AIBU to make my adult son’s lunchbox?

I still make my daughter’s packed lunch for work. She’s a little younger than your son, aged 18 but I just enjoy doing something nice for her so if you don’t mind doing it and he seems a lovely lad helping you at home then crack on! he’s your son you love him and nobody should be judging you for that.

what made you think the she should specify being what being good in relation to her son, that was not what she asked when she posted. She is obviously satisfied with the help she receives so it's irrelevant.
that made it clearer for you?

I think it's lovely. If he was expecting you to do everything for him it would be different but little acts showing your love and appreciation in these circumstances is great.

I get the impression that OP’s son is independent and would hate to be babied.

Sorry, Wasn't sure which post to 'react to' - some are perfectly normal, but a couple sound a bit unhinged tbh - I am happy to help my adult son in any way I can - and it is totally reciprocated. He works hard, always has since leaving college, eg 12 hour shifts, he pays his way, he does various stuff at home (eg gardening, taking my car for its service etc, which I hate doing) - I am, and always will be, his Mum (& I also work full time) and to think that I should be shamed by anyone if I offer to make him lunch, or help him out in any way I can, is just madness, whoever suggested this to you?. Where has the natural kindness in this world gone? You sound like you have a lovely relationship (long & lasting) with your son.🌹

I was just rereading this thread whilst waiting in a car park for a very long time . The other day DS17 made me a ham
Sandwich - I was beyond surprised as he doesn't usually do things like that - he didn't ask for anything either - when I thanked him and asked why he said "I was making one and thought you might like one as well " - it was lovely -

I did too when my DS25 had a job where he was in the office every day. If you have time and he doesn't, why wouldn't a mother? Do what you feel comfortable with and don't worry what others think.

its a nice gesture that I’m sure he appreciates. You sound like lovely people

It's a nice thing to do.

Who made you thread police?

The OP view is that he is good at helping. Her son , her assessment and is irrelevant to the issue she raised.

I think it’s lovely and makes you part of a team! I often make my school age DS a packed lunch (old enough to make his own and often does) and on those days, I’ll often make one for DH as well. DH never makes me a lunch, however I WFH and he probably does 80% of the cooking in our house so I don’t think a cheese butty every now and again is unreasonable 😂

No one else's business and it's a nice thing to do. Xx

I definitely would and I’d enjoy doing it too. My kids are adults and all hard working, responsible members of society. They do things for me and I do things for them. I enjoy helping them out.

One of those threads where you think one thing on reading the title, another having read the post. Nothing wrong, continue as is.

My mum made my lunches for work for years! I had a 1.5 hour commute to work, she worked 5 minutes from home. She used to get up the same time as me, make us both a tea and have a quick chat, then I got in the shower and got ready and she would make both our lunches. I don’t think there’s anything wrong in this if your son is nice to you and appreciates it.

I do this for my 20 year old.

Who gives a 💩 what anybody else thinks?

This notion that our children turn 18 and get left to do and deal with everything by themselves baffles me. My child will always be that, my child, regardless of age if I can make his life a little easier why would I?!

But why were you against OP making sandwiches for her son?

Equal shares doesn't necessarily mean splitting every task down the middle and everybody doing their own thing. Maybe in a house share, but in a family, ime, people help each other out. When my ds's were at home , they did what they could to help out. Whether that was cleaning , washing up, shopping, it all got done and everyone took a share. Whoever did the laundry , did everyone's clothes so that we weren't running the machine half empty. DH lives ironing, so that was his job. Everyone cooked. I made packed Lucas I was usually first one up and was doing mine anyway.
Now that both DC have left home, they both do all the cooking in their homes, as well as a fair share of all other tasks. One is a police officer and batch cooks on his rest days. I work so my DH does the childcare for our two dgc, aged 1 and 6. For us, family is about everyone doing what they can to keep it all running smoothly, I think my family succeeds in that aim and it sounds as though OP's family does too.

I think its completely normal. I lived at home til i was 25 and most days mam did everyone's packed lunch, because why exclude someone.

When I putting the washing in I did everyone's, when dad did the dishes he did everyone's. If DS pulls his weight with chores its fine if one of your contributions is packed lunches.

I make my sons when he's home from Uni and off to work, I make my daughters too and my husbands it's a nice way to show you care and something you enjoy doing - I'm sure it's thoroughly appreciated

The OP clearly stated that she lives with 3 males who do 95% of the household stuff. Should they do 100% or should she do the 5%. Clearly part of that is making a packed lunch that takes her minutes, she is able to do it, gives her a sense she is contributing and it gives her pleasure . She has raised a hard working young man, who does his fair share. She should be proud of him he sounds like great husband material. I'm sure he doesn't expect it or would complain if she didn't do it. Some of you really need to give your head a wobble and realise what team work is

You have read too much MN and gone down a "must be equal" rabbit hole.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with doing things out of love, because you want to, for family members.

You can see the family member works long hours and is very tired, but still pulls their weight around the home. Why wouldnt you do something, if you could, to make their lives easier?

I make my 22 year old ds a packed lunch. I don't even think twice about it tbh! He's just graduated and perfectly capable of doing it himself but it's not bother for me. He is helpful in lots of ways and has to get up at 5am for work.