To call out a man for barging into me?

I used to always move out of the way every single time for people in an attempt to be polite- not just Men but Women and families/groups who rarely glanced my way never mind thanked me, even when I stepped into the road with cars coming to let pairs or groups pass!

I eventually got quite sick of this behaviour so now stick to the pavement, and the side I was originally walking on instead of moving for them and often keep my elbows out slightly to widen my stance, if they barge into me - they get an elbow sorry not sorry. Sometimes they still barge into me and I always say "rude" or similar.

People are so unaware, especially if you're a short petite build. I'm short but not bloody invisible although it seems like it at times.

OP, this sort of thing happens to me a lot and it makes me so fucking angry!

A couple of weeks ago I was in Asda, and a man who worked there came walking up the aisle with one of those cage trolley things, and smashed it hard into my trolley which then flung back into me and hurt my stomach. He had plenty of space around me to go but nope, he went into me. I got a half hearted ‘sorry’ and off he fucked.

And then earlier today, something similar. I’m on holiday currently and was on a sunbed with my eyes closed just relaxing and suddenly a huge whack to the back of my head. A man who works at the hotel was manoeuvring a parasol and stand around and whacked into the back of my sunbed. I didn’t even get an apology this time, he just laughed.

Then there’s the scores of men that just walk into me in shops as if I’m invisible.

@AnSolas her mother was asking for trouble apparently (WTAF)

Just to be clear here.

I can hit you (a stranger) in public and its your fault if I choose to hit someone you are with too?

Ok @VaseofViolets just seen that things not quite so straightforward for you so let’s leave it 💐

Why such hyperbole?

I’ve explained my position to you. If you don’t like it - I really dont care. Makes no odds to me. Nothing you’ve said has persuaded me to think differently.

Are you in the habit of confronting strangers? Perhaps you could explain why you think it’s a good idea.

When men don’t move out of the way for you, do you assume they’re misogynists? Or doing it on purpose because you’re a woman?

But you’d do the same thing, behave in exactly the same way, and think you’re somehow morally justified? Hmm.

Interesting that being a feminist apparently means just being a dick to people for no reason, just because they’re men. So glad I’m not one! 😄

she’s asking for trouble,

sweet Jesus that’s a sinister view you have there @VaseofViolets and I hope to high heaven you don’t have a daughter

You weren’t there
you were in another country
your son didn’t even tell you for a few days

Man punches son in face. He is to blame. 100%.

One of my favourite acts of micro-feminism is to not move out of the way for men aged between about 18 and 60.

I once called out a man in Tesco carpark who went out of his way to park his finished-with trolley in an empty parking space, as opposed to the trolley collection area the same distance away in the opposite direction.
"You know, trolleys don't go there."
I got a lot of spluttering and "mind your own business!" Idiot.

Well, we’re back where we started. I disagree. She had the ability to prevent this, and she didn’t. She’s incapable of understanding that people are often nasty and abusive, and she can’t ask people not to do things, or to do things differently - they won’t, they don’t care, and she’s asking for trouble, but she has to say something.

Good for you OP. I've had a bloke do the same thing when I've been walking my dog; he's done it a couple of times ( the same bloke!) Barrelling along the pavement as if I was invisible, I had no where to go on the pavement, and my dog lunged at him ( didn't bite him, but he got too close to us). Serve the knob right.

He swore after we'd gone past ( "F*ing dogs!!") So I turned and shouted "How about you give us some space, you knob!"

He must be a bit thick, as he's also parked his car as we were walking past, then ran up the path behind us to get past, with the same results. He acts like we're invisible.

He had to learn the hard way that we weren't! It seems to be a middle aged men thing where they either don't see you, or they do and just expect you to get out of their way. I make a point of not moving fir them. I will move for elderly, other women with prams/toddlers, people with dogs or the disabled. I'm just sick of male entitlement.

Maybe you should have said that

but even then

absolutely nothing warrants you blaming your
mother for fact that a lunatic punched your son in the face. Nothing

She did ask him, and it all went south, as these things usually do.

You carry on - ask people to stop playing their loud music, ask them to stop pushing you, whatever it may be - go ahead and do it, as long as you’re aware that there are antisocial, violent people out there who won’t want to hear it.

I don’t think it says much for your sense of self-preservation, but you do you.

No, they really won’t be looking at him. They won’t have seen the barge. If you are going to call him out, shouting out in public is not really the way to do it.

you said she asked a man to stop barging her in your initial post. Only now did she create drama

But even if she did…. A man punched your son in the face.

So fucked up how you view your mum as “completely” to blame

My mother was stupid and reckless. Why are you trying so hard to defend her?

You carry on ‘speaking up’ if you want to. Others have a better sense of self-preservation and don’t particularly care for the barrage of swearing or threats of violence that can result. There’s no way of knowing how people will respond. It’s better not to find out.

So now she was mouthing off and creating a scene? In your post you said literally all she did was to ask him to stop barging in to her!

All my sympathy is with your son
but zero blame on your poor mum for simply asking a man to stop barging in to her

I hope you kept the fact that you think she was absolutely and completely wrong to yourself. Sadly, I suspect not

Just let it go, this is tiresome now.

She was in the wrong, and I don’t feel sorry for her. All my sympathy is with my son who she put in the firing line. She should have kept quiet instead of mouthing off and creating a scene as she always does. She’s embarrassing to be around and frankly a liability to herself and others. Good for her you say, for putting herself and others in danger of physical harm? 🙄

Not sure I’d be littering my posts about my son being punched in the face with laughing emojis. Each to their own. Although I suppose I understand now why he didn’t tell his mother about the assault until days later. Probably worried she’d dissolve in to giggles

I don’t imagine you care what anyone thinks of you. Your poor mum. But good on her for asking the man barging in to her, to stop.

Lucky I don’t give a tinker’s what you think then 😄

She was absolutely and completely in the wrong.

I’m with all the other posters

just 😮

Oh, so you didn’t get it quite correct in your re-telling.