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Diversity schemes for young people - mixed race child.

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Florencesndzebedee · 20/08/2025 15:33

I have a dc who is currently an undergraduate. I am mixed race, my dh is white. Dc is fair skinned but, through my heritage, also has black heritage (my dad is from the Caribbean).

The landscape is tough at the moment getting work placements/internships but some of these schemes are open to dc of black heritage only. My dc is reluctant to apply as he said he’d feel like a fraud, purely on looks - he looks like he might be Spanish or Greek but has blue eyes. The criteria are quite vague other than under represented people )within the organisation) of black/african /Caribbean heritage. I feel like he is entitled to apply and these schemes would give him more options.

Does anyone have any experience of these particular schemes or how they select?

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Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 12:36

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 12:32

Or... You could just accept that the end point is the goal : to not be racist towards people.

So if that's done via living by simple platitudes instead of reading your books , why is that a problem?

You seem to think that only highly educated people are capable of not being racist. That's very judgemental and ignorant (do you have a class bias ?) could be unconscious?

But is it everyone's end goal? I think that's wishful thinking and exactly why we need intentional action rather than wishy washy buzzwords. It would be lovely if everyone was dedicated equality, but they aren't so we must make them.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 12:36

PreciousTatas · 22/08/2025 12:33

I'm not white but I believe the way forward should be completely blind interviews/job applications, where the applicants sex, education facility, race, disability or any other protected chracteristic is hidden.

I don't believe reverse racism helps in any way, and actually harms the country's social cohesion and productiveness. It is racism to assume that someone will or won't succeed based on their skin colour.

Thankyou for putting your head above the parapet and offering your voice from a non white perspective. Its a very balanced opinion. Unfortunately I think all black and brown people are treated as a monolithic by the extreme left (the educated ones) and they assume all people from ethnic minorities are "angry" and actively want positive discrimination.

ClaredeBear · 22/08/2025 12:35

You seem to be getting a hard time here and I don’t want to add to that but what you’ve just said is basically gaslighting as I’ve said nothing of the sort. I’m sure you are well intended.

PreciousTatas · 22/08/2025 12:33

I'm not white but I believe the way forward should be completely blind interviews/job applications, where the applicants sex, education facility, race, disability or any other protected chracteristic is hidden.

I don't believe reverse racism helps in any way, and actually harms the country's social cohesion and productiveness. It is racism to assume that someone will or won't succeed based on their skin colour.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 12:32

ClaredeBear · 22/08/2025 12:25

I came back to say this. No books read or recommended, just some platitudes. It’s not going to cut it I’m afraid.

Or... You could just accept that the end point is the goal : to not be racist towards people.

So if that's done via living by simple platitudes instead of reading your books , why is that a problem?

You seem to think that only highly educated people are capable of not being racist. That's very judgemental and ignorant (do you have a class bias ?) could be unconscious?

Bringmeahigherlove · 22/08/2025 12:31

Alicealig · 22/08/2025 08:17

You think division causes more division?

You are 100% right. It may be worth considering then why certain people are shouting and screaming that we need MORE DIVERSITY! We most certainly do not.

How is being aware of a prejudice and discrimination divisive?

Bringmeahigherlove · 22/08/2025 12:30

Alicealig · 22/08/2025 08:20

Racism is a very modern term. Colonialism and slavery had nothing to do with racism. It had to do with a power dynamic between people who came from a poor country, with dreadful food shortages rife with disease and famine and those that didn't.

Racism itself may be a modern term. The act of treating people as subordinates because of their skin colour or perceiving them as uncivilised isn’t. Huge parts of Africa were not poor before colonisation and the slave trade. Read up about Benin.

ClaredeBear · 22/08/2025 12:25

I came back to say this. No books read or recommended, just some platitudes. It’s not going to cut it I’m afraid.

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 22/08/2025 11:47

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:53

If you believe a baby displays racial prejudice..... You and me are done corresponding.

A baby is incapable of forming complex thoughts. So it cannot possibly be rooted in stereotype/preconceived ideas/prejudice. It's literally impossible. It's an absolute joke of a point.

