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To think you should eat outside in summer

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Sneezeseverytimeheeatsabounty · 20/08/2025 14:53

We live abroad and are on holidays this month.
Dh tends to do a bbq most days for lunch.
Each time he wants to eat inside as thinks there’s too many flies outside (there aren’t) or some other excuse. Dd follows him and they end up sat indoors eating lunch watching tv on a lovely summers day.
I end up sat outside eating lunch on my own
We have a nice seating area by the garden and pool with large parasol for shade
We have all autumn/winter where we’ll have to be sat inside eating

Aibu to want to sit and eat lunch outside as a family on our summer holidays?

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SitOnHisFaceIfHeDiesHeDies · 20/08/2025 15:04

I agree with him. Can't stand eating outside and I can't stand overbearing people either who think it's all about them.

BadActingParsley · 20/08/2025 15:04

I try and eat oustide as much as possible - like you say there's months of telly watching to come soon.

Also love the beach in the evening and watching the sun going down - DH gets bored...

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Sneezeseverytimeheeatsabounty · 20/08/2025 15:04

5128gap · 20/08/2025 14:58

Not unreasonable to want it. Possibly unreasonable to dwell on it when its something you can neither insist on or persuade. So the best course of action is to think, oh well, that's a shame, and enjoy your solo lunch!
What I would do is tell DH that it's not great for DD to be eating in front of the TV, so if they were eating inside together, could he at least switch it off and make conversation with her.

But wouldn’t it be nice if we all ate together?

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Sneezeseverytimeheeatsabounty · 20/08/2025 15:03

Laserwho · 20/08/2025 15:00

Hes not making excuses, he just doesn't want to eat outside and you aren't listening to him.

I’m listening but i’m asking others if they think it’s a shame not to when it’s summer and we’ll be inside eating lunch and dinner all autumn & winter

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Letgoofmyblank · 20/08/2025 15:02

I can’t bear sitting outside to eat. Things flapping about, flies, wasps, sun in someone’s eyes, wanting e.g. the salt and having to traipse in to get it. It’s a total pain. But what the hell are they watching TV for? Surely dinner time is for talking amongst themselves (while you strop outdoors by yourself).

Laserwho · 20/08/2025 15:00

Hes not making excuses, he just doesn't want to eat outside and you aren't listening to him.

Zanzara · 20/08/2025 14:59

I have a house in Spain. If you barbecue food - and especially meat - outside, you are going to attract flies. 🤷‍♀️

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Sneezeseverytimeheeatsabounty · 20/08/2025 14:58

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 20/08/2025 14:56

Just sit outside by yourself?

I do, but it would be lovely to eat outside and altogether as a family in summer for our lunch

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IMissSparkling · 20/08/2025 14:58

I'm with them, I really don't like eating outside.

5128gap · 20/08/2025 14:58

Not unreasonable to want it. Possibly unreasonable to dwell on it when its something you can neither insist on or persuade. So the best course of action is to think, oh well, that's a shame, and enjoy your solo lunch!
What I would do is tell DH that it's not great for DD to be eating in front of the TV, so if they were eating inside together, could he at least switch it off and make conversation with her.

verycloakanddaggers · 20/08/2025 14:58

It's personal choice, there's no should.

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Sneezeseverytimeheeatsabounty · 20/08/2025 14:58

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 20/08/2025 14:56

I wouldn't want to. Wasps!

There isn’t many….he’s the same in the evening on the beach…beautiful sunset and wants to go at the best part as starts complaining about mosquitoes, just put a roll on then. Seems so fussy and misses out on living the best of life

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NotEnoughKnittingTime · 20/08/2025 14:56

Just sit outside by yourself?

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 20/08/2025 14:56

I wouldn't want to. Wasps!

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