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WIBU: DH & Sourdough supplies

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 11:13

Just had a row with DH.

Our flour is stored in labelled canisters across two shelves. DH typically moves the plain/sf flours to the higher less accessible shelf when he (daily) tops up his sourdough with bread flour. I know to check the labels carefully before I bake.

I’ve baked three times with the kids this fortnight and will be making pastry tomorrow for a family party. As such, I’ve moved the bread flour up so I could more easily get the sf/plain.

He's just burst in while I’m wfh and barrelled out of the house slamming doors because his pizza dough is ruined as he poured in self raising and he needs to buy more yeast to continue.

He’s now apologised for his temper but is adamant ‘his’ flour should always be kept in the same place.

WIBU to move it?

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Mossstitch · 22/08/2025 22:02

StanfreyPock · 21/08/2025 12:05

Is 'getting the Ooni out' some sort of euphemism?

It's a pizza oven🍕😂

Newnamesagain · 22/08/2025 21:42

If you wanted to really escalate things you could mix up the contents of the jars and labels like some kind of cupboard based baking show. Is it self raising? Is it 00? Is it rat poison? It's a mystery!

Make sure you set up a camera first to capture the ensuing shenanigans and put on a jingly tune before you share them here.

Eventually he'll discover the flour is now in the cellar when the newly installed trapdoor opens while he's having a sweary rummage and drops him into a joyous reunion with it, swiftly followed by a satisfying whoompf noise and a mushroom cloud of flour in the kitchen.

It's that or his and hers cupboards, both locked with your own private key.

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 21:46

caramac04 · 21/08/2025 21:43

Not the point of the thread but I regularly reorganise the kitchen cupboards and give them a good clean. Cba the cleaning without a shuffle round. Drives others mad, lighthearted, but I am the kitchen Queen.

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I might totally fuck with him by leaving the flour as is but while he’s out completely moving everything else 😁

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caramac04 · 21/08/2025 21:43

Not the point of the thread but I regularly reorganise the kitchen cupboards and give them a good clean. Cba the cleaning without a shuffle round. Drives others mad, lighthearted, but I am the kitchen Queen.

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 21:39

Fontet · 21/08/2025 20:47

Is this all you have to worry about...🙁. WOW

Yeah this is literally the worst thing that’s ever happened to me- possibly anyone I’d imagine

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Hoppinggreen · 21/08/2025 20:55

Sourdough Wanker
I have a Kefir Wanker

Fontet · 21/08/2025 20:47

Is this all you have to worry about...🙁. WOW

NotMeNoNo · 21/08/2025 20:47

Clearer labels. We've all reached for something on autopilot and got the wrong thing.

DH is dyslexic and often mixes similar looking things up. Things in this house have to be labelled in big writing and ideally different colours too.

outerspacepotato · 21/08/2025 20:41

StanfreyPock · 21/08/2025 12:05

Is 'getting the Ooni out' some sort of euphemism?

Maybe 00 pizza flour?

outerspacepotato · 21/08/2025 20:36

He can feed sourdough with all purpose flour rather than bread flour, WTF.

Sourdough and rye is really nice.

A little vital wheat gluten could have upped the protein to that of bread flour.

tothelefttotheleft · 21/08/2025 20:17

@SirBasil

This is true. I've been in my house 23 years and only now I have a grown child have I reorganised things.

Inertia · 21/08/2025 13:13

Not ok for him to throw a tantrum because he couldn’t be bothered to read the label.

Good idea to reorganise if you have cupboard space- we have high cupboards only DH can reach, so all his coffee making accoutrements and fad supplements go there.

SirBasil · 21/08/2025 13:07

when i moved into my first house my mum said "be careful where you put things, especially in the kitchen. Make sure the place you put things when you move in, is where they need to be always. Because you will NEVER change it"

And, 40 odd years later, yep.

Reorganising the drinks cupboard is good, i did that recently. And got rid of a load of stuff. And found a load of liqueurs etc that we had a small snifter of every evening-ish until they were gone. Much more manageable now.

DysmalRadius · 21/08/2025 13:06

He'd hate my house - all types of flour (including special French bread flour that only my oldest son uses) are in various places, plus their gluten free counterparts so we have a LOT of flour jars and you have to check every time. Coeliac disease really keeps you on your toes so nobody ever uses flour without checking and double checking it's the right one!

Gettingbysomehow · 21/08/2025 13:06

Oh for goodness sake has he thought about looking at the label?

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 13:05

SirBasil · 21/08/2025 12:45

Well, i am with him in that things should be kept in the same place.

