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DS 16 debagged at school

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Atomsplitter · 20/08/2025 18:54

My 16 year old year 12 student has just disclosed to me that he was debagged/pantsed by another student while on his recent D of E expedition. Luckily he managed to hold on to his underwear but still very embarrassing 😳 He also said that the same student has been trying to do the same in the common room at school. DS has to tie his shorts really tight to prevent him from pulling them down. AIBU to think this is sexual assault? This person is not his friend and is a bit of a dick according to DS. He has targeted others too apparently, some have been totally exposed. I want to contact the school but DS doesn't want me to and won't tell me the students name.

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Glitterybee · 20/08/2025 18:59

The other boy is a dick, but sexual assault? No

A teenage boy being an asshole

ConfusedSloth · 20/08/2025 18:57

It’s obviously not ok but it’s not sexual assault (which requires a sexual motive) because it doesn’t appear that he’s doing it because he’s attracted to you DS or wants to see his genitals for any sexual motive.

If DS wants you to take it further (and I think his preference is a big factor at that age), don’t mis-use terms like “sexual assault” because it’ll make you sound like you’re exaggerating and overreacting, making you more likely to be dismissed and ignored.

ProfessorRizz · 20/08/2025 18:56

This 100% counts as sexual assault - there are consequences for this behaviour at my school. Please report this young person to the pastoral lead.