To think that those who clutter their homes with things instead of focusing on experiences and connections are compensating for something?

No they just like stuff

What about people who clutter their lives with experiences and people and live in depressing minimalist homes where you dare not put a cup down as it looks untidy?

I feel like you start multiple ‘controversial statement’ threads for reasons that I just can’t fathom, but here we are. I wonder what you’re missing?

You appear to confusing your opinion with a universally agreed perspective

What are you wanting posters to say?

We're all different pretty much covers it

Quite often you can't have both because it's too expensive.

I really want to do our house up because we've been here over 10 years and some bits are looking a bit tatty. I also want to extend it to create a bigger living space and change the layout a bit to my preferred taste.

I also want to go on nice holidays overseas.

However, we can't do both so I think let's buy the nice light fittings, sort the house out because that's where we spend most of our time. A holiday is a lovely experience (if everyone behaves!) but you spend more time at home than anywhere else.

Same with clothes etc, it would be silly walking around with holes in your shoes just so that you can go on holiday.

I agree with @DoAWheelie and @Sirzy - different people like and value different things - doesn’t make one view right and the other wrong - just different.

I like my home and the things in it, which make it homely for me. I am disabled and can’t go out much, so it is important for me to have an environment that gives me happiness.

The world would be boring if we were all the same.

I'm a hoarder and find your post offensive @BeTaupeLeader .

Hmmm, I spend a significant amount of time at home, so I do appreciate it looking aesthetically pleasing & feeling cosy. I really enjoy seeking out nice furniture & accessories.

I also spend time out of the house forging relationships and pursuing hobbies & travelling.

I don’t see them as mutually exclusive.

Well surely it depends on what those things are and what they are for?

Some possessions might be important to support a hobby or some other interest or passion.

What about books?

Both of the above can enrich our lives.

Also some people who travel and have experiences might bring back things which are special to them and remind them if those experiences. The same can be said of relationships. Items that remind you of a deceased loved one can be special.

I think you have a narrow view on what can make a person feel fulfilled.

We buy stuff on our trips! By the time you get to my age (60s), the house is easily filled with mementos of great holidays.

I like to do both.

I think that’s true of a lot - pets, gambling, extreme exercise, obsessive hobbies, overeating, workaholic tendencies, porn addiction etc etc. We all want connection and ‘experiences’ but if you can’t get that at Argos or Tesco, what do you do? 🤷🏻‍♀️ I’m sorry but you’re kinda stating the bleedin’ obvious.

What's wrong with things and experiences? It's not one or the other.

I like to make memories personally but I understand some people like to buy possessions and that’s fine too.
We live in a consumer world and marketing is very clever making people believe they will be happy when they have achieved the expensive car/house/designer clothes etc and people buy it quite literally and measure their success on it.

Yet another thread with a 3 word username and a two sentence OP - im starting to think Mumsnet is generating these themselves.

You clearly have someone specific in mind....go on, this board is anonymous. Feel free to bitch about her to your heart's content.

Different people have different priorities in life.

different things will make different people happy.

Or they just value different experiences compared to you.

I value a night with a good book, good food, and a comfortably cozy room more than I value a night in the pub chatting to people. So I focus on making my home a nice place to exist in.

I live having people visit me rather than me going to them so I want to make it a nice place for them too.