However i am very firmly of the opinion that things are accessible according to how much and who uses them. In our house (sourdough is A Thing here too) that means that the bread making things are on one shelf, and the cake making things are on another. We are the same height though so it's not a massive issue.

So: you both need to agree what goes where. And then keep it there.

I have suggested we clear out the ‘drinks’ cupboard of the decade old creme de menthe etc and put all the sourdough bits in there together. He’s considering this- it is above the bins cupboard but he does accept the starter is a bit messy looking to have on the open shelving

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Jellywife · 21/08/2025 13:03

Goditsmemargaret · 21/08/2025 12:44

FFS give him a break. He uses his daily, you don't. He went for it automatically as he does it every day then had a brief outburst of frustration which he then apologised for. You're now on Mumsnet ridiculing him.

I feel I’m ridiculing us not just him but perhaps that’s not coming across. I was annoyed at his outburst but I’m not asking if I should leave him!

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GiantTeddyIsTired · 21/08/2025 12:48

Goditsmemargaret · 21/08/2025 12:44

FFS give him a break. He uses his daily, you don't. He went for it automatically as he does it every day then had a brief outburst of frustration which he then apologised for. You're now on Mumsnet ridiculing him.

To be fair to both sides, if one of my children (since I don't have a partner) unilaterally re-arranged some kitchen shelves for their convenience, then got cross with me when I didn't realise that they didn't want me to keep using it the way I always had, I do think a bit of discussion would be had.

My son has a hot chocolate most nights, so his hot chocolate has joined the teabags and coffee on the little drinks tray, ousting the little squash collection there used to be there. Which is fine, but if it had been done unilaterally, and he declared his hot chocolate must always be at the front, that would be a step too far.

SirBasil · 21/08/2025 12:45

Well, i am with him in that things should be kept in the same place.

However i am very firmly of the opinion that things are accessible according to how much and who uses them. In our house (sourdough is A Thing here too) that means that the bread making things are on one shelf, and the cake making things are on another. We are the same height though so it's not a massive issue.

So: you both need to agree what goes where. And then keep it there.

Goditsmemargaret · 21/08/2025 12:44

FFS give him a break. He uses his daily, you don't. He went for it automatically as he does it every day then had a brief outburst of frustration which he then apologised for. You're now on Mumsnet ridiculing him.

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 12:43

GiantTeddyIsTired · 21/08/2025 12:34

Mine aren't always even labelled.. I'll scribble on in a permanent marker (mine are hidden in a cupboard so that's fine), but it does eventually rub off, and apart from plain/SR/bread flour it's not hard to tell the difference between the cornflour, icing sugar, bicarb, semolina, ground almonds/sugar/salt etc. so I consider it an educational opportunity for the kids that sometimes they have to play 'guess the substance' when they want to make something :)

He did make a sponge with salt instead of sugar once, actually. It didn’t rise and was slightly grey…

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TotHappy · 21/08/2025 12:43

Just keep them in the bags. Then they're auto colour coded.

GiantTeddyIsTired · 21/08/2025 12:34

Mine aren't always even labelled.. I'll scribble on in a permanent marker (mine are hidden in a cupboard so that's fine), but it does eventually rub off, and apart from plain/SR/bread flour it's not hard to tell the difference between the cornflour, icing sugar, bicarb, semolina, ground almonds/sugar/salt etc. so I consider it an educational opportunity for the kids that sometimes they have to play 'guess the substance' when they want to make something :)

Jellywife · 21/08/2025 12:31

CrispieCake · 21/08/2025 12:20

Essentially he's unilaterally annexed the lower shelves for his fancy flours. He's in the same position as any usurper and invader and can't really complain if he's met with resistance. Who made him the king of the cupboard?

Yes the sovereign borders of the flour shelf were not respected and previous inhabitants were forcibly relocated

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GiantTeddyIsTired · 21/08/2025 12:30

Where were the flours before the sourdough obsession? Has he basically re-arranged the shelf for his convenience? I do get the convenience argument, but also I get the pay attention to what you're doing argument.

always check the flour (I have 3 or 4 types like anyone who cooks a lot, plus other similar-enough powders all in plastic containers (because otherwise stuff gets into the paper packets) so the kids know to check they have the right one before using one.

I'm 5' tall, I've already made it clear to my sons that the stuff I use the most goes on the low shelves, and the stuff only they use goes on the high ones.

Lastly, the pizza dough would have been fine. Maybe not completely perfect, but it would have been absolutely OK in the pizza.

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