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Was he in the wrong

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sandwichofsurprises · 20/08/2025 10:35

I was dropping my children off this morning to a friends house and as I turned into a road there was a car blocking the road, engine on just chatting to someone in their driveway.
The other side of the road was blocked with parked cars so I patiently waited behind him while he continued his conversation until eventually after about 10 minutes I gave a toot.
The man looked at me angrily screeched into a space and got out by the driver door called me a fuckimg slut, bitch and a few other things I didn’t hear while making hand gestures and then held his hand on the horn until I’d driven round the corner.
After I dropped the children off I drove back down the road and noted the car was still where it pulled in and the man was standing in the driveway still chatting and entering the house.
My husband is due home in a minute and wants a word with this man but before he does I just wondered if he was in the wrong blocking the road as ds seems to think he’s aloud to for 15 minutes before it is a problem but this man’s attitude implied he’d take however long he wanted.
All I can see online is about delivery drivers/workers right to block the road, not just chatting to people in the street.

I don’t want to send hubby round if he’s not really done anything wrong although I think he’d like a word anyway about the language in front of the children.

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squashyhat · 20/08/2025 11:03

Jesus - don't "send your hubby" to do anything. Yuk.

InMyOpenOnion · 20/08/2025 11:01

In the words of Eastenders "Just leave it" 😁. Honestly though, there is really no point instigating a further confrontation. It's over, he's an arsehole, move on.

PollyBell · 20/08/2025 10:58

I would have no problem standing up for myself if this was me i dont need my husband to stand up for me I am not a child, so if I cant see a need to do it myself why would my husband make a difference?

BitOutOfPractice · 20/08/2025 10:56

I’m not sure that you sending your dh round will make the slightest difference to this idiot’s attitude op. But good luck with it.

takealettermsjones · 20/08/2025 10:55

sandwichofsurprises · 20/08/2025 10:52

I think it’s just about showing him, it’s unacceptable to behave that way.
He was a man about 60 something and thought he could intimidate a woman from the comfort of his car with no repercussions when I’m sure if it was a 30 year old man (such as Dh) he’d have behaved differently.

Come on, we know your DH wants to intimidate him right back 🤣 I'm not saying I disagree with the impulse, I'd want to smack him upside his rude little head, but be serious, there's not going to be any enlightening come-to-Jesus conversation!

Edwardbear1 · 20/08/2025 10:55

You were very patient to wait 10mins before beeping!

what a nobhead he was.

sandwichofsurprises · 20/08/2025 10:54

TyneTeas · 20/08/2025 10:50

What is hoped to be achieved by your husband having a word?

Man was in the wrong but I would just leave it

I understand what you’re saying but that’s the attitude he is relying on.

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sandwichofsurprises · 20/08/2025 10:52

summersingsinme · 20/08/2025 10:45

He was wrong to block the road (it's in violation of the highway code I think) and he was very wrong to react the way he did when you beeped.

I am not sure what good your husband will do though, what is it he wants to get out of a confrontation? If the man blocking the road isn't a neighbour/someone you are likely to encounter again, it probably isn't worth the hassle.

I think it’s just about showing him, it’s unacceptable to behave that way.
He was a man about 60 something and thought he could intimidate a woman from the comfort of his car with no repercussions when I’m sure if it was a 30 year old man (such as Dh) he’d have behaved differently.

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TyneTeas · 20/08/2025 10:50

What is hoped to be achieved by your husband having a word?

Man was in the wrong but I would just leave it

sandwichofsurprises · 20/08/2025 10:46

I think he’ll be fine, husband is quite diplomatic and he wouldn’t become violent.

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summersingsinme · 20/08/2025 10:45

He was wrong to block the road (it's in violation of the highway code I think) and he was very wrong to react the way he did when you beeped.

I am not sure what good your husband will do though, what is it he wants to get out of a confrontation? If the man blocking the road isn't a neighbour/someone you are likely to encounter again, it probably isn't worth the hassle.

Campingisnexttogodliness · 20/08/2025 10:37

He was a cunt..
You weren't.
Not sure your dh will be OK approaching such a neanderthal....