Active discussions

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To call out a man for barging into me?

183 replies

Giraffe007 · 20/08/2025 14:45

Walking in to a supermarket, wide entrance, plenty of room, a man clearly in a hurry, walking fast, barged into me, knocking my shoulder hard.

Was I being unreasonable to shout after him "what's the problem? Entrance not wide enough for you? I was with my teenage son, who was mortified, not a the man's rudeness, but at me calling him out for it. BTW, the man ignored me, but a a middle aged woman, I'm used to being ignored.

OP posts:
Hohumhuee · 20/08/2025 15:05

I read/saw a thing about how women are primed to move out the way of men just keep walking, I wasn’t sure that was true to I tested it and by just being more aware and if I was walking in the same line as an oncoming man I stopped automatically stepping aside and they did collide with me. I was really surprised. They all seemed like perfectly pleasant men as well, and looked genuinely perplexed by how we had come to walk into each other, so maybe there is something in it.

Toomanywaterbottles · 20/08/2025 15:02

You were right to call him out but what you actually said was rude and really passive aggressive.

Returnofjude · 20/08/2025 15:02

Giraffe007 · 20/08/2025 14:58

There is a difference between being on a crowded Tube/Underground station and in an entrance way with plenty of space though. So I should just humbly accept being barged into? No thank you. And so what if people turn to look at me? Then they will also be looking at him too.

Show quote history

They’d only have known why you were shouting at him if they’d seen him knock into you

Returnofjude · 20/08/2025 15:01

Giraffe007 · 20/08/2025 14:58

There is a difference between being on a crowded Tube/Underground station and in an entrance way with plenty of space though. So I should just humbly accept being barged into? No thank you. And so what if people turn to look at me? Then they will also be looking at him too.

Show quote history

He was rude twat

You shouted at him. He ignored you, may well have not even realised it was him you were shouting at.

People would have looked at you not knowing what had happened and probably thought “bit lairy!” And your son was mortified.

So my point is… I’m all for calling out. When it will achieve something. Anything.

Original poster
Giraffe007 · 20/08/2025 14:58

Returnofjude · 20/08/2025 14:49

is this the first time you have been barged by someone?

when was the last time you took the tube?! 😆

I doubt he even knew it was you he was shouting after if he didn’t turn around

he was rude, but not sure I’d have shouted that afterwards as people would just turn to look… at you

There is a difference between being on a crowded Tube/Underground station and in an entrance way with plenty of space though. So I should just humbly accept being barged into? No thank you. And so what if people turn to look at me? Then they will also be looking at him too.

OP posts:
CaffeinatedSeagull · 20/08/2025 14:51

You were right to call him out on it. Well done you for doing so.

Returnofjude · 20/08/2025 14:49

is this the first time you have been barged by someone?

when was the last time you took the tube?! 😆

I doubt he even knew it was you he was shouting after if he didn’t turn around

he was rude, but not sure I’d have shouted that afterwards as people would just turn to look… at you

delightfulmusic · 20/08/2025 14:49

I thought it was just me that men barged into all the time. It does seem to happen a lot, they just seem to expect you to move out the way or get knocked.