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Found this bloody weird note….

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Radicalpiloti · 20/08/2025 00:04

Bit of a strange one. I finally got around to emptying my son’s schoolbag and amongst the utter rubbish (including a Batman figurine he insists isn’t his!) there was an envelope tucked inside with just “For You” written on it.

Inside was a list of instructions. Things like:

  • “Don’t forget to lock the back door at night.”
  • “Children should never sit on cold floors.”
  • “The blue cup is for milk, not juice.”
  • “Be careful who you trust with secrets.”

I asked DC where it came from and he just shrugged and said, dunno. Asked on my parent friends WhatsApp and they had no idea.

DH says I’m being dramatic and it’s probably nothing, but I feel really weird about it

i don’t even know what I’m asking but, wtf!

OP posts:
IwanttotakeyoutoaNailaBar · 23/08/2025 18:13

NRTF Just a list of “things parents say to kids”.
Probably a group discussion in a lesson .

TheMerryCritic · 23/08/2025 18:09

Honestly? At ten years old both my sons would have found it ‘bloody weird’ if I was opening and reading notes in their bags without asking them first

MellersSmellers · 22/08/2025 11:44

Possibly from the mum of the child who owned the batman figure, who popped both in the wrong school bag.
So there's a weird parent at the school.....

Laurmolonlabe · 22/08/2025 09:30

No one "needs" privacy but if you want a decent relationship with someone it is essential, why not clone their phone and take their bedroom door off after riffling the school bag?

anon666 · 22/08/2025 08:22

I'd suspect it some creepy prank the kids are playing on each other. But yes - weird.

CoolPlayer · 21/08/2025 23:41

I can’t remember the details now but this has made me remember a time I found a note in some of my stuff and had no idea how it ended up in my stuff I came to the conclusion it must of fell out of a library book or something like that because it definitely wasn’t mine! Could just be something like that, wouldn’t hurt to take it to school with you and just ask his teacher if she/he has any clues x

Bridgetjonesheart · 21/08/2025 23:33

Is this a wind up? Clickbait? I hope he is not being mistreated by someone. Sorry to put that in your head. It’s extremely odd. Unless someone with dementia has planted it in his bag whilst on the bus. I’d be probing if I were you. I’m not thinking creepy horror film, I’m thinking real life groomer pdfile type stuff.

GrumblyHedge · 21/08/2025 23:23

eastegg · 21/08/2025 23:19

You might be right that there’s not much to this, but MYOB is an extremely strange tone to take with a mother worried about her own 10 year old child. The note is in her own child’s bag.

100% agree. I think it’s concerning and quite creepy advice to be honest. Who TF tells a mother to mind their own business about their own young child with anything even approaching good intentions.

eastegg · 21/08/2025 23:19

IridiumSky · 20/08/2025 00:39

Typical kids’ games.

Mind your own business, and stop worrying about nothing.

Leave the poor boy alone.

And put the Batman figure back.

You might be right that there’s not much to this, but MYOB is an extremely strange tone to take with a mother worried about her own 10 year old child. The note is in her own child’s bag.

GrumblyHedge · 21/08/2025 23:10

Laurmolonlabe · 21/08/2025 23:02

If he's 10 and not massively young for his age, what are you going through his school bag for? I would have taken this as a huge invasion of my privacy at this age- quizzing him on items is not likely to make him open up.
I think you need to relax a bit and let him develop into his own person- rather than allowing him no private life or thoughts- you think the stuff is weird, but being so controlling is likely to make that much worse.

Aside from physical, 10 year olds do not need privacy. I find it more of an issue when it’s suggested they do, particularly in today’s world.

Laurmolonlabe · 21/08/2025 23:02

If he's 10 and not massively young for his age, what are you going through his school bag for? I would have taken this as a huge invasion of my privacy at this age- quizzing him on items is not likely to make him open up.
I think you need to relax a bit and let him develop into his own person- rather than allowing him no private life or thoughts- you think the stuff is weird, but being so controlling is likely to make that much worse.

Vinted24 · 21/08/2025 22:50

Maybe a more innocent explanation is that the kids had to do a written piece on advice vs instruction?

Such as 'kids write down 5 pieces of advice. Now turn that advice into an instruction'.

I remember doing something similar in school. Ours was on advice with the sun - then turn it into instruction. I remember it because I won a class award for the piece I wrote.

Maybe if that class was a week or so ago and this belonged to another kid but got in his bag he wouldn't put 2 and 2 together?

pollymere · 21/08/2025 22:48

It strikes me as one of those deliberately creepy things kids in KS2/3 like writing to each other. It probably isn't his. It probably fell on the floor and someone has inadvertently put it in his bag.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 21/08/2025 22:37

Richtea1234 · 21/08/2025 20:20

Is it an adults handwriting?

Some 10 year olds have excellent handwriting, better than some adults.
Makes sense it is roblox.

FunMustard · 21/08/2025 22:33

They read like the sort of sentences Duolingo offers up.

