To think you should eat outside in summer

If DD thought it would be nice for her to sit outside and eat, I'm sure she would. She chooses to eat inside.

I relate to you. We eat outside in the uk as much as possible and in Portugal all the time. Luckily we all enjoy eating outside. I feel like you aren’t being unreasonable at all !! It’s really important to get plenty of sunlight where you can too. It’s a really nice way to enjoy food and family time / company.

Agree, I hate it. Insects, too hot or too cold, hassle taking stuff in and out. Nah!

I’m in the UK and been off work for the summer break, I’ve eaten lunch and breakfast in the garden practically every day, it’s been lovely! By dinner time the sun has moved round and it’s a bit chilly but we have had some BBQ’s down on the beach. Looking forward to a week in France next week where we can hopefully eat outside more, I love it! Definitely team eat in the garden!

You’re not being unreasonable, but neither are they. Can’t think of anything worse personally; bbqs and picnics are vastly overrated. I’m type O Neg and get bitten by everything and I have allergic reactions to bites so it’s not fun!! See also ‘getting a tan’ - vastly overrated.

Leave them to it and stop moaning!

I wonder whether your DH and DD go inside to eat just to get away from you telling them they're living life wrong. You do come across as really very sanctimonious. Which is not remotely fun.

You know what's a life buzzkill?

A controlling person who tries to get people who don't want to eat outside with the bugs and stuff to eat outside using the explanation they're missing out on life.

Nothing livens up a dinner like having to inject an epi pen because someone's been stung by the wasp the food attracted.

Go eat outside of you want. Stop trying to force your family to do it in the name of some live your best life outside bs. 🙄

You might like those guys living up in the woods in Scotland.

YABU. Wasps are outside and really spoil the experience of eating outdoors. I'd rather eat inside and then go and have a drink outdoors.

I hate eating outside. Wasps, bees and flies - and I’m in Scotland so chances are it’ll rain.

But wouldn't it be nice if I got my own way 😂.

Then eat indoors if you want to eat together. Your wishes don’t trump everyone else’s.

I think the Op is confusing her idyllic image of summer living with real life.....

I think there should be some compromise. He likes inside, you like outside so you should do a bit of both. IMO eating together as a family a reasonable proportion of the time is important if you can, so you need to work out a compromise.

And yes, I like eating outside and would feel sad if I had a lovely spot to eat but ended up wasting it. And I wouldn't want to be using it all on my own when it's supposed to be a family dinner.

I can guarantee you 'miss out on life' more than me. You come across with pursed-lipped judgement about other people's choices. Which doesn't scream 'fun' to me.

I live sitting outside to eat. My parents used to live in Spain over winter so tended to eat inside, but once we arrived at Easter I ‘made’ them sit outside and it was lovely. Yes a few glues but we put stuff out for them and the wadis and last time the mossies weren’t bad at all - we used those wrist and ankle bands which seemed to work well. I agree it’s one of the best parts of the holiday! Plus we had no TV so that’s not even an option - scrabble every night!

I don’t mind sitting outside with a drink but I really prefer sitting inside to eat unless a very warm evening. I hate the insects, the squinting in the sun, the wind blowing things about. I like the outdoors - I’ll walk outside, play, swim, sit about, etc. I go for long hikes and sit on the grass with a drink and some fruit cake. I’ll have my coffee outdoors in the mornings, but I don’t want to sit out in the middle of the day and eat a proper meal.

Take it in turns? You get mon, wed, Fri all eat outside, he gets Tue Thur sat all eat inside, kids chooses Sunday

I don't like having food outdoors at all so for me I eat inside, I don't think he's unreasonable for it to be honest and neither are you for wanting to sit outside it's just you seem to have different views which is fine, you can eat outside if you like but don't expect other people to want to, not everyone likes having food outside

We have exactly the same issue. I fought fly fans and insect spray. We compromise ans eat inside at lunchtime and outside in the evening

This! The last couple of times we’ve attempted to eat outside we’ve had five or six wasps descend on the table. We gave up and took our meal inside.

One person wants to eat outside one person wants to eat inside why does the person who wants to eat outside win?

neither is being unreasonable excpet for the part 'well I have decided it has to be this way and people around me who dont agree are wrong'

Maybe he is posting on Dadsnet saying “my wife is so uptight and forcing me to sit outside to eat in the heat, where frankly I’m not as comfortable. Is she controlling?”

People have preferences. Leave him to it.

Not unreasonable to want to eat your lunch outside, but unreasonable to think that they have to do it as well if they don't enjoy it.