To be slightly loving hearing my kids misbehave?

Tbh I have to land on this side, particularly as you say the kids are typically pretty easy. I’d have been standing in the bath telling them to rein it in on solidarity with DH.

A lot of people on MN have no idea what that means

He's parenting his own children, as she does every day. Absolutely no harm in the OP being him for a bit.

My thoughts too. You are VERY privilliged OP
You admit that the comments re getting up at 3am are rare.
But the 3am starts are real and contribute to you being a Sahm

I don’t need to but thanks anyway

Lighten up

I agree. Really nasty post from the op.

See I love overhearing my kids plotting things they think must be super secret/not allowed, but i don't mind.

I overheard them the other day plotting in secret to get up together and eat their breakfast before i was up, and mix the cereals. They were whispering on the stairs for about 10 minutes.

Please ladies, tell me I’m not the only one who went “Aw didums” in my head.
Pilots are “apparently” in amongst a sector of people who psychologists say can have a “God Complex”.
Now I am definitely not saying ops DH is in that group but I am saying he shouldn’t be placed on a pedestal because of his responsibilities.
Parenting children is one of the hardest jobs in the world, raising these tiny people to be fine upstanding citizens capable of taking their turns in helping the world turn, rather than setting fire to it.
Of course it’s fair he should have a turn of the bad as well as the good.
you enjoy your day OP, you deserve it.

Doesn’t sound like a great marriage to be honest.

Oh no I am exactly the same!
We have two (4&5) and the 5 yo has non verbal ASD/adhd so is SUPER hard work.
Hubby is a specialist doctor and I think he often thinks he’s got the harder job then every so often he has a few days actually parenting and gets completely humbled. It’s quite nice actually, the entire narrative has changed over the last year from ‘you get to stay home’ to ‘Jesus I wouldn’t want to swap with you’

If they were ‘being equal’ they’d both be at home dealing with the kids instead it is something nice for her to have a day off from them to relax and do as she pleases. Sounds quite a treat actually!! I don’t understand how you can’t see he’s trying to do something nice for OP.

And yes I’m aware it’s a chat forum and never once said OP can’t post what she likes but like you say it’s a chat forum so I can equally post an opinion on something someone writes!

OP, good for bloody you! I bet he doesn’t do the night feeds, or help in the evenings

YABU

You have kids at nursery, husband to take over.
Who has the most free time between the 2?

Moaning about his 3am starts and going on about how his wife has it so much easier… also not exactly ‘team player’ behaviour

I took this as quite a light hearted chuckle from OP that her DH is finding out that being the sole parent in charge can be hard work too. I'm sure he wouldn't be stressed for long. It's just a moment. I don't think that getting mildly frustrated with his children and dog is going to make him unsafe to fly.

OP yanbu at all. I've been a SAHM and an employed out of the home mum. Both have their challenges. The hardest bit of being a sahm for me was how relentless it was, never getting away from it, then DH huffing around acting like I was on some kind of permanent holiday. His attitude always improved after a spell of having to be the one in charge.

I hope you enjoy the rest of your day off OP.

Of course it’s not. Her DH disparages what she does.

Bloody hell all the kill joys on this thread! It's not deep or a reflection on the OPs marriage just a lighthearted post. And yes OP I'd be the same as you.

She said, "They are normally quite easy going" so it isn't really more realistic, a realistic day would be them being quite easy going.

I think her post is nasty.

I think OP means that it’s good that DH gets a more realistic experience of what life as a SAHM mom is like not that she wants him to deliberately be upset.

Nope I wouldn't my hubby also has a very stressful long hours job and when it's a day off he will join straight in looking after the kids, yes I will pop off do my own thing but if I hear them playing up I will be right there to help aswell, there always our kids and a partnership to me both sides do there best regardless of who does what

I find it a bit weird that you seem to see your marriage as a sort of competition.

I don't think him saying 'I'll be the one up at 3am' is really suggesting his role is more important, merely pointing out that there are pros and cons to his role as well as yours. Him moaning about having to get up at 3am is no different to you moaning about how difficult it is looking after your kids.

I loan a horse from my riding school one day a week in exchange for work and this snotty teenage brat who has her own ponies is always making comments about how everything must be "so easy for me because he is a school horse, its not like having a 'real' horse" Everything I achieve is dismissed as 'anyone can ride a school horse."

Her pony went lame and she had a lesson on said school horse. He was an absolute twat for her. He was rude, bolshy, refused to trot, only canter, was difficult on the ground, wouldn't stand and nipped her when she went to put his bridle on. Was just generally an arse the whole lesson.

She came out in tears, thrust him at me and stormed off. He stood quietly and scratched my back for me while I untacked him and gave me big slobbery kisses before wandering off up the field. Am I still enjoying the warm glow of secret smugness? Yes, yes I am.

Sometimes it's just nice when people realise that you work damn hard and actually what you do isn't easy. It's satisfying watching your point be proven.