I get why you're confused but I'm confused why you think there's something nefarious going on. Your son doesn't know what it is, or if he does, it's not important enough for him to have got the thing out of his bag in four weeks.

LizzieW1969 · 21/08/2025 22:14

expresslylee · 21/08/2025 21:27

A quote from a Guardian article from april 2025, which highlights disturbing dangers of Roblox:

"Despite new tools launched last week aimed at giving parents more control over their children’s accounts, the researchers concluded: “Safety controls that exist are limited in their effectiveness and there are still significant risks for children on the platform.”

The report found that children as young as five were able to communicate with adults while playing games on the platform, and found examples of adults and children interacting with no effective age verification. This was despite Roblox changing its settings last November so that accounts listed as belonging to under-13s can no longer directly message others outside of games or experiences, instead having access only to public broadcast messages.

The report also found the avatar belonging to the 10-year-old’s account could access “highly suggestive environments”. These included a hotel space where they could view a female avatar wearing fishnet stockings gyrating on a bed and other avatars lying on top of each other in sexually suggestive poses, and a public bathroom space where characters were urinating and avatars could choose fetish accessories to dress up in"

There is also the open chat risk if children are playing in secret/without supervision.

Edited

That’s true, as I found out a few years ago. It was just after my DDs had discovered Roblox. I’d had no idea initially that there was a chatroom on the site, but I then discovered that DD2 (then 8) was being groomed by adults posing as children. Thankfully she mentioned ‘online boyfriends’ to me, which alerted me to what was going on.

expresslylee · 21/08/2025 21:48

JackGrealishsBobbySocks · 21/08/2025 21:34

Well done to the person who tracked it down to Roblox specifically. I had forgotten that bloody game. If we had asked our own pre-teens, we possibly would have had the answer sooner.

Hopefully OP's overwrought mind is at ease.

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JackGrealishsBobbySocks · 21/08/2025 21:34

Well done to the person who tracked it down to Roblox specifically. I had forgotten that bloody game. If we had asked our own pre-teens, we possibly would have had the answer sooner.

Hopefully OP's overwrought mind is at ease.

expresslylee · 21/08/2025 21:29

expresslylee · 21/08/2025 21:15

I think some of the posts here are helpful, but some incredibly unhelpful. Parents generally know their kids best, and if something feels wrong it is usually wrong - the parent generally gets it right in my experience. Call it mother's intuition. And the only way to find out what is wrong is to talk, and reassure.

The mocking here and side tracking into people's views about Enid Blyton's character's names (which surely the same group here could chat about on on of the endless other threads they dominate) is incredibly irritating and could do some real damage if anyone outside their group listened to them.

@Radicalpiloti I hope that you can ignore the unhelpful comments, and I hope the situation comes clear.

Edited

*on one of
not on on of

expresslylee · 21/08/2025 21:27

Moonlightdust · 21/08/2025 20:54

Ah that makes sense. A lot of the other phrases could relate to Roblox such as locking doors at night so other players don’t come into your virtual house!

A quote from a Guardian article from april 2025, which highlights disturbing dangers of Roblox:

"Despite new tools launched last week aimed at giving parents more control over their children’s accounts, the researchers concluded: “Safety controls that exist are limited in their effectiveness and there are still significant risks for children on the platform.”

The report found that children as young as five were able to communicate with adults while playing games on the platform, and found examples of adults and children interacting with no effective age verification. This was despite Roblox changing its settings last November so that accounts listed as belonging to under-13s can no longer directly message others outside of games or experiences, instead having access only to public broadcast messages.

The report also found the avatar belonging to the 10-year-old’s account could access “highly suggestive environments”. These included a hotel space where they could view a female avatar wearing fishnet stockings gyrating on a bed and other avatars lying on top of each other in sexually suggestive poses, and a public bathroom space where characters were urinating and avatars could choose fetish accessories to dress up in"

There is also the open chat risk if children are playing in secret/without supervision.

SunDash · 21/08/2025 21:22

The realm of the unexplained. I wouldnt sweat it too much.

WinniePrules · 21/08/2025 21:16

Looks like an extract from English homework to.me: fill in the missing punctuation or underline nouns.

expresslylee · 21/08/2025 21:15

I think some of the posts here are helpful, but some incredibly unhelpful. Parents generally know their kids best, and if something feels wrong it is usually wrong - the parent generally gets it right in my experience. Call it mother's intuition. And the only way to find out what is wrong is to talk, and reassure.

The mocking here and side tracking into people's views about Enid Blyton's character's names (which surely the same group here could chat about on on of the endless other threads they dominate) is incredibly irritating and could do some real damage if anyone outside their group listened to them.

@Radicalpiloti I hope that you can ignore the unhelpful comments, and I hope the situation comes clear.

Moonlightdust · 21/08/2025 20:54

Welcome2thecircus · 21/08/2025 19:43

Does he play Roblox by any chance?

Ah that makes sense. A lot of the other phrases could relate to Roblox such as locking doors at night so other players don’t come into your virtual house!

Richtea1234 · 21/08/2025 20:20

Is it an adults handwriting?

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