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AIBU that DP took the key so we couldn’t go out?

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WhatJustHappened9 · 19/08/2025 21:04

Im on holiday with DP and my 2 DC from previous relationship. We are in a country visiting family and staying at a villa. DP has been in a shitty mood all day, snapping at most things I say. Me and DC had a snack at about 5.30, DP didn’t want anything. At just after 7, he said he was going for food with his relative, were we going? I just said no. I said no to him as we’d not long since eaten so didn’t want something right now, and to be honest, I didn’t want to be around his shitty mood, it’s best to just leave him be with it.

It got to about 8.30 and DC said they were hungry. No probs, we will go and grab something. But I couldn’t find the key. Messaged DP, no answer, then phoned him, no answer, then I got a message to say he had the key because how else was he going to get in the villa if we decided to go out?! (I read it like I was being a bit dumb asking because it was so obvious)
Erm, by me leaving the key in the key safe if we were to go out.

He said it was fine for me to go out as I could just pull the door to lock it. My response was well if you’re not back before us, how are me and DC going to get back in?!

We wouldn’t be going far (on foot) so wouldn’t be long. It’s now almost 11 and he’s not back and not said how long so I’m glad I didn’t just go out like I said. I managed to get a takeaway to sort the food situation, but AIBU to be pissed off that he took the key with little to no regards for us?

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PoshDuckQuarkQuark · 19/08/2025 21:08

The two of you need to communicate.

He probably took the key without thinking. He should have brought the key back much earlier.

How old are are your DC?

Zempy · 19/08/2025 21:08

He’s an arsehole. Dump him when you get back. Who does that to kids?

HappySummerDays · 19/08/2025 21:06

He sounds like a prick. Is he usually like this? What age are your kids?

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