, mate?” 😂

Im in bed. Secretly loving the kids giving him a hard time

Two of the kids go to school/nursery (part time for one). But I always love when he gets an insight into what my life looks like.

OP posts:
Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/08/2025 16:26

Coconutter24 · 21/08/2025 16:22

Who said anything about him being a special man with a special big man job? No it doesn’t absolve him of parenting but as OP is a stay at home mum that usually has very little down time, even on dads day off mums are usually there doing the bulk of it but he’s told her she can have the day off, so now she is free to do whatever she chooses and it sounds like a nice day. I just don’t understand the gloating after he’s done something nice for her

Show quote history

Because it isn't something nice for her, is it? It's being an equal parent.

And this is a chat forum, she can post whatever she likes.

DelilahMy · 21/08/2025 16:25

.

Coconutter24 · 21/08/2025 16:22

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/08/2025 15:51

Being a special man with a special big man job doesn't absolve him of parenting his children.

The OP must get this day in day out at home with the kids.

Sometimes it is nice to know that kids are being kids which includes misbehaving, and realising the other person also gets to have a slice of your life, while you take a step back.

Show quote history

Who said anything about him being a special man with a special big man job? No it doesn’t absolve him of parenting but as OP is a stay at home mum that usually has very little down time, even on dads day off mums are usually there doing the bulk of it but he’s told her she can have the day off, so now she is free to do whatever she chooses and it sounds like a nice day. I just don’t understand the gloating after he’s done something nice for her

mumofoneAloneandwell · 21/08/2025 16:21

Yanbu at all 😄, have a lovely evening out x

FirmAzurePoet · 21/08/2025 16:09

So, on his day off he has the kids, told you to do whatever you like...and you're gloating he is struggling? I don't get the mentality.
All because he mentions the time he has to be up every now and again?

VaseofViolets · 21/08/2025 15:58

You’re enjoying the fact his life’s being made more difficult and stressful by your kids misbehaving? Nice. That’s team player behaviour right there. Glad you’re not on mine 🙄

Parksinyork · 21/08/2025 15:55

I imagine they’re playing up because they’re used to you prempting the need for drinks, snacks and redirecting them away from things when you know in 10 mins there will be a kick off if they continue.

My DH took 2 weeks off work when my Mum died. I was still around doing some stuff and he had way less to do then I normally would. He was exhausted but then he was also grieving too. But it gave him a better insight into my days.

VickyEadieofThigh · 21/08/2025 15:55

I'm flying tomorrow. Hope this stressed out pilot isn't flying my plane.

Tagyoureit · 21/08/2025 15:52

I do relish those moments 😂

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/08/2025 15:51

Coconutter24 · 21/08/2025 15:19

I voted YABU, your DH has a job which must be quite stressful at times because of how much pressure there is to safely get people about plus he obviously works long hours and early starts. Yet he’s got a day off and said he’ll watch the kids so you can also have a day off to do whatever you want but you’re hear gloating that he’s sounding stressed and the kids are misbehaving.

Being a special man with a special big man job doesn't absolve him of parenting his children.

The OP must get this day in day out at home with the kids.

Sometimes it is nice to know that kids are being kids which includes misbehaving, and realising the other person also gets to have a slice of your life, while you take a step back.

Coconutter24 · 21/08/2025 15:19

I voted YABU, your DH has a job which must be quite stressful at times because of how much pressure there is to safely get people about plus he obviously works long hours and early starts. Yet he’s got a day off and said he’ll watch the kids so you can also have a day off to do whatever you want but you’re hear gloating that he’s sounding stressed and the kids are misbehaving.

nomas · 21/08/2025 14:56

You had me at SAHM.

Lock the bathroom / bedroom door.

TinyCottageGirl · 21/08/2025 14:49

Haha no I would be the same and absolutely love it!