Was he in the wrong

If this were my wife's story I'd have been around there right away to talk to him. Not acceptable, and I'm sure he'd not have tried it with me. He's just happy to bully women. Sadly, he's probably long gone since it doesn't sound like he lives there.

Almost all people would move put theway as quick as possible if they were blocking someone. I'm not aware of any Highway Code requirement. You were very patient and he was completely out of order to be rude but I don't think I'd be sending my DH round..

I’m finding the OP a bit odd and contradictory.

Having to ask whether the man was in the wrong is odd. Of course he was! And blocking the road was the least of it.

Being so keen that he shouldn’t get away with it but at the same time doing nothing at the time, in fact having the patience to sit for 10 minutes, that’s ages. I get that he sounds like you wouldn’t want a confrontation, but then again you think it’s a good idea for DH to approach him? You realise that being a man doesn’t protect a person against very serious violence, in fact with some individuals it can invite it!

I think you should have called the police at the time. His behaviour was criminal (just).

@sandwichofsurprisesHow did your DH get on with the dick head?
For what it’s worth, I think your DH is right to talk to this man.

Why is your H going round?
Deal with it yourself or don't bother at all

there was a car blocking the road, engine on just chatting to someone in their driveway.

Does the rude guy actually live there or was he driving by the house, saw someone he knows who lives at the house and pulled his car up to talk to the homeowner?

That’s how it would look. If the old guy decides to attack DH will DH just stand there, walk away or hit back? If he retaliates in any way DH would probably come off worse as he’s gone out of his way to the guys house to have a word with him

Of course he was inconsiderate to be blocking the road and the screaming was far worse. What an overemotional prick.

But I've read your responses and still think your DH going to try to talk to him is ridiculously pointless unless this is someone you expect to interact with again.

You keep saying he was intimidating you because you were a woman and you don't think he should get away with it, but he didn't actually intimidate you into or out of doing anything - he moved out of your way and then screamed his out of control feelings at you like an overgrown toddler as you drove off to where you were going anyways. Then you drove home as normal. His behavior was completely unacceptable but you handled it correctly in the moment - it didn't matter how big you are or what's between your legs, the right response was to keep driving away and thinking "what a rancid clown". There's no corrective ongoing problem to solve here and he isn't going to feel bad or uncomfortable or apologize when your DH goes to confront him "man to man", he's going to tell him to fuck off. Just move on and turn your attention to talking the event through with your DC.

Another good reason to have a dash cam...

Haven’t RTFT so someone else may have mentioned this, but this is potentially a police matter. His behaviour sounds very aggressive and intimidating. When something similar happened to me about ten years ago, I got his reg number and reported it to the police. They spoke to him about his behaviour and updated me afterwards. If you know who he is/have his reg, could you do the same?

Me too.

His behaviour is unacceptable and he needs pulling up about it. Sounds like your husbamd is just the right person to do it.

You were not in the wrong and I wiildnt have waited 10 minutes. I wiuld be beeping him to shift his arse within a couple of minutes. I also have 4 sons who are over 6 foot who would make sure he didnt do it again

I’m guessing you didn’t actually wait 10 minutes. But in any case, the guy is a dick. Proably just discussing where to paint a red cross somewhere. Sounds like a racist reform voter.

Your sneering at OP is quite disgusting.

The man is a bully and quite possibly a threat to her physically. Yes in a fair world she could go and address him herself but it would be irresponsible in terms of her physical safety.

Why shouldn't her DH go around and state the obvious; his own children were in that car and witnessed this aggressive tirade.

Another vile, entitled man, however I would be concerned at your husband going round to talk to him simply because he is a thug and could become violent. There was a terrible incident where one driver thought another had cut him up, so he got out of his car and stabbed to death the innocent driver.

To be fair he is an aggressive pig and he will never accept what he did was wrong. My dh is a driving instructor and some of the crap he and his learners get from people like this poor excuse for a man is just vile. I totally get the need to have a word with him but he sounds unstable at the very least.

The time to do it was when it happened. As others have said this guy isn’t normal. That’s not a normal reaction.

So DH goes round and says something, then it starts a campaign of retaliation. It’s a huge risk I wouldn’t be willing to take just so you can feel better that this man has been told.

People like him don’t follow normal societal rules.

I cannot believe you would consider continuing this confrontation.

It was done and dusted this morning. Move on.

What happens when the old man's son isn't happy with your DH and comes and knocks on your door? Or reports your DH for bullying an old man?

I really don't understand what you want to achieve. He's either realised he was a dick already or he will be a dick forever.

A man who behaved as this man did is not going "to think twice" before doing so again, based on your DH having "a word" and you are being rather naieve to believe that he will. I suspect your DH is planning on being a little more forceful thsn he is telling you.

Overweight and 60 vs your husband a fit younger person means nothing.

I know of an overweight 70 year old bloke who would be able to more than handle himself and would take great pleasure in it, Monty our local headbanger that many people keep away from and those that haven’t, don’t go back for round 2, no matter how hard they think they are.

I’ve got no problem with your hubby going round. I’d advise sticking your phone notes on record the conversation though.

Let your husband speak to him, I’d feel the same way. My husband is 6’ 3” and built like a brick shit house. He spoke to you like that to intimidate you, let him have a taste of his own medicine, the wanker.

I can’t believe you waited 10 minutes? I’d have given him 30 seconds if I was feeling generous.

I’d send him round, why not? Mumsnet is so weird about this kind of thing.