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To have moved her baby?

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EllyRoff · 20/08/2025 12:36

In asda this morning. Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants. She has parked her trolly - with baby in it - across the freezer so nobody else can get in it. I didn’t actually want to be in it but I did need the freezer next to it - which her trolly was also preventing from opening. I said “excuse me”. No response. I said it louder - no response. At this point an elderly woman came up behind her and tried to get in the freezer, around the trolly - no good - around the woman - woman positions herself in front of old woman. Old woman says “excuse me” - no response. She taps her on the shoulder - no response.

So - not willing to stand there like an absolute clown waiting for her to allow me access to the freezer I simply move her trolly gently out of the way. Suddenly she’s aware of the world around her and says “what are you doing??” I say “getting in to this freezer”. She says “you can’t just go moving someone’s baby!” (Hearing problems ruled out!!) I say “I tried to get your attention but you didn’t respond. Elderly woman then says “EXCUSE ME! I want to get in this freezer!” Woman blames ME for the delay saying I moved her baby 😂

WIBU to move the baby (inches!)

OP posts:
HappyNewTaxYear · 20/08/2025 13:03

Why do people think that ‘ignorant’ means ‘rude’?

Darragon · 20/08/2025 13:02

CurlewKate · 20/08/2025 12:45

I would have done the same- but your language suggests you may not have been as calm and measured as you suggest! Oh, and it doesn’t matter how old the other woman was.

Do you not think that, since time is linear, perhaps the language OP has used is a reflection of how she feels about the confrontation at the end rather than how she conducted herself earlier in proceedings?

nomas · 20/08/2025 13:01

HugoSpritzzz · 20/08/2025 12:43

How is that judgemental? Seriously?

if you're shopping, all you do is 'grab what you want.'

Op she says she wanted to 'get something' for herself.

OP says she 'just wanted' something.

But the other woman is describing as 'grabbing what she wants'.

'Grabbing what you want' implies greediness.

EllyRoff · 20/08/2025 12:53

tripleginandtonic · 20/08/2025 12:43

This. Be honest, you wanted to grab sonething from there too.

Nope, not on this occasion. I just wanted a Greek yogurt from the freezer next to it. I would maybe have had a Quick Look in if it hadn’t been blocked off but I wasn’t that bothered - I just wanted my yogurt

OP posts:
Evergreen21 · 20/08/2025 12:50

I don't think you did anything wrong She was ignorant and ignored two people trying to get her attention. She isn't hard of hearing and could have at least acknowledged you both. You moved the trolley a little, you didn't pick up her actual child and move them out of the way. Searching for bargains isn't an excuse to be unaware of your surroundings or using your voice.

CurlewKate · 20/08/2025 12:45

I would have done the same- but your language suggests you may not have been as calm and measured as you suggest! Oh, and it doesn’t matter how old the other woman was.

Burnout50 · 20/08/2025 12:44

nomas · 20/08/2025 12:41

Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants.

YABU for being judgemental about people buying reduced things.

🙄

ThreeColouredFeather · 20/08/2025 12:43

nomas · 20/08/2025 12:41

Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants.

YABU for being judgemental about people buying reduced things.

She’s not being judgmental, just factual and indicating she’s likely to be in there a lot longer than grabbing a single regular item.

HugoSpritzzz · 20/08/2025 12:43

nomas · 20/08/2025 12:41

Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants.

YABU for being judgemental about people buying reduced things.

How is that judgemental? Seriously?

if you're shopping, all you do is 'grab what you want.'

tripleginandtonic · 20/08/2025 12:43

nomas · 20/08/2025 12:41

Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants.

YABU for being judgemental about people buying reduced things.

This. Be honest, you wanted to grab sonething from there too.

EllyRoff · 20/08/2025 12:42

nomas · 20/08/2025 12:41

Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants.

YABU for being judgemental about people buying reduced things.

No im not, I often get stuff from the reduced freezer but I don’t practically sit in it and ensure nobody else can get near it.

OP posts:
Campingisnexttogodliness · 20/08/2025 12:42

Unless you removed the actual baby yanbu.. You moved a trolley.

Burnout50 · 20/08/2025 12:42

You didn't move the baby. You moved a shopping trolley. And removed an obstruction.

nomas · 20/08/2025 12:41

Woman has her head stuck in the reduced freezer grabbing everything she wants.

YABU for being judgemental about people buying reduced things.

Rainbowyogurt · 20/08/2025 12:40

As a mum to a small child YANBU

toomuchfaff · 20/08/2025 12:38

YANBU

Pure Ignorant.