Don’t give them any more crazy ideas, we’ll be having babies with white skin cancelled before they can speak next

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 11:10

Nzou1050 · 22/08/2025 11:06

Totally illogical - loads of stuff is illegal but still exists - heroin, rape, murder?!

I already said up thread that my wording wasn't correct and led to it being misconstrued (understandably)

Nzou1050 · 22/08/2025 11:06

SquishedMallow · 21/08/2025 00:03

I will say this (and not make apologies) discrimination against non white people does not exist in the UK. It's not allowed . It's illegal.

Go to Qatar, UAE, anywhere in fact? You'll find there's overt racism. The UK : not.

Totally illogical - loads of stuff is illegal but still exists - heroin, rape, murder?!

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:53

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:45

You wanting equality via simple virtues does not make it so. If you truly cared about equality you would acknowledge that not everyone wants to live that way and some people must be forced to. Nice ideas don't equate to an equal society. You're so blinkered if you won't consider this.
Again, I didn't say babies are racist. I said babies display racial prejudice. It isn't the same thing.

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If you believe a baby displays racial prejudice..... You and me are done corresponding.

A baby is incapable of forming complex thoughts. So it cannot possibly be rooted in stereotype/preconceived ideas/prejudice. It's literally impossible. It's an absolute joke of a point.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:47

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:46

You can report the insults. They will be removed.
I do note that plenty of your comments have also been deleted....

Earlier on yes. From 2 days ago. I admit I was acting in frustration and probably hasn't worded my posts very maturely.

I've not done that since.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:46

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:08

So no. Thought not. Perhaps there is some literature you could recommend that might support your version of equality?

Or ask babies and people with downs syndrome how they manage to not be racist ?

The simplest answer and usually the most obvious one is usually the right one.

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:46

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:43

If you re read today's post exchange from us. Look how many times I've insulted you? And look how many times you've insulted me .

You can report the insults. They will be removed.
I do note that plenty of your comments have also been deleted....

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:45

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:42

Thankyou for saying this. I find it really disheartening to have to keep proving I'm not racist for simply wanting equality (by using simple everyday virtues) because otherwise, if we take that and other posters views that you have to have read a thousand books and deeply understand systemic racism from decades gone by to really be non racist, then we're saying only the clever people can be non racist. And that's simply not true as evidenced by babies, toddlers, young children, people with downs syndrome, intellectual disability etc etc .

But then I was told babies can display racism..... (They haven't read the books)

You wanting equality via simple virtues does not make it so. If you truly cared about equality you would acknowledge that not everyone wants to live that way and some people must be forced to. Nice ideas don't equate to an equal society. You're so blinkered if you won't consider this.
Again, I didn't say babies are racist. I said babies display racial prejudice. It isn't the same thing.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:43

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:34

Your principles don't equal equality. I'm not sure why you're pretending not to grasp that. Even if you yourself were lovely and truly treated everyone equally, it still does not mean that equality has been achieved. Virtues are great, everyone should treat everyone nicely - but they do not and are not tackling systemic inequality. Expecting everyone to just be nice doesn't work.
Young children are measurably prejudiced. Not deliberately, and not with the hate that adults can be, but they are from babyhood. I'm not aware of any research on those with intellectual disabilities so I shan't comment on that.

If you re read today's post exchange from us. Look how many times I've insulted you? And look how many times you've insulted me .

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:42

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 22/08/2025 10:24

This is just a small twist on ‘you’re racist if you disagree with me’. That is deliberate ignorance and as I’m sure you’ve noticed doesn’t work anymore in shutting down discussion.

Thankyou for saying this. I find it really disheartening to have to keep proving I'm not racist for simply wanting equality (by using simple everyday virtues) because otherwise, if we take that and other posters views that you have to have read a thousand books and deeply understand systemic racism from decades gone by to really be non racist, then we're saying only the clever people can be non racist. And that's simply not true as evidenced by babies, toddlers, young children, people with downs syndrome, intellectual disability etc etc .

