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To think he was slightly rude on our date?

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Casseroledarling · 21/08/2025 11:57

Weirdest date ever. Been seeing a man for a little while and have been on three dates, it was going well and he seems nice. Anyway, third date yesterday and we went for a meal in a fancy- ish pub. I had grilled chicken, potatoes and veg and finished my whole dinner, as normal. Didn’t finish it overly quick or before him, just ate it all.

Anyway, my date turns to me and says “Jesus you’ve polished that off haven’t you?”. I looked at him confused and said well yes, it’s my dinner and he just laughed and smirked. I changed the subject but felt a bit weird after. Was he making a jibe at me? I am a size 14, and guess curvy and slightly sensitive. I’ve been off with him today and don’t know if I’m being unreasonable.

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Iloveshihtzus · 21/08/2025 12:02

I don’t think I would react to that except to say - yes, now where is dessert. But people always joke at how much I eat and how quickly I polish it off, perhaps because I am petite and they assume I have a tiny stomach 🙄

NoCommentingFromNowOn · 21/08/2025 12:02

Isn’t that the whole point of food? You eat, you get up and move, after a while you eat again. Am I missing some vital part where you have to flutter your eyelashes and say ‘ooh I couldn’t possibly finish all that’?

I absolutely love those competitive eating threads 😁.

Tell him if he wants a woman who faints through lack of fuel then you’re not the one for him.

CoriolanusSnow · 21/08/2025 12:01

There wouldn’t be another date if it was me he’d said that to. If DH catches me eating, he’ll say, ‘ooh what have you got you little piggy.’
Men can be real arseholes.

Dangermoo · 21/08/2025 12:00

It's a throw away line.

MeAndMyGhost · 21/08/2025 11:59

If he's making you feel like that on a first date when he should be on best behaviour, I doubt he'll improve if you choose to stick around.

You don't need to be made to feel like that.