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AIBU to stop posting and giving advice on mumsnet

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ItsSappingMyEnergy · 19/08/2025 16:20

I've been on mumsnet for years, and have name changed for this. I feel like recently I have given a lot of well received advice on various posts, only for them to seemingly go nowhere, no resolution, or real difference made in the end.
AIBU to just stop giving advice, I will still read posts, but I feel like we are all giving our advice and knowledge, which uses our time and energy, for nothing.
I don't personally know anyone on here, should I just save my energy for people i know in real life?
It's frustrating to invest in a thread that ends suddenly with no further information given on how things worked out.
I'm starting to think it isn't healthy at all, despite the fact I know some people really need help.

OP posts:
Original poster
ItsSappingMyEnergy · 19/08/2025 16:28

Maybe I need a break, I do hope things turn out well for people though.

OP posts:
MamaElephantMama · 19/08/2025 16:27

I think many posters only make posts to vent.

Original poster
ItsSappingMyEnergy · 19/08/2025 16:27

Moveoverdarlin · 19/08/2025 16:22

It’s annoying and frustrating when you don’t really know the ending. There was one recently where I wrote a lengthy post about how to deal with a situation. It got lots of likes and replies saying ‘this’ and then the OP never came back.

It was one where the OP was on holiday and her DH and her friend were leaving her behind to go running and paddle boarding.

I remember that one. I'm starting to feel like all I am doing is letting complete strangers vent at me, listen to my advice, then walk off like nothing happened. I wouldn't put up with it in real life.

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ComtesseDeSpair · 19/08/2025 16:26

If you’re investing and feeling as though you’re depleting your emotional and physical energy then yes. In any situation, only give as much of yourself as you don’t mind losing.

You can’t treat other people’s lives as novels or movies. People in difficult situations often don’t have the bandwidth to come back and update. Or life gets in the way and they forget. Or they get upset by some of the answers and duck out. That’s the internet. But, whilst the OP might not return to package everything up with a nice bow and provide a happy ending to the audience to round off their engagement nicely, there may well be plenty of other people just reading in the background with a similar situation who do find the advice helps them.

Moveoverdarlin · 19/08/2025 16:22

It’s annoying and frustrating when you don’t really know the ending. There was one recently where I wrote a lengthy post about how to deal with a situation. It got lots of likes and replies saying ‘this’ and then the OP never came back.

It was one where the OP was on holiday and her DH and her friend were leaving her behind to go running and paddle boarding.

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