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WIBU: DH & Sourdough supplies

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:13

Just had a row with DH.

Our flour is stored in labelled canisters across two shelves. DH typically moves the plain/sf flours to the higher less accessible shelf when he (daily) tops up his sourdough with bread flour. I know to check the labels carefully before I bake.

I’ve baked three times with the kids this fortnight and will be making pastry tomorrow for a family party. As such, I’ve moved the bread flour up so I could more easily get the sf/plain.

He's just burst in while I’m wfh and barrelled out of the house slamming doors because his pizza dough is ruined as he poured in self raising and he needs to buy more yeast to continue.

He’s now apologised for his temper but is adamant ‘his’ flour should always be kept in the same place.

WIBU to move it?

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 12:29

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 21/08/2025 12:25

@Jellywife So is his fetish for making sourdough pizza relatively new? plain and self raising are the ones most in use in my kitchen ( though I am the one who uses them the most) it would annoy the shit out of me if dh moved it up to a higher shelf!! I tend to keep the bread flour behind the other flours. I have trouble even reaching the cereals if he pushes the boxes to the back!! thank goodness for tongs! he needs to act his age and not his shoe size!

I think his age is his European shoe size 😁

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allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 21/08/2025 12:25

@Jellywife So is his fetish for making sourdough pizza relatively new? plain and self raising are the ones most in use in my kitchen ( though I am the one who uses them the most) it would annoy the shit out of me if dh moved it up to a higher shelf!! I tend to keep the bread flour behind the other flours. I have trouble even reaching the cereals if he pushes the boxes to the back!! thank goodness for tongs! he needs to act his age and not his shoe size!

jonthebatiste · 21/08/2025 12:24

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:49

They are labelled. He’s suggested we get new colour coded labels though!

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If that’s what he needs to stop such distressing events happening to him, who would complain 🤷‍♀️. Perhaps the DC have some lurid skibidi or brainrot stickers going spare, you could adorn his canister - and his alone, no need to waste a good sticker - with a couple of dozen of those.

InterestedDad37 · 21/08/2025 12:24

Move it. Regularly. It'll turn into a sort of game, which you'll both come to enjoy - it will enhance your relationship, and you'll both live happily ever after, eating sourdough together 😀

CrispieCake · 21/08/2025 12:20

Essentially he's unilaterally annexed the lower shelves for his fancy flours. He's in the same position as any usurper and invader and can't really complain if he's met with resistance. Who made him the king of the cupboard?

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 12:10

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 21/08/2025 12:08

If you moved the flour from its normal place, then I am with your husband on this. I would be annoyed.

Caveat: I am very unreasonable.

Respect the honesty Unreasonable Johnson

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ShoeeMcfee · 21/08/2025 12:09

You're brilliant! @Jellywife I've been laughing at your posts 😂

TheOtherAgentJohnson · 21/08/2025 12:08

If you moved the flour from its normal place, then I am with your husband on this. I would be annoyed.

Caveat: I am very unreasonable.

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 12:06

StanfreyPock · 21/08/2025 12:05

Is 'getting the Ooni out' some sort of euphemism?

Not until he apologises!

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 12:06

CommissarySushi · 21/08/2025 12:01

The flour should be left in one place though. Not constantly moving between the shelves.

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The standard flours have been there for years- the sourdough has been in play for about 6mo

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StanfreyPock · 21/08/2025 12:05

Is 'getting the Ooni out' some sort of euphemism?

CommissarySushi · 21/08/2025 12:01

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:18

Surely this argument cuts both ways

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The flour should be left in one place though. Not constantly moving between the shelves.

EvenMoreCrisps · 21/08/2025 12:00

I wouldn't be attracted to a man having an aggressive tantrum like a child, over his own failing.
Let him figure out a way to rectify his incapability.

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:59

Talipesmum · 21/08/2025 11:57

I think you should both keep the flour in the same place on the shelves (I mean don’t move it around, keep each in a consistent location) and also have more obvious colour coding / labelling. Seems like he thinks the flour he uses every day always lives on the lower shelf, and yours has no fixed abode, whereas you think the most recently used flour lives on bottom shelf.

This is the crux of the issue. I regard plain flour as a store cupboard ingredient for sauces etc in family meals whereas the bread flour is for a hobby.

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Talipesmum · 21/08/2025 11:57

I think you should both keep the flour in the same place on the shelves (I mean don’t move it around, keep each in a consistent location) and also have more obvious colour coding / labelling. Seems like he thinks the flour he uses every day always lives on the lower shelf, and yours has no fixed abode, whereas you think the most recently used flour lives on bottom shelf.

Keroppi · 21/08/2025 11:53

Buy him a diff shaped/colour container
Pizza better be nice! Your choice of toppings since he was mardy

Newnamesagain · 21/08/2025 11:52

Missing the point of the thread entirely, could he get a different shape pot for his flour? If he's not reading the labels it's time to bring out the big guns.

I assume ooni sell something appropriate.

PinkNosy · 21/08/2025 11:52

Coloured labels?

Maybe he actually can't read and doesn't want to admit it, after all these years?

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:49

jonthebatiste · 21/08/2025 11:42

I’d mop his brow when he gets back and soothingly tell him to stop being so angry with himself for making such a stupid mistake, that everything will be alright and it’s not the end of the world, we all have brain farts from time to time and he shouldn’t be so hard on himself. I’d maybe even offer to write PLAIN, SR and BREAD on the canisters for him if thinks it would help him not get into such a state again next time. I’d probably slip in a “dear” at some point.

They are labelled. He’s suggested we get new colour coded labels though!

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Autumn1990 · 21/08/2025 11:47

His pizza dough will be fine with SR, I frequently make pizza dough with either SR or plain flour as I often don’t have bread flour in.

jonthebatiste · 21/08/2025 11:42

I’d mop his brow when he gets back and soothingly tell him to stop being so angry with himself for making such a stupid mistake, that everything will be alright and it’s not the end of the world, we all have brain farts from time to time and he shouldn’t be so hard on himself. I’d maybe even offer to write PLAIN, SR and BREAD on the canisters for him if thinks it would help him not get into such a state again next time. I’d probably slip in a “dear” at some point.

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:36

CarefulN0w · 21/08/2025 11:34

Not the point of the thread, but why does he need “more yeast” in his sourdough? The point of sourdough is that it doesn’t need added yeast. And even if you use plain flour rather than higher protein bread flour, it will still work. So for that DH is being a dick.

The yeast was for the pizza dough, would talk about how we’re planning to get the Ooni out tonight but don’t want this thread deleted as parody 😬

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CarefulN0w · 21/08/2025 11:34

Not the point of the thread, but why does he need “more yeast” in his sourdough? The point of sourdough is that it doesn’t need added yeast. And even if you use plain flour rather than higher protein bread flour, it will still work. So for that DH is being a dick.

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:31

caramac04 · 21/08/2025 11:30

YANBU unless you are 6’ tall and your husband is much shorter.
At 5’3” I have to stand on a stool to reach the top shelves. Nobody else in the house needs to do that. Therefore, the things I use the most are on the lower shelves.

He is (slightly) taller- but neither of us need a step for this shelf!

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BasicBrumble · 21/08/2025 11:31

He's partly annoyed with himself but can't admit that so you need to take the fall (in his view)