To think he was slightly rude on our date?

It's a pretty weird and gross thing to say.

Even if it was said as some form of a joke if you didn’t take it that way you’re absolutely not suited. If it was that you read into it wrongly, you’ll have seen a smirk where he may have just been smiling (if he wasn’t in the wrong he could have been talking in the same way you might say I’m going to lick every inch of chocolate from that dessert spoon, it’s so good!) but it doesn’t matter. Sorry op

Unless you'd both been scaling a mountain or swimming the Channel or something and were starving hungry, and dived into your meal and he was referring to this, this is an unacceptable comment from anyone to anyone. And smirking afterwards. Low key bullying and insulting you. Feel you have trusted your instincts getting the ick.

It’s mean spirited. Of all the things to say he said that. I’d be rid of him.

You havent been seeing him for a little while if it's the third date

Thanks for all your replies and questions. I don’t want to derail OP’s thread by talking about my own marital issues! Honestly, it’s one thing in a long line of things and I’m biding my time.
Please OP don’t settle for someone who thinks it’s acceptable to comment on your body and food but I hope you are happy whatever you decide to do x

I’m in a family of under eaters too and friends who are similar. They’ll say oooh just the teeniest bit for me please and still leave half on their plate. And look askance when I ask for a normal sized portion and eat the lot. Maybe his family are like mine?

I wouldn't clock this as an insult because good food is a great joy to me and polishing off my dinner would be something I'd be happy about, as the food would have presumably been excellent. I think DP might have said something early on to me when he cooked an incredible dinner for me and I did indeed polish it off. He was pleased to have someone to appreciate his skill in the kitchen and food has become one of the things we bond over.

That said if you got the vibe that this man intended to be snarky then it's certainly a good enough reason to end things.

Next time he says anything like that, say: Do you have a problem with it?

What pisses me off is that it's designed to be delivered & hurt the other person, but they won't own up to it when confronted. It's always 'Oh we didn't mean it like that', or 'Don't be silly', when they do fucking mean it and are just cruelly gaslighting the other person.

😂

Yes definitely was making a jibe. That was a dig intended to make you feel insecure about your weight, which he's obviously unhappy about. This is just the beginning, so imagine what he'll be like in a few months.

DUMP!!

Agree with some PPs this is negging and it's done to see if you'll tolerate it, if you'll be all embarrassed and apologetic, or try to change your behaviour to please him. If so, he knows he has some power over you and can put you in your place by the way he speaks to you.

I don't think it's necessarily a deliberate conscious process, but it is a test nonetheless. It's done by men who feel threatened or feel a need to be in charge.

Unfortunately for him it's also a test for him, one he failed.

I hate this sort of comment.

Both my parents used to do it, you were made to feel guilty for eating and enjoying food

What a turn off. Is he the type of bloke that thinks all women should be size 8, nibble like sparrows and leave half their food exclaiming that they couldn't eat another bite?

I'd have said yes and let's look at the dessert menu. See what he says.

I like that you clarified that pinching his roast potatoes wasn't a euphemism. ( I confess I was leaning that way!) And I will be saying that at the very next Roast Dinner. 😂

Also keeping the phrase "feet that fit inside his gob." Thanks! 😂

The smirk was probably him thinking you may have other healthy appetites.

Would give me the ick too.

He smirked at her response saying "yes, it was my dinner" because it was either an odd or perhaps sarcastic reply. He was probably expecting the reply "yes, it was delicious"!

I say similar to my kids when they polish off their dinner as its a compliment that my food was good!

People need to stop assuming that things are said with ill intent. They were on a date so it was highly unlikely to have any rude connotation.

If the OP felt his comment was rude she should have challenged it.

It almost doesn't matter what his intention was.
(Fwiw I personally think he was clearly negging her)
The point is that the upshot of his comment is that OP will now feel self-conscious about eating in front of this guy. It's over. She says she has the ick now anyway and I would too.
You can't pursue a relationship with someone who makes you uncomfortable whatever the reason.
He's fucked it. Oh well.

I'd easily have said it too just to say something, sometimes I stress in social situations especially if there's a few seconds of silence 😭

You're absolutely right...im so sorry. I should only expect a thimble full thread.

It’s because you are sensitive about your weight. If a man said that to me on a date I would say ‘Yeah I did, it was bloody delicious. Get the waiters attention because I’m going to polish of a nice sticky toffee pudding now too’

But I’m a good, hearty eater and most blokes like that I think. I’m also not sensitive about my weight.

I would let it go, but if you genuinely think he’s being mean or making genuinely nasty jibes about your weight, then obviously fuck him off.

Thinking about my family, we’d all say stuff like this. If we went out for Sunday lunch a saying my grandad would always say was ‘You made short work of that!’ Meaning, looks like you enjoyed that!

Where we live hear it often usually meaning the food was good enough to eat the lot tbh nothing bad

Horrific? Being called a little piggy? Bizarre.

So you don't follow your own advice?