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Hobby

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treetop122 · 20/08/2025 20:40

I’m going to give very little context to this AIBU just so I can get a general idea.

Husband started new job at the start of the summer holidays so he couldn’t take any annual leave whilst the children (10,5 &2) have been off.
I have the school holidays off so it has been me and the 3 kids every day.
Husband has booked 1 day of holiday for Friday and is going away for 24 hours for his hobby.

AIBU for being upset that he wouldn’t spend it with us?

for clarity

You are being unreasonable for being upset your husband is going away for a hobby.

you are not being unreasonable, your husband should spend the time at home with you and the kids.

** Side note, no chance for me to have time to myself. No family help etc.. also this is more to do with the fact husband would rather do the hobby.
Thank you

OP posts:
Needmorelego · 20/08/2025 21:17

treetop122 · 20/08/2025 21:13

It’s not really about me wanting a break. I am upset about the one day he could book off he is off to do a hobby. Most families take a bit of time off over the summer to be with the kids.

It's literally one day though. He is home at the weekend.

Eagle2025 · 20/08/2025 21:15

treetop122 · 20/08/2025 21:13

It’s not really about me wanting a break. I am upset about the one day he could book off he is off to do a hobby. Most families take a bit of time off over the summer to be with the kids.

What about previous years? How did you get on with spending time together as a family in the holidays? You talk about the fact he has started a new job.

Original poster
treetop122 · 20/08/2025 21:13

It’s not really about me wanting a break. I am upset about the one day he could book off he is off to do a hobby. Most families take a bit of time off over the summer to be with the kids.

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Needmorelego · 20/08/2025 21:10

I don't think 24 hours for him to do his hobby is too bad as long as you get a chance to do something for yourself on another day.
Book something. Do it.

Eagle2025 · 20/08/2025 21:09

treetop122 · 20/08/2025 21:06

Weekends we have been spending as a family, so no, I haven’t been away from the kids (except I go for a run once a week for about 40 minutes).

just trying to get a general feel for this. He has started a new job which has been stressful for him, which is why he is going to do his hobby.

Also to clarify, he will work Thursday, go straight to his hobby and return Friday evenings. So out of the house Thursday 8am and home Friday 8pm

If you want a break one weekend just do it then! You say he is there at the weekends so there is no issue of having no one to look after the kids

Original poster
treetop122 · 20/08/2025 21:07

No other holiday booked for the rest of the holiday.

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Original poster
treetop122 · 20/08/2025 21:06

Weekends we have been spending as a family, so no, I haven’t been away from the kids (except I go for a run once a week for about 40 minutes).

just trying to get a general feel for this. He has started a new job which has been stressful for him, which is why he is going to do his hobby.

Also to clarify, he will work Thursday, go straight to his hobby and return Friday evenings. So out of the house Thursday 8am and home Friday 8pm

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Eagle2025 · 20/08/2025 21:06

You havent said how many days holiday he will get, if he has used 1 day for a hobby and will have other days holiday coming up to spend with you all then I dont see the problem. Also if you want to have a break he can watch the kids in the evening and you go out with the girls.

BallerinaRadio · 20/08/2025 21:06

What is this mystery hobby?

Needmorelego · 20/08/2025 21:03

Book something for yourself on another weekend (if he doesn't work weekends) and just tell him that you are going - and go.
(I am assuming he hasn't been working 7 days a week and has spent some time with you as a family)

childofthe607080s · 20/08/2025 21:02

yanbu

Saz12 · 20/08/2025 21:01

No, that's crap of him! Unless he takes the kids out for a day every weekend or so, or has them on his own of an evening so ypu can go out?

Fidgety31 · 20/08/2025 20:56

He’s a selfish prick - most men are