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Are there benefits to waiting for months before you have sex?

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Ilovepastafortea · 19/08/2025 20:28

OK, I lay my cards on the table. Met DH in the early 1980's been married since 1988. Neither of us were virgins - him less so than me as he was a randy good-looking bloke. 😂

Never occurred to me to have sex on our first or even 6th date. Well, probably occurred to him, but I was 'good girl' & we first had sex after about 6 months together. He says that was the longest any girl had 'kept him waiting', but he always knew that I was 'the one' & rather liked it that I wasn't like other girlfriends he'd had who had sex on 1st or 2nd dates & the quick shags that he had. He always says that I was worth waiting for & the fact that I didn't have sex with him until I was sure of him made it all the better.

Just posting for opinions having only had sex with the same man for more than 40 years & still I love spending an afternoon in bed with him. He's the best & I love & fancy the very bones of that man. I'm one lucky woman. 😍

Guess what I've been doing today - that man still does it for me! 😉

OP posts:
ThatAmberBee · 19/08/2025 20:32

WickedElpheba · 19/08/2025 20:30

I was going to answer the question but then you've gone off on one about what you've been doing today and I don't see the relevance

Agree. I don’t see the point of this thread tbh.

And I don’t think OP is really as secure as she claims to be, quite a few things in her OP point this out and not least, the last sentence.

Danikm151 · 19/08/2025 20:32

There might be benefits but I couldn’t think of anything worse than waiting 6 months and realising they are terrible in bed and that side of things doesn’t work.

It’s like test driving a car- you wouldn’t buy it and let it sit on the drive for 6 months.

SisSuffragette · 19/08/2025 20:32

SpaceRaccoon · 19/08/2025 20:30

I liked to get the sex in as quickly as possible. DH and I had been together four days I think. Now married 15 years.

Yep agree with this

BlueJuniper94 · 19/08/2025 20:30

Of course there are.

SpaceRaccoon · 19/08/2025 20:30

I liked to get the sex in as quickly as possible. DH and I had been together four days I think. Now married 15 years.

WickedElpheba · 19/08/2025 20:30

I was going to answer the question but then you've gone off on one about what you've been doing today and I don't see the relevance