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To be slightly loving hearing my kids misbehave?

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Houghers · 21/08/2025 14:42

I’m a SAHM. Dh appreciates what I do in the home but every now I will get an annoying comment like “well I’m the one getting up at 3 am tomorrow” (dh is a pilot). These comments are rare but they can sting when I perceive them to mean DH’s role/routine is of more importance than mine.

Anyway, dh has today off. He has said I can have the day to myself. I spent the morning out with my sister and am now in my robe ready to get in the bath and just deep condition EVERYTHING ahead of a meal out with friends.

Our bedroom has a Juliet balcony. I can hear the kids being absolute terrors for dh in the garden. They are normally quite easy going but it’s one of those days. And the dog is randomly being a bit of a handful as well. I can hear dh is stressed in his voice. He went out to the garden with his laptop and a coffee and neither have been touched.

He just asked my son “what’s going on with you today, mate?” 😂

Im in bed. Secretly loving the kids giving him a hard time

Two of the kids go to school/nursery (part time for one). But I always love when he gets an insight into what my life looks like.

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Coconutter24 · 21/08/2025 20:15

Anna467 · 21/08/2025 19:16

OP you forgot to put 'lighthearted' clearly in your title as some people are taking this waaay too seriously.

Wouldn't putting ‘lighthearted’ in the title be the equivalent of when someone makes a joke to put someone down or say a shitty thing to someone and they say “joking” or “only kidding”?

Middlechild3 · 21/08/2025 20:06

Jimmyneutronsforehead · 21/08/2025 15:51

Being a special man with a special big man job doesn't absolve him of parenting his children.

The OP must get this day in day out at home with the kids.

Sometimes it is nice to know that kids are being kids which includes misbehaving, and realising the other person also gets to have a slice of your life, while you take a step back.

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But he clearly doesn't consider himself absolved of parenting his children......he's home and looking after them. He can't when he's not there working, but that salary does enable op to be a sahm.

CyanDreamer · 21/08/2025 19:59

Anna467 · 21/08/2025 19:16

OP you forgot to put 'lighthearted' clearly in your title as some people are taking this waaay too seriously.

they're having a different opinion you mean?

LoveItaly · 21/08/2025 19:37

FirmAzurePoet · 21/08/2025 18:59

Op being him for a bit? Unless I've missed an update nowhere does op say he does nothing and doesn't help out. Only thing mentioned is that he brings up having to start at 3am

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Exactly. Anyone would think he sits on his backside watching TV all day from some of the replies.
I wonder at the OP having a third child if it’s such hard work with the existing two.

EnchantedQuill · 21/08/2025 19:31

you sound horrible

PHB65 · 21/08/2025 19:24

CyanDreamer · 21/08/2025 18:37

oh please, we all parent.

At least you can have lazy days when you parent, no one must live an instagram life, and you can slob around with your little ones at home once in awhile.

As a passenger (travelling with my own kids!), I have no doubt that the pilot is having a much much harder job than you or I will ever have 😂

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When did I say his job wasn’t hard? 😳
Both parents are entitled to lazy days as you put it.
OPs just happened to be today, while he looked after his own crotch goblins ( such a perfect name for their behaviour today 😂)
Parenting is a partnership, and you forget he offered.

Weekmindedfool · 21/08/2025 19:23

PInkyStarfish · 21/08/2025 18:10

I agree. Really nasty post from the op.

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Agreed

Weekmindedfool · 21/08/2025 19:23

PHB65 · 21/08/2025 18:00

Please ladies, tell me I’m not the only one who went “Aw didums” in my head.
Pilots are “apparently” in amongst a sector of people who psychologists say can have a “God Complex”.
Now I am definitely not saying ops DH is in that group but I am saying he shouldn’t be placed on a pedestal because of his responsibilities.
Parenting children is one of the hardest jobs in the world, raising these tiny people to be fine upstanding citizens capable of taking their turns in helping the world turn, rather than setting fire to it.
Of course it’s fair he should have a turn of the bad as well as the good.
you enjoy your day OP, you deserve it.

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🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Weekmindedfool · 21/08/2025 19:21

FirmAzurePoet · 21/08/2025 18:59

Op being him for a bit? Unless I've missed an update nowhere does op say he does nothing and doesn't help out. Only thing mentioned is that he brings up having to start at 3am

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This.

Weekmindedfool · 21/08/2025 19:20

VaseofViolets · 21/08/2025 15:58

You’re enjoying the fact his life’s being made more difficult and stressful by your kids misbehaving? Nice. That’s team player behaviour right there. Glad you’re not on mine 🙄

My first thoughts as well.

LittleBearPad · 21/08/2025 19:19

Goodness me there’s some killjoys in this thread.

He’ll be ok. It’s only a day’s solo parenting. Hope he brings you a cuppa OP or glass of wine!

Anna467 · 21/08/2025 19:16

OP you forgot to put 'lighthearted' clearly in your title as some people are taking this waaay too seriously.

FirmAzurePoet · 21/08/2025 18:59

usedtobeaylis · 21/08/2025 18:32

He's parenting his own children, as she does every day. Absolutely no harm in the OP being him for a bit.