But then I was told babies can display racism..... (They haven't read the books)

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:38

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:34

Your principles don't equal equality. I'm not sure why you're pretending not to grasp that. Even if you yourself were lovely and truly treated everyone equally, it still does not mean that equality has been achieved. Virtues are great, everyone should treat everyone nicely - but they do not and are not tackling systemic inequality. Expecting everyone to just be nice doesn't work.
Young children are measurably prejudiced. Not deliberately, and not with the hate that adults can be, but they are from babyhood. I'm not aware of any research on those with intellectual disabilities so I shan't comment on that.

You can't comment because you know it's true: the least educated are usually the least racist. They genuinely treat people "all the same". Positive discrimination can be as harmful as outright discrimination.

Babies do not favour white skin. Babies look for their mother. If baby Is black : probably looking for a black mummy figure. If baby is white : probably looking for a white mummy figure.

If you could try to make me understand how that makes them inherently biased towards white people I'd be happy to hear it?

But what I can tell you with absolute conviction is: it won't be due to racism.

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:34

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:23

You've just called me "ignorant".

I stand by my simple virtues. The simplest and most obvious answer is usually the correct one.

So, you're saying that you've got to be extremely educated in order to not be racist.

Well let's look at people that have no concept of racism and manage to not be racist :
-young children
-People with limited intellectual capability such as those with learning difficulties or downs syndrome.

Have they read your books ?

Your principles don't equal equality. I'm not sure why you're pretending not to grasp that. Even if you yourself were lovely and truly treated everyone equally, it still does not mean that equality has been achieved. Virtues are great, everyone should treat everyone nicely - but they do not and are not tackling systemic inequality. Expecting everyone to just be nice doesn't work.
Young children are measurably prejudiced. Not deliberately, and not with the hate that adults can be, but they are from babyhood. I'm not aware of any research on those with intellectual disabilities so I shan't comment on that.

ThatWaryOchreQuoter · 22/08/2025 10:24

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:19

If you wish to add some legitimacy to your views you are free to back them up with anything at all. As it stands you are dismissing measurable inequality based on nothing at all. That is deliberate ignorance.

This is just a small twist on ‘you’re racist if you disagree with me’. That is deliberate ignorance and as I’m sure you’ve noticed doesn’t work anymore in shutting down discussion.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:23

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:19

If you wish to add some legitimacy to your views you are free to back them up with anything at all. As it stands you are dismissing measurable inequality based on nothing at all. That is deliberate ignorance.

You've just called me "ignorant".

I stand by my simple virtues. The simplest and most obvious answer is usually the correct one.

So, you're saying that you've got to be extremely educated in order to not be racist.

Well let's look at people that have no concept of racism and manage to not be racist :
-young children
-People with limited intellectual capability such as those with learning difficulties or downs syndrome.

Have they read your books ?

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:19

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:15

Here comes the insult flinging again...

If you wish to add some legitimacy to your views you are free to back them up with anything at all. As it stands you are dismissing measurable inequality based on nothing at all. That is deliberate ignorance.

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:15

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:14

Sorry but you are just plain ignorant if you think wishy washy sentiments are enough to erase centuries of systemic racism.
I shan't repeat what I said earlier lest it get deleted again, but I stand by it.

Here comes the insult flinging again...

Digdongdoo · 22/08/2025 10:14

SquishedMallow · 22/08/2025 10:11

I don't have any book recommendations.

But I do recommend living by simple virtues "treat others as you'd be expected to be trea9ted yourself "

"Don't rock my boat and I won't rock yours "

"Treat everyone with respect and courtesy. Like them until they give you reason not to "

I do think we over analyse (sorry but particularly in middle class circles ) and it promotes division. But because it sounds insightful and clever : we assume it's the correct way.

Edited

Sorry but you are just plain ignorant if you think wishy washy sentiments are enough to erase centuries of systemic racism.
I shan't repeat what I said earlier lest it get deleted again, but I stand by it.