Are there benefits to waiting for months before you have sex?

My point is that you need to have had quite a lot of 'conquests' and a large variation to be able to clearly determine 'good sex' and 'bad sex'. I wouldn't say that's a good starting point for any relationship. Let's put the emotional toll it likely takes to one side for the moment. Rates of HPV amongst women is at an all time high of up to 50% which equals an increase in cervical cancer. Married women are the lowest group for cervical cancer for obvious reasons. Every new sexual partner you have sex with is a roll of the dice when it comes to contracting genital warts, herpes, syphilis, and more recently the highly contagious Monkey pox, which I believe will be an epidemic in this country before long. None of these diseases can be protected against with a condom. If these were the only issues with multiple sexual partners I'd say that's enough for me to consider it a negative thing to do. Whether you like it or because it's pleasurable is the most selfish, narcissistic response I've come to expect from such posters. Its not the values I'd associate with strong independant virtuous women. That would be obvious to most people I would expect.

If you delve in a bit deeper and look into the research done concerning prostitutes and sex workers, the results are very similar across countries that show 2 of every 3 prostitutes were abused by a father of father figure as child. It regognises to emotional trauma and negative mental health issues faced by these women and added that most of the factors that these women deal with day to day have a negative outcome whether that be drugs, shoplifting, abusive relationships, risky sexual behaviour etc. I only included prostitutes in this post due to the fact people don't see high numbers of sexual partners as a negative thing so I knew it wouldn't be taken in an offensive way.

Personally I believe there is nothing good or positive about women having multiple sexual partners and even the women who do it the best argument seems to be only 'that it feels good'. Other things with that descriptor include heroine and cocaine. I think it's clear where I'm going with this....

Yes because then she wouldn’t be a ‘good girl’ or get a man who thinks she’s ‘the one’ apparently, but it’s all good for dgs to sleep around.

Very weird attitude generally, really plays into the virgin/whore trope. Also a whole post just to brag that your DH still loves you because you played hard to get 40 years ago 🤔

My views as well

granny would be horrified

He’s probably lying. Not like 17 year old boys don’t talk sexual nonsense sometimes, is it.

Who on planet earth is talking to their grandma about porn as well. Absolutely no thank you.

I have a feeling that OP's reaction would be very different if he was a girl and claimed he had slept with 20 boys. Very different.

Why do his parents need to know he’s sexually active? He’s 17

yes sleeping with 20 woman at that age is a huge amount and not something to be proud of imo

eso if waited till 16 so 20 in a year and a bit

but as long as being careful that’s up to him

equally if you granddaughter said to you at same age she had slept with 20 men what would your response be

as you seem proud that grandson has done this as he’s good looking

....and did your sons and future daughters-in-law wait several months before they had sex? And did your sons choose their wives because they..... held back? And do your grandsons consider the girls they sleep with....? Or will they be binned?

You really really aren't like other girls OP.

A few of us. Though I knew dh as a friend before he was supposed to be a one night bunk lol

@Alicealig "There must be a logical reason for this" - it's called capitalism and patriarchy.

And then your gran chuckling, shrugging at his handsomeness and reminding him to use condoms.

The weirdest thing is telling your granny how many women you've shagged 🤮

Oh my god, @Alicealig . This, and your other comments, have utterly boggled my mind. Your fundamental disapproval of sexually active women is so strong that you’d even defend Tate before you’d allow a woman the ownership of her own body. You cite antiquated societal rules as though they had currency still.

The main thing that comes across is that you truly believe men and woman are meant to exist in opposition to each other, sworn enemies from birth and merging solely for the purpose of (married) procreation. Any sexual adventures beyond this are doomed by mutual hatred and mistrust.
There’s no suggestion of partnership, never mind actual harmonious equality, in your remarks and so I wonder is your software due for an update to, say, 1975. It’d be a start!

I think by waxing lyrical that the fact you didn't have sex early on makes you a "good girl", not like all the other girls, your handsome rakish husband preferred the special wait over the "quick shags" very heavily implies that the other women were not "good" by comparison.

I really think you need to work on your internalised misogyny.

"I'm not saying that those who have sex on meeting their partners early on are wrong" just that they're not "good" or special.

Apparently NLOGs exist into middle age.

Your attempt at humble bragging is rather... bizarre.

Let’s hope dgs is careful or he will be daddy and you a great granny @Ilovepastafortea

Haven’t read the whole thread, but anyone else had a failed one night stand? DH and I are still happy after 32 years.

35, so not sure if that qualifies as middle age? Definitely feel it!

I do also fall into the category of women who doesn’t mind some of the things you listed, so that might shape my risk assessment on those particular things.

im Puzzled by your reply to mine @Alicealig

bad sex is not good and for me , it ruins and destroys the relationship

Nah, fuck that. Why would you wait?

If the person is good in bed then great! 6 extra months of shagging. If not, you can find out and bin them.

I waited, oh, 2 days with DH.