Was he in the wrong

He was totally in the wrong but he sounds unhinged and I wouldn’t want to send my DH over there at the risk of being attacked. People are crazy and this situation could really escalate. He’s a dick.

100 percent this.

Sexist not Exist flippin autocorrect

It might do. Sometimes thats the only language that exist morons like him will understand.

Why on earth would you think he hadn’t done anything wrong?!

The man is abusive and unhinged. Unless your husband is self-possessed but physically enormous, I’m not sure he’ll get anywhere, so maybe just log it with the police.

Oh yes, and nothing screams “fuck the patriarchy” like sending your husband to speak for you eh 🤣

If you issue someone with a perfectly doable and reasonable request in a public place and they respond by launching a tirade of intimidating language, it can be quite scary, to the point of you asking yourself if you caused it yourself. This is the nature of intimidation. You end up forgetting who is actually in the wrong.

I completely get needing to air that question on here. It's verbal abuse designed to subjugate, and the first stage of that is doubting your own innocence. Especially in something as black and white as this.

I think it’s disingenuous to imply that your husband is going to have a calm, polite conversation with the man in an effort to improve his manners. He will be going there with the intention of making him feel as intimidated as you did. Unfortunately, when putting a thug in that position there’s always a chance they will stick a knife in you.

The moment has passed. It was unpleasant but you were safe. Let it go.

Another hard man, taking on a woman. He certainly was in the wrong- arrogant pig.

There is no way you waited ten full minutes 😆

I can't get past someone waiting 10 minutes before you beeped. 10 whole minutes???
I live in Spain, you're lucky if someone waits 10 seconds before blasting the horn .

I think you're getting a hard time here about you DH going around. This absolute twat took total advantage of you being a woman with kids to rant and rave at you. He would never, ever have behaved like that towards a man and I completely get your thinking about confronting him.

However, you must be prepared for the possibility it doesn't go as you think it will.
I hope it does though.
I hope you get a craven apology from this knob.

You know what society needs and is demanding? That MEN speak out to other MEN about the terrible misogynistic behaviours MEN perpetrate towards women.

Because it is a man problem. And until good men speak out about and to the shit men, men will continue thinking it’s ok because they ain’t going to listen to women. Because as we have already identified, they hate women.

THAT is exactly what the OPs dh should be doing and that is what everyone is shouting for.

except you

Surely you must already know that he was in the wrong for blocking the road for ages and then swearing at you. Why on earth would you need validation from Mumsnet for that?

And achieve what? Willy waving won't change the man's attitude.

How about you both see him together.
You say your piece.
He will not react in the same way.
And you'll all be aware of why.
The shame and the lesson will be his.

But all this man is going to think is really how pathetic you are that you ran to your husband to fight your battle- that’s the point.

He’s not going to go “oh I shouldn’t do that”, he doesn’t care about a chat about his behaviour, he’s just going to be laughing about how even as a grown woman you’ve gone running to you husband as if you’re a child

You were only being unreasonable to wait ten minutes. I had a similar situation, guy blocking our cul-de-sac with a small flatbed truck, it's one way round, could have pulled into the side (there was ample space) but chose to block the highway and sit in the road. At first I thought he was picking a mate up and could only be 30 seconds. When no-one appeared for two minutes, I gently bipped the horn to let him know I was there. He pulled over, but I got a barage of abuse through his open window. I was going to an appointment and didn't have all day!

10 mins hmmmm.

If your husband goes round to this man’s house and things kick off the police will say your husband is in the wrong and was inciting violence which he is

No way would I have managed to wait that long. I would have beeped after 1 minute. Especially if I knew he was aware I was waiting for him. Entitled twat.

Right, but what if Angry Man gets aggressive, your DH "handles himself" as you say, and then Angry Man claims he did?

There are multiple ways this can go wrong.

What a man like that needs is a good battering.

However, I'd report him to the police and tell them you were intimidated and fearing for your and your children's safety. Let them have a word with him.

"This much stronger, fitter, younger man just came to my door and attacked me, a meek pensioner, officer"

This is a silly idea.