To be slightly loving hearing my kids misbehave?

Not unreasonable at all!!! It’s perfectly normal to ‘enjoy’ your other half experiencing what you experience plenty of times, and gaining an appreciation of the work that you do!
(Dare I say, I even enjoyed it a bit too reading this post 🤣 very cathartic lol)

who said that? You are not reading the thread, you're projecting.

The working parent is also keeping the kids safe, providing them with you know.. a roof, food.

The difference is that the husband just looks after his own kids, but it's the OP laughing at him when they're being difficult. I miss the bit where the husband laughs at the OP when the kids are difficult with her? Where was that?

accidentally clicked you are being unreasonable sorry about that. i’m in agreement with you!

Hope you have a lovely relax OP! I'm lucky to have sahd as a partner and it means I can get on with my (important lol) job without stressing about school pickups and extracurriculars. He also does all the washing, groceries during the week, I do the weekends and we share the cooking.
I would never dream of saying he's got it easy, have even tried to coax him back into part-time work for his sanity. They are teenagers so at least the nights are ok. It's a tough gig keeping little humans alive and maintaining your own sense of self.
Enjoy 🥂

And no one’s said it’s not great that he’s told OP to take the day for herself. She doesn’t have to prostrate herself in gratitude though!

In similar circumstances my DH would smile wryly and bring me a G&T

Oh get a grip.

He won’t be getting up at 3am everyday.
When he’s flying long haul he’ll be in nice hotels relaxing before coming back.

Irs a very responsible job but it’s not that terrifying!

Who said his job is more important? He does work and gets up at 3am yet on this day off he tells OP to go do what she wants for the day, I’m failing to understand how people aren’t seeing he’s being thoughtful/kind and OP is gloating he’s struggling. He could quite easily of spent the day relaxing himself while OP looks after the kids but instead he’s looking after them to give op a break. No one has also said dads shouldn’t be bothered by their own kids 🤷‍♀️
Im sure if ops DH was on here he’d be very disappointed with her post!!

I’m sure he knows what looking after his children is like.

OP I think you’re husband is secretly on MN.

Seriously though, what bullshit. OP has to permanently keep the kids safe and probably does everything on her own at home. Why are men’s jobs always portrayed as “more important” and when they get home they should be waited on and not bothered by THEIR OWN kids. Fuck that.

Tbh it makes you seem like a spiteful bitch. His job is likely difficult hours and quite high pressured and being a SAHM is quite a privilege: only the rich or the very poor can afford that. I would be pretty damn happy my husband offered to have kids for the whole day without being asked and refusing to bother you even if he's struggling with it.
If you don't like being a SAHM and all the terrible effort it is for you then get a job and send them to nursery. You sound like you have a lovely easy life.

This reeks of jealousy and bitterness.

Come on!

She's not gloating, get a grip! It's just edifying that her DH has a glimmer into her life, looking after their DC, most of the time.

Ooh what a horrible scrote. Jealousy is a nasty thing.

Good for you OP and I hope you enjoy every single minute of your lovely day, you deserve it.
It's not often us mums get time to ourselves, and even when we do, we tend to cut ourselves short and end up mucking in anyway - but absolutely do not! Make sure you switch off to the noise of the kids playing up and do not allow yourself to be sucked in and start rallying the kids and dog to behave. It's clear they're simply playing up at the novelty of having dad home. It'll soon wear off and they'll settle down for him. He knows what his kids are like. And he sees what you do, hence your much needed day off.
Enjoy it!

Wow,
arnt you a little ray of sunshine.

other parents manage, nannies, nurseries .

No one is doing the other a "favour" by being a SAH parent. It's supposed to be in the best interest of the kids.

The difference is that no-one is stopping a SAH parent from finding a job, but if the working parent decides to quit, things get a bit tricky.

Well hopefully your husband leaves you sooner rather than later, and finds a proper teammate. The kids aren't even home full-time, so you're a part-time sahm at best. Hope that you've got a prenup, for your sake.

Blimey the responses!

I am sure the OPs husband also has downtime it just happens to be ops today, I would be doing exactly the same as you and I also love it when my husband (who I love dearly and appreciate before anyone jumps to conclusions, gets to see the harder side of SAHM life)

i hope all the unkind comments don’t spoil your much deserved break

I'm a SAHM. We have 5DC, 3x ASD, the school holidays absolutely wreck me and my mental health takes a total battering. My DH took a week AL and after doing the week together he has a whole new appreciation of how hard my life is and why my entire personality changes in the school holidays! 😂

Honestly, MN is so po-faced these days.

Time was, you could post a little moan about parenting or your husband, and you'd get back witchy cackles and offers of virtual gin.

Now it's so weirdly earnest.

Also there is no indication the husband thinks OP has an easy job. He just moaned about 3am starts. Well they're hard and he's human! I used to get up at 430 for work and that was bad enough.

Same here. “Parents” are supposed to help each other. He helps by being the dickhead who brings the money in to allow OP to manage the apparently unbearable levels of stress associated with being a SAHM

No wonder people don't post!

Or OP being a SAHM enables him to do a job with irregular hours.

For both of them too. SAHM would have to work! Then she'd see who has it easiest.......