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Op being him for a bit? Unless I've missed an update nowhere does op say he does nothing and doesn't help out. Only thing mentioned is that he brings up having to start at 3am

Neemie · 21/08/2025 18:53

HundredMilesAnHour · 21/08/2025 18:41

What?! So she’s getting up at 3am and piloting a plane? Unless she’s also an experienced pilot, there’s a LOT of harm
in “the OP being him for a bit”.

Maybe the OP can try getting a job and seeing how it feels when her DH gloats about her working?

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If OP suggested piloting was easy and low stress, then her DH might find it amusing and satisfying if she found landing a plane on a flight simulator rather challenging.

Zippidydoodah · 21/08/2025 18:53

VaseofViolets · 21/08/2025 15:58

You’re enjoying the fact his life’s being made more difficult and stressful by your kids misbehaving? Nice. That’s team player behaviour right there. Glad you’re not on mine 🙄

I agree with this.

Being a SAHM is hard, no doubt (yes I have been one). I’m sure being a pilot is quite fucking hard, too.

Coconutter24 · 21/08/2025 18:51

usedtobeaylis · 21/08/2025 18:32

He's parenting his own children, as she does every day. Absolutely no harm in the OP being him for a bit.

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Being him? He’s getting up at 3am to go to work, (which also put Op in a privileged position that she can be a SAHM). OP spent the morning out with her sister and then at home in her robe whilst she got ready to get in the bath before going out for a meal with friends so it doesn’t sound like she’s ‘being him’

Neemie · 21/08/2025 18:50

VaseofViolets · 21/08/2025 15:58

You’re enjoying the fact his life’s being made more difficult and stressful by your kids misbehaving? Nice. That’s team player behaviour right there. Glad you’re not on mine 🙄

They are his kids as well.

millymoo1202 · 21/08/2025 18:48

Have a fantastic evening, I’m eye rolling at some of these comments! Good god it’s light hearted ,

daisychain01 · 21/08/2025 18:44

The word you need is schadenfreude and you've described it perfectly in your thread title

to be slightly loving .....

describes exactly the mischievous pleasure you get from your kids playing up to their dad.

absolutely no harm done, you have to deal with it every day of the week, now it's his turn!

enjoy the secret smile.

HundredMilesAnHour · 21/08/2025 18:41

usedtobeaylis · 21/08/2025 18:32

He's parenting his own children, as she does every day. Absolutely no harm in the OP being him for a bit.

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What?! So she’s getting up at 3am and piloting a plane? Unless she’s also an experienced pilot, there’s a LOT of harm
in “the OP being him for a bit”.

Maybe the OP can try getting a job and seeing how it feels when her DH gloats about her working?

FOJN · 21/08/2025 18:40

I’m a SAHM. Dh appreciates what I do in the home but every now I will get an annoying comment like “well I’m the one getting up at 3 am tomorrow” (dh is a pilot). These comments are rare but they can sting when I perceive them to mean DH’s role/routine is of more importance than mine.

There is no context regarding his remarks about a 3am start. Using it as an excuse not to load the dishwasher at 6pm because it's your job as a SAHM vs negotiating who is getting up to attend to the baby at midnight are two very different scenarios.

I understand why it's satisfying to hear him finding out that a whole day of parenting is exhausting and stressful when you think he sometimes sees your contribution to the family as less important but I think it would be better to talk to him about that rather than feel smug that he's struggling with something you have far more experience with.

Enjoy your evening out.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 21/08/2025 18:40

He thought he would take his laptop into the garden and sit down ha ha ha
at least now he knows better

tellmesomethingtrue · 21/08/2025 18:40

He does have an important job and probably earns very well too. If he messes up at work due to stress or tiredness, there would be a world of trouble.

CyanDreamer · 21/08/2025 18:40

usedtobeaylis · 21/08/2025 18:32

He's parenting his own children, as she does every day. Absolutely no harm in the OP being him for a bit.

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they're both parenting, but one has a full time job and the other one doesn't. Kids are not even at home full time.

What's the point of trying to score points exactly? It doesn't make a happy marriage. A bit of respect and appreciation on both sides would work so much better.

CyanDreamer · 21/08/2025 18:37

PHB65 · 21/08/2025 18:00

Please ladies, tell me I’m not the only one who went “Aw didums” in my head.
Pilots are “apparently” in amongst a sector of people who psychologists say can have a “God Complex”.
Now I am definitely not saying ops DH is in that group but I am saying he shouldn’t be placed on a pedestal because of his responsibilities.
Parenting children is one of the hardest jobs in the world, raising these tiny people to be fine upstanding citizens capable of taking their turns in helping the world turn, rather than setting fire to it.
Of course it’s fair he should have a turn of the bad as well as the good.
you enjoy your day OP, you deserve it.

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oh please, we all parent.

At least you can have lazy days when you parent, no one must live an instagram life, and you can slob around with your little ones at home once in awhile.

As a passenger (travelling with my own kids!), I have no doubt that the pilot is having a much much harder job than you or I will ever have 😂