Are there benefits to waiting for months before you have sex?

I think it was best from a societal point of view, to wait until marriage. At the end of the day that's what it was for, and if you deviated from that you were shamed in social circles, which worked pretty well for as long as it was the case.

So many women are that promiscuous nowadays that if a girl wants to wait until they're ready, the man won't stand for this as there are so many other options for him to get casual sex where he pleases.

This makes it so difficult, for women who want to protect their virginity and find a good partner and also for men, who want, for want of better word, a woman that hasn't been ran through by various men.

Ive waited a couple of months- sex was very one- sided . It was doul destroying but stupidly we were together 2 and a half years. In 2nd relationship we slept together first face to face meeting. We had been communicating for 3 weeks before we met. I was curious about what sex could be like. We went on to have a fulfilling relationship for 2 years. If I decided to date again I would probably have sex sooner rather than later

I hold off, give them something to come back for.
Any one night stand I had, came back for more and therefore I ended up never having a ons

I'm not young any more either, but honestly there was nothing better than being out, pissed up, meeting a hot guy and that whole excitement of sleeping with them.

I’m an older woman, but I can’t think of anything more grim than hopping into bed with someone I barely know.

This.

I lost my virginity to a guy who I’d been fairly routinely meeting up with on nights out, over a period of a couple of months. Funnily enough, never happened again after that. Was just a delayed ONS and turns out he liked the “chase,” the challenge, whatever.

I’ve got no resentment about that. It’s just sex. Have it, see if they stick around, if they do.. have it again!

Sorry, typos. Should have said ‘UNLESS you don’t actually want sex’ and ‘TOO big a risk’.

I've pretty much always had sex the first time, including with DH. Can't think of any benefits to waiting months.

2nd time I met DH. Got to try before you buy!

I doubt he didn’t have sex for 6 months

First night we met, still together 20 odd years and still have a great time.

I’ve always fucked on a first date. Been with dh 14 years now.

Exactly. Having sex early weeds out wankers as well as guys who are dreadful/selfish/lazy/inept in bed. It’s a useful part of early dating.

Often read threads on here about an OP having sex on 2nd or 3rd date, then radio silence.
So often best hanging out a bit longer if you think someone maybe relationship material.

But if they will only stay with you because you played games and "waited", then best to find that out, and at least you get a fuck out of it.

Agree with this….

No benefits whatsoever (bless you don’t actually want sex, I suppose). Much to big a risk to fall for someone and then discover they’re dreadful in bed, have incompatible kinks, or are impotent. I always had sex as soon as possible when I was single and looking. It was useful as a way of weeding out the ones you didn’t want, quite apart from anything else.

Agreed.

Agreed

It depends on what you want/like. Personally, I’ve never liked having sex with people I don’t know well. But I know other people feel differently about it. It’s all good, so long as there’s no pressure either way.

Whatever works for you. I’m a third date girl but I wouldn’t criticise those who are trying them out on a first date or those who prefer to wait.

Well obviously he's going to say waiting made it better.

"Are you glad we waited?"

"Nah, makes no difference really. Makes you no better than the lovely ladies I spent time with before I met you who I also had crazy good sex with."

He sounds like a sexist pig, op. So, he liked you for being ‘a good girl’ who kept him waiting, whereas he was happy to fuck whoever would have him. Yuk. I don’t envy you.

Some men definitely will go on a date to have sex once and “collect their wings” (i.e have an experience they always wanted such as “shag a fat/ginger/black/asian/blonde/dwarf/much older/ much younger etc. chick).

But never want to date a woman like that seriously for whatever reason.
It’s not true that he will necessarily come back if he likes the sex or may stick around for sex and sex alone. Waiting for sex helps weed those men out if you want to weed them out.

Bit mysogynistic with all the good girl language, and very dated outlook. Can I ask gently are you both quite elderly now, that’s the sort of attitude you saw about half a century ago, well apart from wanting to tell everyone you had sex today which utterly made me cringe,

Weeks maybe, not months. Our sex drive was too high to wait months. Sexual compatibility is important too.