To call out a man for barging into me?

I was going to post the link to the other thread as well

i had 2 blokes nearly blocking the aisle in supermarket talking so I went round them and saw a man starting to run right at right at me to slam his trolley into me

i blocked him and he started screaming and jumping up and down due to him being annoyed at not being able to slam into me

i told security and continued with my shopping

Sorry, this was to the person who commented that men take up all the space

It is absolutely true. Over time I have developed a way of not moving out of their way but also not colliding with them. It’s kind of a pause, but I don’t step aside, sort of just stay grounded 😅 It works with men and teenagers (who are not necessarily being rude but are sometimes oblivious).

You think he did not feel his body move at the point of impact?

Doubt he even registered
no doubt an inconsiderate twat and just used to bumping people, probably parked in the parent and child space

Sadly his type won't care. He's probably an entitled narcissist and you were having the audacity to occupy his space. Which was an inconvenience to Mr important.

Good for you for calling the obnoxious prick out ! Your son is probably at that age where you're totally 'embarassing'. Don't take it personally. But do use it as an opportunity that men don't treat women like that. (Or anyone for that matter )

You think he did not feel anything when the OPs body blocked his path?

Oh I call this out all the time! If you ever hear 'I'm short, not invisible, you great doylem' being bellowed at a lump of a bloke, that'll be me.

I started playing Patriarchy Chicken a few years ago, it's fascinating. I've had blokes stop dead in front of me and look at me like I'm mad for not moving, and in all fairness I have had men that politely move out of the way with an embarrassed smile too, but they are few and far between.

I’d call out the teenaged girls who seem to exist in a permanent state of inattention in our town if I thought they’d even notice. I think middle-aged women are particularly invisible to them.

Nope I’m not suggesting that

He had already walked past the Op
He was “in a hurry”
He “ignored me”

So on the basis of that detail, I have fairly reasonably presumed he wouldn’t have necessarily realised someone shouting “what’s your problem?” Behind me that it was directed at him!

Are you suggesting that the man is assaulting women on such a regular basis that he did not realise he was being shouted at by the person he hit?

The OP said:
"what's the problem? Entrance not wide enough for you?"

So I would say that most people could work out what happened.

OP i note the man managed to not cross path with or barge into your teen son

Patriarchy chicken. And be aware that on the rare occasions a man changes his course (slightly) to get out of your way you're expected to be truly grateful and give fullsome thanks. I was called a cunt lately for not saying thank you when someone changed his course by a few inches so we didn't collide.

Good for you, the older I get the less I'm willing to put up with shit like this. I usually say something like 'Sorry, was I in your way there?'

Better still tell your son to get used to men being twats, and pray to god that he doesn’t become one.

Tell your son to get used to women telling men they're twats

Definitely but I think it’s been going on for a while. I remember as a (very slight in those days!) 25 year old moving to London, walking across the concourse at Victoria station and an absolutely huge man seemed to just plough straight into me before I could even think twice about it. Literally knocked me off my feet, but stared straight ahead and kept his pace. At the time I thought it must have been my fault but I know better now. And for Christ sake even if it was, you don’t knock a woman to the floor and carry on without a by your leave unless you are a complete cunt.

The other day a man was walking towards me. He (quite unnecessarily) moved over so he was in my direct path. I braced for it and kept my line.

I absolutely walloped into the side of him but didn't break my stride. He got all pissy and yelled after me, I ignored him. 100% he was expecting me to obligingly get out of his way, like women are conditioned to do.

This was the week after a man pushed past me (making contact) on a perfectly wide enough pavement and then spat a huge globule of phlegm right into my path.

Absolute wankers the pair of them.

YANBU. I get men barging me on a regular basis. Obviously they think I'm a soft touch and that I should be the one to move out of the way,because I'm physically disabled and getting on in years. Luckily I'm quite sturdily built so they often come off worse. 😂

He probably did it deliberately. There’s a craze among misogynistic cunts to shoulder barge women at the moment.

This is a thing apparently. Men barging into women in public, deliberately.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/womens_rights/5390561-men-are-pushing-women-over-in-the-street-as-a-trend?utm_campaign=thread&utm_medium=share

You did the right thing @Giraffe007

May not have been deliberate from him but it was certainly because he didn't care and wasn't bothered about hurting a woman he was walking past. Bog standard misogyny. I've definitely started calling it out more since hitting my 40s. Do not care anymore.

My friend and I decided when we hit 50 thet was the time to start calling people out for misdemeanours.

I walk in straight lines now too, after decades of skipping into brambles and off kerbs into busy traffic just so men didn't have to look where they were going. Lots of women have started to not accommodate men and I wonder if UK butsukari is a reaction to this.

I think we have to call it out, if it is in a public place, so safe to do so. Even if it just inconveniences a man by delaying him for a minute or two while you ask why he did it and if he was aware and did he do it on purpose. Just making it difficult for them to get away with it, whether intentional or not, is important.

How was OP passive aggressive?! She directly challenged the guy? Sarcastic and annoyed maybe but hardly passive aggressive lol

Also she isn’t rude, she had a human and non physical reaction to a man who just violently barged into her without apologising. So the rudeness is surely all his.

What would you have had the OP do?

I'd noticed this, and read a similar article. Now I play "misogyny chicken". When I see someone walking towards me, I hold my line. If we get close, I stop and stand still. Some men will say 'oops, sorry' and get out of the way. Most often a man will also stop, and look confused as I don't move out of his way. I just smile my sweet p/a middle-aged lady smile and wait until they move around me. Occasionally, they don't move or not enough enough and barge past.

My observations are that this is in contrast to walking towards a woman, when we are both so eager to get out of each other's way that we are doing that stupid embarassing dance on the pavement, both going one way, both going the other...

However the people on mobiles phones who are not looking up at any point. That is both sexes.

Patriarchy chicken innit