To feel so stressed about ds starting primary school in a couple of weeks

Is he safe and secure and feels loved? Then you've done just fine.

Honestly he will be fine. I work in reception and what you’re describing is quite normal.

Make sure you send a couple of changes of clothes with him just incase the staff need to help him change. If it’s anything like where I am we spend the first few weeks encouraging all children to go regularly anyway but mention it to the staff and they will remind him I’m sure.

The rest they will work in and you can support from home. I would suggest putting a keyring or something on his book bag so he knows it’s his.

Also - remember lots of reception kids have an odd wetting accident. If its s full puddle happening several times a day l totally unprompted thats a bigger worry, if its that hes leaving it late and ending up with a wet patch this is sooo common and is why primary classrooms stink of wee.

Did he go to nursery? If so then he probably knows more than you think, they do a lot of prep in the year before they start school.

Don't stress about letters and numbers. Loads don't know them. Do simple counting games, lets count your blueberries, here are four biscuits lets share them out between you and your sister, games with dice etc count the spots. Play eye spy to listen for the sounds at the start of words, watch alphablocks and number blocks on tv.

I would focus as much as possible on toileting or think about getting a Wobl watch (school should allow this) that vibrates to remind them to go - set for break and lunch to build habits of going then.

A lot of kids behave very differently in a school environment to a home one. The routine and the wanting to join in with peers can be useful motivators with toileting.

Yanbu but might get some unkind comments re toilet training

If it helps, op, I've been so proud to finally have my autistic dd(6) toilet trained. Today she pulled down her jeans and did a huge, non ending, wee wee in a sand pit 😭😭

Then screamed as I dragged her home 🙈🙈🙈

How i will ever show my face there again, i dont know!!

Youre doing fine and the school will understand. And seeing other children ask for the toilet will likely motivate him xx

Don't worry about numbers or letters...I don't think my DC recognised them when they started school...they won't be the only ones.

I'd spend the next couple of weeks working on the toileting though.

He will be fine! Try not to stress. I’d work on the toileting over the next few weeks but in terms of academic work let the school assess and then you can see where the gaps are.